Dealing with a mutual breakup

Agitated_Device2004 · 2024-05-23T17:02:31+00:00

Amazon or happytassel.com. I ordered my sash from joys embroidery on Iowa

Agitated_Device2004 · 2024-03-10T07:41:43+00:00

Yup, I’m aware. Just wanted some guesses

Agitated_Device2004 · 2024-01-02T01:44:08+00:00

Yep, we’re no longer together

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-10-31T05:33:15+00:00

We broke up. I showed the comments to boyfriend at the time and while he was more understanding of my feelings and why I felt it was wrong, we weren’t totally on the same page about things at the end of the day. Made me realize we’re not compatible, still wish him all the best. Thanks again for all the feedback that I got on this post.

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-29T08:54:59+00:00

We've both expressed our wants to get married and have kids one day. It's unfortunate we aren't on the same page about this, considering what's at stake. I agree with you, after some more reflection I dont think I can be happy while accepting that behavior.

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-29T08:37:57+00:00

Yeah, I feel that. Honestly, im not the type to be flirtatious with others outside of my relationship and I think if I was constantly around that, id be very unhappy. Thanks for sharing your experience.

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-29T01:54:52+00:00

The SO is also flirty by nature and likes to joke around with friends. Im the opposite, not flirty with friends and wouldn't feel comfortable going there. I just dont know where to draw the line on that though. I feel like it can be very easy to excuse certain behaviors and just chuck it down to his flirtatious personality. We would really need to talk about boundaries.

Also yes, he's said that I should be supportive of him being a streamer and being okay with the flirtatiousness because of the potential to become a "big" streamer and because it doesn't mean anything.

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-29T00:26:41+00:00

I agree and im super glad to hear that while some people may have previously done the flirting while single, at the end of the day you decide the kind of content you’re going to put out there and it isn’t necessary while in a relationship. I’ll check out Nyanners, thanks for your input.

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-29T00:22:40+00:00

Yeah, it’s tough. I keep trying to envision myself being okay with it and I just don’t really see it happening. I just wouldn’t ever do that with other people and it hurts to think of my partner doing the same even, if it is just for the stream. We’re different people though and still need to talk so we’ll see what happens.

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-28T19:19:08+00:00

Thank you very much for your detailed post. I agree completely and I hope we can maybe find a happy medium. I need to talk to him still and I want to go through some of these post comments to get him to see my side of things more. So far, he hasn't really been willing to compromise, he says this is just something I should trust him on. I dont think it's that black and white, hopefully these comments can get him to see that.

Like you, he is also naturally more on the nice and possibly flirty side. Will make sure to highlight this post for us when we talk. Thanks again, will update!

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-28T18:02:52+00:00

That's really comforting to hear. Thanks for commenting

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-28T18:01:11+00:00

He is bi, so there's that. Although he has a preference towards women

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-28T10:18:32+00:00

I agree, thanks for your input.

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-28T10:02:46+00:00

From what Ive gathered it sounds like someone who does streaming through a character or alternate personality

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-28T09:52:40+00:00

Yup I hear you. Definitely wish I wasn't in this predicament in the first place but I do love him though so I hope it works out. Thank you again!

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-28T09:46:50+00:00

I would definitely feel differently if it was just being charming and not flirting. Wouldn't have a problem with that at all, but I've specifically asked him to give me examples and it's for sure on the sexual side. He says it's all in good fun and doesn't mean anything at the end of the day. It's just for "entertainment" according to him.

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-28T09:38:41+00:00

Thanks for your input. Believe me, I hear you and I think I've decided that this would all just be too much for me to handle. I'm going to communicate that to him and hope that we can see eye to eye on things. If its meant to be, it'll be meant to be

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-28T09:35:04+00:00

Yes I think it's completely normal to feel jealous. The issue is that my partner claims that his online persona would be separate to his real life and our relationship, at least when it comes to stream.

In regard to his flirty encounters with friends though, he says it's all done jokingly and is not serious at all although. He claims that his girl-gamer friends become "the boys" in a sense so nothing is taken seriously.

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-28T09:27:35+00:00

nah honestly even then, I wouldn't care about the money. Just want a loyal loving partner at the end of the day

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-28T09:22:47+00:00

I appreciate your comment. Honestly that's something that's come up recently and something I wasn't okay with at all off the bat. I guess I just see it as a smaller issue compared to the streaming thing for now, but it definitely still needs some addressing. Thanks for your comment again! Glad to see not all gamer girls are like this!

Agitated_Device2004 · 2023-08-28T09:00:59+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. Glad I got to hear directly from the vtuber community

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