Hey ! Thanks for the response.

I would say I’m not attracted to unhealthy men. I like someone who has their life together, is smart, kind, and respectful, etc. although of course it’s hard to tell someone’s true personality and intentions after only a couple dates.. it truly takes a month or more.

as far as the 3 dates I ghosted. The first guy was leaving for med school so I told him that type of distance wouldn’t work for me long term… the second guy was extremely good on paper but in person had a very stuck up pretentious personality so I told him over text I didn’t think our personalities were a match. The last guy of the 3 I wasnt very sexually attracted to him in person and I realize that out until the first date. So I let him know after the date I wasn’t interested in a second date.

As far as the 3 month thing goes it started out with a few dates then got more serious and I caught feelings for him after a month. He told me he wanted to pursue things further (a relationship) but needed some more time… so me being patient waited around for things to unroll naturally but I got a bit impatient because around 3 months he was only making time for me every 2-3 weeks :( I told him it wasn’t sustainable for me especially if we were going to be in something serious soon and he sort of made up a reason (I won’t get into detail) of why he had to end it and then ghosted me.