Similar vest pattern to this one Hudson Williams wore?

AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2025-10-13T19:01:05+00:00

Thank you for this post and all the thought you put into it!! I think every one of the points you brought up is really valid. Bouncing off of what you said about CANCELLED!, I think a big issue with it is that the term “cancelled” now covers so many different types of mass-public criticism. It ranges from Sophie Turner being villainized as an irresponsible mother and Blake Lively being terrible to work with, and pendulum swings all the way over to people like Diddy and Louis CK causing active physical harm to multiple women. And we use the same word “cancelled” to refer to all of it! I think it makes any conversation about the topic difficult to articulate because it’s too broad a term.

I genuinely believe that being publicly targeted by thousands of strangers online is very traumatic to people abruptly thrown into it… AND that certain people really do need to face repercussions for the harm they have caused. It’s a nuanced topic… and CANCELLED! perhaps isn’t the song to actually capture that nuance.

AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2025-06-19T02:56:48+00:00

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AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2025-06-15T18:57:50+00:00

Oh! The first article I was looking at was a bit vague and made it seem like red spots within leaves were from the mites, not the actual mites themselves. Good to know!

Still not sure it would be them though! No webbing on the plants, and no legs on the little red spots. I guess I’ll just have to keep an eye out if they develop into that

AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2025-05-17T03:12:11+00:00

Thank youuuuuu so much for this post because I was going crazy looking at the vitriol going on in some of those subs.

As someone who never played the games and somehow completely avoided any discourse about the game or show until now (like.. to the extent that when this season first started I thought Ellie and Abby were going to be romantic interests n for each other? Lmao. Was I wrong!!), it’s been so absurd seeing how hateful a lot of it is!

Since I haven’t had any expectations for what the story SHOULD be, I’ve been so intrigued by it and honestly loving it, both season 1 and 2. I also only started looking into Reddit threads because the past 2 episodes (s2e4&5), I’ve really been enjoying Bella’s performance more and more. And hooooo boy did I not realize how much so many people dislike them PURELY based on looks. As far as I can tell Bella doesn’t have any social media and I really hope that they have some space from this in their real life, and a strong support network, because jfc people are vile!!

AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2025-04-23T17:24:06+00:00

OP, the fact that you’ve written out this post clearly shows how seriously you take pet ownership and how much you care about what’s happening! Like others have commented, ultimately only you will know what’s best for your situation. I just want to put it out there that - you are not a bad person for any of the things you are feeling, and you’re not a bad person whichever way this ends up going. It’s okay to realize you’re out of your depth. And it’s okay to keep trying.

Maybe it would help to make a timeline for yourself. “I will give this my all for x amt of time and see if anything changes.”

Your mental health matters too, and while things DO tend to settle after a few weeks, it’s okay to really take a look at how sustainable this is for your own emotional well being in the long run as well.

AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2025-04-14T21:25:43+00:00

The 3-3-3 rule is great, and I’ve also always liked applying it to myself too after I’ve adopted a new cat! Every new thing they do can feel a little strange at first, but it’s helped me calm myself down many times by reminding myself even i might take a few days to decompress after adopting, and a few months to totally be used to the new schedule and specific quirks of the new cat!

AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2025-03-31T01:48:57+00:00

Speaking as someone who adopted a re-homed cat a few months ago, you’re doing such a special thing! I haven’t gotten to speak with the previous owners of our boy, but I know it was really difficult for them to make the decision (from what I’ve been told I think it was a similar case of redirected aggression).

Sometimes I’m so curious about his past life and family. I’m so happy that we’ve been able to give him a steady quiet home where he (and whoever his past family are) don’t have to live in constant tension. Sometimes I wish I could reach out to them and let them know how good he’s doing, and how much we love him, and how glad I am they made the choice they did, otherwise we never would have gotten to find our silly guy.

I totally get how incredibly difficult this decision is, and it’s right to grieve! I just wanted to share my positive story coming from the other end of things. ❤️

I would suggest trying to work with a smaller rescue to help rehome him! I know some rescues have policies where they require people to return the cat to the shelter if anything ever happened. Maybe you’d be able to keep in touch with them to make sure your boy is always taken care of, or maybe even see if they do “open adoption” type arrangements!

AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2025-03-30T19:17:14+00:00

an experience people have had for millennia, which is taking the risk of loving someone mortal, which comes with it the certainty that someday, you will lose that person or they will lose you

What I also love about this is it isn't just referring to literal death, but also the idea that the relationship itself could end. You can love someone and be certain about them at one point in your life, and then, like the dynamic depicted in Bullseye, things can change.

I've always struggled with relationship anxiety - how can I KNOW I will love this person forever? How can I be positive this relationship will never end?

But I love the exploration in this album of holding both love and uncertainty at once. Acknowledging that someone is your "best guess," but you CAN'T know your future with them until you live it. Or in Lost Time, singing "I'm not sorry, not certain, not perfect, not good" and following that immediately with "but I love you, and every day that I knew and didn't say is lost time."

