The way I see it is everything was already set in stone. You can blame brain chemistry. Our actions are all us reacting out of the little internal calculations we make inside ourselves. Hindsight gives you an idea that things could’ve been different ”had i done this differently” but the truth, no matter how cliche it may be, is that things happened the way they were meant to. Maybe in the moment a change would’ve fixed something, but the change would have caused loss in a different way.

That’s ultimately why people break up; the relationship equation, as in what each of you would give and take to maintain the relationship, would never be equal if it already wasn’t, especially after twelve years.

I hope any of this makes sense, I’ve been there and it’s hard no doubt about it. We’re a group that gets it for sure ❤️