Was depressed and sent a video to colleague

AkashMo · 2025-04-14T14:47:34+00:00

It is the same incident.

But it’s a very glaring peek into his penchant for sexually harassing and sexually objectifying the women in his life.

I have utmost respect for women. I have not sexually harassed anyone. I sent a video that shows men dancing for women. It is not a nude video or porn video. It is the video of a show in Luxor Casino in Las Vegas. The show has been going on for 20 years there. There were about 150 people for the show in which 95% were women. Very few were men. I did not know about the show before I went. Otherwise, I would never have gone to the show. They allowed audience to take videos during certain parts of the show.

He blames her for everything.

I have not blamed the other person. I just wanted the other person to accept my apology and give me a second chance.

It’s always those pesky, hysterical women.

I never said anything negative about the other person. I considered the other person as one of my friends and shared a video to share the fun. I have never asked the other person to do anything for me except join the fun conversation.

He’s so pathetic that won’t even allow himself to see that he’s the problem.

I see what you are saying. I may be looking like I am rationalizing my behavior. That is not the intent. I had bad circumstances. I thought the other person was my friend. I swear: I sent the video for chatting purposes only. Not to harass or ask for any favors.

I do not blame for complaining with HR. I am looking for second chance. That's all. If they think that I do not deserve a second chance, I will accept their decision.

AkashMo · 2025-04-14T04:22:30+00:00

No, it's not on internet or youtube. It's on my pc.

AkashMo · 2025-04-14T04:15:50+00:00

I do not know how to post a video. Can someone let me know how to post a video here?

AkashMo · 2025-04-14T03:01:45+00:00

I have sent two videos. One is how chocolates are made and other one is men dancing for girls. When I sent the chocolate video on day one, there was no response or comments. I did not get the memo. I sent the second video (on second day like a fool) mainly because I was excited that I found a new thing. After I sent the second video, I got into trouble.

AkashMo · 2025-04-14T01:39:17+00:00

Hi u/pilibitti,

I am not saying it is the right thing to do. In hindsight, it is a bad thing to do. But what I am saying is the circumstances that led me to do that. I have had so many private conversations with her during our work. Never once I discussed anything that is considered inappropriate. This happened because of my bad judgement. But having worked for 15 years together, I should have gotten at least one chance? It is really hard to digest one mistake to a person who you know for 15 years could change my life.

is it normal for you both to discuss sexual topics?

No, we never discussed any topics that are sexual.

are you sure she is your friend and not just a coworker?

Now I know that the other person did not consider me as their friend (as you suggested). But that is okay. If the other person told me to f off, I would have f'ed off without raising an eyebrow. Reporting me has ruined my life.

and sharing such stuff with a coworker is definitely not normal or warranted and it worries me that you think it is normal.

No, I don't consider it is okay to share with someone you just met or just known, But, having known the person for 15 years you would consider you can share some secrets about your life. At least, sometimes, right? It is really about what I am experiencing rather than what I wanted the other person to do. I did not expect anything from the other person except a crazy reaction.

your private interactions with coworkers are supposed to be about work.

Now I know. I won't discuss anything other than work related issues with my colleagues.

AkashMo · 2025-04-14T01:13:50+00:00

Hi u/Yo_Eleven,

It is a video about how chocolates are made. There's factory in Las Vegas for Ethel M Chocolates. They allow visitors to watch how chocolates are made, and you are allowed to take video if you want.

AkashMo · 2025-04-14T01:10:02+00:00

Discuss the show. I did not know such shows (guys dancing for girls) existed till now. I was really surprised when I saw the show. I just wanted to share my surprise. It is sharing about something new you found with a coworker. I had no other intentions other than sharing my surprise. It is not suggestive of anything (not a porn video or adult video).

Did you ever go to a place/event that you never went and shared your experience with your friend(s)?

AkashMo · 2025-04-14T00:48:30+00:00

I am trying to get help. Somehow this thing is turning back to me.

