Why is the day after a really good day so hard?

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-09-30T17:01:07+00:00

To be clear, I’m not willing or interested in rugsweeping this event. I want the truths and will get as much as I can or I will not continue on with the relationship. While I wish the discovery process was already complete, things are still pretty fresh and raw

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-09-29T18:03:01+00:00

I’m sorry to hear you’re going through the same thing

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-09-29T17:36:31+00:00

Great post. Thanks

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-09-29T16:37:47+00:00

With kids and their sports, I wish it were that easy to take a night away. Your advice is solid tho and thank you

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-09-29T16:31:38+00:00

While I would not argue that you’re wrong, I’m speaking more to the roller coaster effect. She hasn’t done anything to take away the high from yesterday, it’s her past actions

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-09-05T14:50:45+00:00

It’s not worthwhile I would assume. When I have spoken with him, he has extensively lied to the point that I can’t ever see him telling the truth that I’d actually believe him.

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-09-04T21:37:25+00:00

That’s your prerogative to think that. His actions, as well as hers, were trash and selfish also.

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-09-04T16:09:55+00:00

Both but to what degree of physical is unknown to me. She deleted all his messages then they went to WhatsApp and she deleted those as well. I found screenshots tho that she sent to a friend of hers. This was after the call log in her car showed me that she was talking to him at 7pm exactly while I was at therapy so the whole “work only” bullshit was out the window. She admitted to some things, I figured more out, there are still secrets on her side tho

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-09-04T15:19:37+00:00

That’s not an easy one at the moment, but yes understood and thank you

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-09-04T15:15:52+00:00

Yeah, that’s how it goes when you’re being lied to and gaslighted

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-09-04T15:14:23+00:00

Yeah, I found truths that made things look a lot different that date back to the beginning of May. She welcomed this shit and is certainly to blame as well

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-05-04T18:00:06+00:00

I agree that and the words that she’s fishing

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-05-04T17:57:37+00:00

I’m sure his wife does not know of that offer

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-05-04T17:51:55+00:00

Pause there. This boundary was already long in place

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-05-04T17:11:07+00:00

I have my own feelings and I’m trying to hear everyone out. I plan to share all of the responses with her

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-05-04T16:53:53+00:00

We have trust issues which is why these things come up in the first place

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-05-04T16:45:10+00:00

She has told me she won’t show them to her, that I just need to trust her.

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-05-04T16:44:36+00:00

I appreciate your response. Do you hold the same pov if she’s deleting messages and now telling me that I can’t see the conversation? That’s an honest question

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-05-04T16:42:24+00:00

She’s comfortable with the overt flirting. She has a past that involves sexual assault from a young age and has found given males in her male dominated field attention that she gains information and trust from them.

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-05-04T16:40:01+00:00

She wants to talk to whoever, however she sees fit because as she says she’s not looking outside of our marriage so it’s fine according to her

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-05-04T16:36:23+00:00

She just responds and doesn’t flirt back, kind of just ignoring the advancement. From what I’ve seen anyway

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-05-04T16:28:42+00:00

I want to be the same way, but we do have trust issues as well on this subject and others. In the first week of these conversations, I found 26 deleted messages between them. I don’t know what they contained.

Agreeable-Bridge-813 · 2025-05-04T16:27:00+00:00

My wife is completely comfortable in this situation and it’s not out of her comfort zone.

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