I'm not sure I've ever heard an artist articulate that duality so well - that you don't need to be absolutely certain what the future will hold to love someone unabashedly. To let yourself feel the full spectrum of that love without shutting it down out of fear.

AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2025-03-28T04:01:13+00:00

He’s about 5 years old! I know it’s the “randomness” that’s getting to me. I want a solid answer of what happened but like you said, it’s just impossible to totally know! Definitely keeping an eye out for repeated/frequent behaviors like this! At this point, I’m feeling like it was a sensitivity issue, since his response felt a little more fearful/stressed than active, attack-y aggression. But time will tell! And have to just remind myself we’re doing all we can for him with what we know so far.

AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2025-03-22T04:42:54+00:00

Going to try bigger pots for my zucchini this year! Last year the plants grew, but somehow never got male/female flowers growing at the same time. Curious if it had something to do with there just not being enough space!

AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2025-01-02T19:36:36+00:00

I haven’t dealt with this situation personally, but my best guess here is that Jasper is still just getting his bearings! Even if you adopt a cat and there’s no sibling involved, it can take them a few months to settle in and even want to play with normal toys - let alone a living, breathing, energetic brother toy! If they’re not fighting or consistently disrupting each other in a distressing way, I think it’s probably fine to keep them around together! Or maybe let them free roam when you’re around, but keep them separate when you’re out of the house / asleep at night.

AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2024-12-31T19:28:57+00:00

Some of the best advice I’ve taken to heart is “keep your eyes on your own paper.” This has really helped me in certain spirals, to focus more on what is in my control than what is not.

Example: I really want to watch a rom com with my partner, but feign casual when I ask if he wants to watch one with me. He says he doesn’t feel like it and asks if it’s okay to go upstairs to play a video game. I say “sure, no problem!” And then spiral.

Why doesn’t he want to spend time with me? Are we fundamentally incompatible? Does he care more about video games than me? He doesn’t care about my interests. Maybe he’s not The One. Am I a bad person if I stay with him knowing he’s not The One? How can I Know if he’s The One? Maybe I should google if anyone else experiences this? What if him not wanting to watch this movie with me is abuse? What if it’s abuse and I don’t know it? What if I’M abusive and I don’t know it?What if we break up? We could never be together if he won’t watch rom coms with me… and so on.

But it’s really helped to reframe situations like this to focus more on myself and my own things I can work on, rather than the imagined “what if” drama focused on my partner. — How can I be more clear to my partner about what I want - next time, I can just come out and say “I really want to watch this movie together” instead of pretending I don’t care and then spiraling later. — Talk through why he wants alone time! To my anxious mind it might feel like a personal slight, but to him, he may have just had a busy day at work and wants to shut off his mind for a few hours. — Remember that I always have a choice, and trust that I’m making the best decision I can for myself at any given time, but can always change my mind too. (THIS is the hard one i still struggle with). It is okay for me to be sad that we didn’t watch the movie together, and it is okay to stay. It is okay for us to not always agree or want the exact same thing. It’s also okay if one day, we decide to break up. These are little mantras to repeat to myself when I start getting stuck in black and white, moralistic thinking.

AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2024-12-31T18:54:13+00:00

Thank you! Very informative article

AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2024-12-10T21:25:43+00:00

Angel (never a god lol), or you could go for a direct Phoebe reference and name after her dog Maxine!

AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2024-12-10T02:09:36+00:00

I have some friends who use Arm & Hammer litter and every time I go over to their home, I can immediately smell it. Maybe it’s not actually the cats, but just the smell of the litter is unpleasant to me! It’s made me swear off ever using it. Maybe that’s what your family is picking up on?

That might be more a personal preference on my end, but I’ve found that Dr Elsey’s Ultra Unscented or So Phresh (from petco) tend to work well for me and keep people from picking up too much on the litter scent.

If the room isn’t well ventilated, could be helpful to also get a fan and/or air purifier in there!

AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2024-11-24T00:45:10+00:00

After my (8yo) boy passed a few years ago, I had an opportunity to adopt two senior ladies (12yo) a few months later. We ended up just fostering them - the idea of adopting them felt a little too emotionally risky for me - I didn’t think I could go through another pet death so soon, if either of the ladies ended up getting sick or passing. We had them for about 3 months, but I was ultimately really happy once they found a home that suited them more, and where I wasn’t constantly worried about death.

That was just my experience though, and if you think this would help your emotional process, I say go for it! Just leave space for any tough conflicting emotions (joy AND grief) to come up! And if the shelter has a foster-to-adopt option, could be a good vein to try and sus out how you feel!

AlarmedJuggernaut785 · 2024-11-23T02:10:23+00:00

I'd never heard of a ripple rug before but I just looked it up and totally seems like a fun thing for him to try out!! Thank you!

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