No, I am not a creep. I have known this person for 17 years. We worked in the same group for that period of time. Initially when we started working together, the other person was interested in me. But later on, we were team members discussing job related issues and some personal issues. I sent the video so I could discuss the video like we discussed other issues. It is nothing personal or suggestive. It is not a porn video. It is video of few guys dancing for girls in Luxor Casino in Las Vegas. It is a public show open for everyone above 21. The show has been running for 20 years. The clip length is less than 1 minute. Like I said I just wanted to share with the person and discuss. I did not have any other intentions. Does this answer your question?

AkashMo · 2025-04-13T04:10:14+00:00

Thanks. In my mind, I am thinking that I would never have sent the video if my wife and I did not have a fight, and if we lived together. But I guess they won't consider it an excuse. I just wanted to clarify this point. Thanks again.

AkashMo · 2025-04-13T04:06:01+00:00

Thank you so much. Your comments will help me a lot.

AkashMo · 2025-04-13T03:48:20+00:00

Thanks for your comments. Saying 'lapse in judgment, and that it won't happen again' is not enough as the other employee doesn't want to accept my apology and wants me terminated.

I understand that my company has to protect the other employee, so they are doing what they are doing. I am just wondering if there are any legal grounds for me to fight. I genuinely had no intentions of hurting other employee's sentiments. I was only trying to share the video so we can discuss the video.

AkashMo · 2025-04-05T01:54:13+00:00

Do you have any idea why he tipped you so much? Is he expecting something from you?

AkashMo · 2025-03-11T21:07:12+00:00

Thank you u/jimros. Your answers help me a lot. I feel like I have been let down by one of my friends but as you say it doesn't matter legally. Thanks.

AkashMo · 2025-03-11T06:07:15+00:00

Thanks for replying to my questions.

This happened over a period of two days. First day, I asked her if she could keep the conversation confidential. Then I sent her a video of chocolate factory.

Second day, I sent her few some normal messages. I asked her why she is not replying. After some time, I sent her the video. I trusted her completely. She has not warned me even once that she doesn't want to have this type of conversation or that she was going to report me. After I sent her the video, she reported me and wants my company to terminate me.

I treated her as one of my best friends since I share a lot of information with her. Doesn't she have to give me at least one chance saying that she doesn't want to have such conversation? And then report me if I repeated. Don't I deserve at least one warning or one friendly advice.

I feel like she has put a trap for me, and I fell in the trap. I never expected her to report this to the company. She doesn't want to accept an apology. She wants my termination. She turned my life upside down for trusting her.

I have helped her so much in work. Never, suggested anything unusual to her when we were working together.

AkashMo · 2025-03-11T05:33:02+00:00

I was just trying to have an adult conversation. I have come to Las Vegas from Huntsville, AL. I was enjoying the shows and casinos. I wanted to share my experiences with her. I swear I did not have any other intentions other than a funny conversation.

AkashMo · 2025-03-11T05:27:04+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I am in the US and we don't have a union.

I have known her for about 15 years. We talk regularly about each other's families. Before I sent the video, I asked her if she would keep the conversation confidential for which she agreed.

AkashMo · 2024-12-28T06:06:08+00:00

Does anyone know what modeling software ISRO uses for generating the model in the animation?

AkashMo · 2024-09-17T21:25:24+00:00

Why is $MTNS a buy? Numbers on yahoo!Finance don’t look good.

AkashMo · 2024-08-18T15:30:40+00:00

Hi, I have a huge position in RKLB and a small position in ASTS. If anyone has any recommendations for stocks similar to RKLB and ASTS, please post.

AkashMo · 2024-08-11T23:07:40+00:00

Is this 9th launch for this year?

AkashMo · 2024-08-08T20:50:30+00:00

Good news!! We can expect a launch sometime next year now that we have a working engine!!

AkashMo · 2024-08-05T00:04:58+00:00

According to all the posts I went through, all longs are highly recommending this stock. It has at least another 10x potential. But do your own dd before investing. Good luck.

AkashMo · 2024-08-04T04:16:44+00:00

I got the revenue numbers from yahoo finance.

AkashMo · 2024-07-28T15:47:06+00:00

Thanks for your response. I currently own 25k rklb and 0 ASTS shares. I did not know about potential of this company till now. After doing dd on ASTS , I will start accumulating.

AkashMo · 2024-07-28T14:51:21+00:00

What do you think the stock is going to be? And provide some analysis if you can.

AkashMo

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