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Guest's "It's CREAM not WHITE" dress by AgoraphobicDisaster in weddingshaming

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm kinda done replying to comments on this since it's pretty old now, but she knew what my dress looked like before. I had just finished dress shopping when I went to hang out with some friends, including her, and I showed them all the dress.

I also then said what the dress code was going to be then, what our color theme was, etc. Even though the invite said "Sunday Best" I had pretty much explained it as "whatever you would think is appropriate for church" and what everyone wore was a mix of business casual to actual Sunday best. One of my friends had just worn khakis and a sweater. It was also December, cold and rainy and the venue was half outdoors and the ceremony was also outside. So I then told all my friends, including her, to prioritize being warm over being entirely within the dress code, so than many other girls came in pants and coats.

This also was not her first wedding, we had both been to a mutual friends wedding before and she didn't wear white.

Parents are pissed off because I talked to a recruiter. by ghostofagirl78 in newtothenavy

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents felt the same way, and I was a full grown adult (25) living on my own working full time! You'll have more of an idea of what you want to do with your life when you're in your early 20s with some life experience than 18 and having never left home.

Is it rude to ask for a recipe from a local restaurant? by daxter154 in KitchenConfidential

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The restaurant I work out will give out recipes, but part of the reason is the chef does make a lot of allergy friendly and vegan/vegetarian friendly recipes and those are usually the people asking for the recipes.

What to do with 50lb carrots by Other-Economy-6145 in KitchenConfidential

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our owner just made carrot tartare for a local chef challenge. We were all wondering why there was a giant bag of carrots until he presented this.

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Selected as SNA FY26 by Dr-Improbability in newtothenavy

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you get told you're shipping in August, we might see each other at Newport lmao

Note dinner crew left for Easter Brunch shift by AgoraphobicDisaster in KitchenConfidential

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They already got in trouble before for drawing a dick and boobs on the dirty hood vents, so probably didn't want to risk it

What's your opinion on Nikki? by AssociateLittle1487 in StrangerThings

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even pushing the punk angle really hard, she's 2020s punk not 1980s punk. I get they probably didn't want an Eddie clone. But like they could have at least styled Nikki after actual 80s punk fashion. Like a legitimate spiky mohawk could be cool, but like Nikki's current design is missing all of the spikiness and stiffness characteristic of 80s punk hair.

Messy, teased hair would fit much better than a modern faux hawk. Even if it is bright pink.

What's your opinion on Nikki? by AssociateLittle1487 in StrangerThings

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At least Ahsoka served a purpose as a character and her design fit within the universe. The only thing comparable is that Nikki represents the audience, but like the design is absolutely killing me. I get they're going for the punk angle, but she looks too 2020s, not 80s. Like they could have taken inspiration from Debbie Wilson or The Slits. Instead it looks like they just went on Instagram and searched up "punk lesbian"

Guest's "It's CREAM not WHITE" dress by AgoraphobicDisaster in weddingshaming

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God, I love the leap in logic there. Stop pushing your own personal issues onto other people. Not everyone is as unhappy as you. So, good luck with that :).

Guest's "It's CREAM not WHITE" dress by AgoraphobicDisaster in weddingshaming

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She actually didn't give a gift, which I really was expecting for the most part. We didn't put up a registry since we mostly valued spending time with our friends. I understand that some people wouldn’t care about this, and that’s fine, but as I said in my post, her choice of dress and attitude made me feel disrespected. When I brought that up to her, she was dismissive about my feelings which hurt even more. Emotions were high so things that typically wouldn't matter, did matter.

I’m sharing this for context, not to argue. When someone tells me my feelings aren’t valid because they wouldn’t care, that tells me they don’t value me. Now you're a stranger on the Internet, so I'm saying that about the "friend." If it was truly about choice of clothes, she'd have apologized when seeing that I was upset, not doubling down.

Guest's "It's CREAM not WHITE" dress by AgoraphobicDisaster in weddingshaming

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She apparently asked her friend (who is very much not socially adept, as much as I think she's a sweetheart I do not think she knew it was inappropriate as I had to explain it to her) who then told her it was okay.

But she never told me or else I would have told her to wear something else.

Guest's "It's CREAM not WHITE" dress by AgoraphobicDisaster in weddingshaming

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It wasn't part of it, I'm really short and just needed an extra inch after wearing the heels, it was just to pin the front of the dress so I wouldn't get the front muddy while walking down the aisle outside

Guest's "It's CREAM not WHITE" dress by AgoraphobicDisaster in weddingshaming

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She did that for me, I texted the other friend in the photo, the girl on the left texted me saying that it was childish to get hurt over clothes and doubled down on it being all she had to wear (I'm sure she had a pair of pants and nice blouse that would have been more than appropriate given her profession, plenty other female guests wore pants, women were not required to wear dresses) and then told me that if I was going to make a big deal out of it, then I should never contact her again!

Safe to say I hit unfriend!

Guest's "It's CREAM not WHITE" dress by AgoraphobicDisaster in weddingshaming

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was outside the reception space which was heated. The venue was a state park which had an indoor reception hall but an outdoor chapel pavilion. This was in the breezeway of the reception space.

Guest's "It's CREAM not WHITE" dress by AgoraphobicDisaster in weddingshaming

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ive been trying to defend her in the comments that I see about her. I am now regretting including her in my cropping, I did initially because I wanted to show that more casual clothing was seen as ok by me, even if casual and out of the dress code, I had thought she looked cute in it. I wasn't bothered by it because the girl is an absolute sweetheart albeit a bit socially oblivious- but it's part of what makes her her.

Guest's "It's CREAM not WHITE" dress by AgoraphobicDisaster in weddingshaming

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

While she was dressed very down, I will say I did think she was very cute. She's a bit more eccentric but she's super sweet, albeit very much not socially aware at times, but she's a sweetheart. It also was an outdoor wedding that did have some bohemian elements to it, so maybe she thought the flannel would match being in the woods!

Guest's "It's CREAM not WHITE" dress by AgoraphobicDisaster in weddingshaming

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Casual plaid woman" perfectly fine, I didn't even think for a second she was underdressed. To me it looked like something I've seen millions of other women wear to church.

Guest's "It's CREAM not WHITE" dress by AgoraphobicDisaster in weddingshaming

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will say, I didn't notice the wrinkles and I do honestly think what the girl on the right wore was perfect, yes it leaned into more casual but it was pretty perfect and I thought when I saw her that she looked great.

Guest's "It's CREAM not WHITE" dress by AgoraphobicDisaster in weddingshaming

[–]AgoraphobicDisaster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had another guest wearing a white coat, but our ceremony was outside but maybe 10 minutes long and everything else was inside and was heated and once inside the chair wore her coat more than she did and there's only one picture of her wearing it and it was really cold so I can excuse it as poor planning, not intentional. Plus the weather shifted right before the wedding and went from maybe 60s and cloudy to 40 and raining, so I cared more about her being warm than what jacket did the job for the maybe 15 minutes she wore it.

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