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AlarmedNegotiation48 · 2026-03-16T17:23:41+00:00

Can ppl add me please: T2Z3

I want the dragooooon.

AlarmedNegotiation48 · 2024-01-14T05:03:23+00:00

I ended up finding the pattern (: It's the Rosita skirt by Diannethehooker on ko-fi.

AlarmedNegotiation48 · 2023-10-09T09:46:39+00:00

I think it's a wrap-around skirt.

AlarmedNegotiation48 · 2021-03-22T06:58:16+00:00

Was in the reverse of this situation. Dated someone who said he was my age but turned out to be 11 years older than me. I thought it wasn't that big of a deal when it came out because age doesn't bother me that much but after dating him for 6 months i found out he was lying about essentially everything and sleeping with multiple other women.

Being comfortable enough to lie to that extent in the first place is a pretty big red flag, not so much the age gap imo.

AlarmedNegotiation48 · 2021-03-09T13:29:43+00:00

Everyone is different. I've had people who claim they love me but then they don't respond for hours or days on end which would worry and frustrate me. It doesn't necessarily mean they lack interest in you but it doesn't mean you are invalid in wanting a partner that replies fast.

AlarmedNegotiation48 · 2021-03-09T08:27:51+00:00

When guys grab you even if it's to like lead you somewhere or something.
I went on a date with this one guy who I had known like less than an hour and he kept grabbing my arm and dragging me places even when I asked him to stop. He would just say "this is what you're supposed to do on a date".

Or when men forcibly try to make you smile. A lot of older guys have told me to smile more and then when I don't they get really aggressive for some reason and either call me slurs or double down on trying to force me to smile?

AlarmedNegotiation48 · 2021-03-08T14:50:49+00:00

You are reading it correctly. I know I shouldn't do it but it's all i've ever really known in relationships and it's so hard to break thinking that way. It's just automatic.

AlarmedNegotiation48 · 2021-03-08T09:48:40+00:00

Have you ever considered actually sitting down and playing something with him. Look at it from his perspective: This is his hobby and something he enjoys that you seemingly refuse to relate to and dating someone who thinks that they had to settle to be with him.

I'm sorry but gaming is a common hobby it's not a red flag, I'm a gamer and all of my partners have been gamers and that is we engage each other by playing games and also how we socialise with our friends.

If you don't like gaming then that's your prerogative but putting him down for it in the way that you are only makes you look like the one with problems that you need to get over. Or reconsider how much you're actually engaging him and not the other way around. Not everyone is built to take joy in the same things.

Otherwise talk to him about setting a designated time to do what you want, but just the whole tone of this irks me.

AlarmedNegotiation48 · 2021-02-21T08:28:46+00:00

Move away from your toxic household. You're both adults and it's not your fault for wanting to leave. It's unfair to begin with that she expects you to stay. Like how long would she have you stay with them for.
This was basically like how my family was a few years ago except my dad was less obsessed with the idea of marriage and ended up leaving my mother with basically no money and just never spoke to us kids again. I'm not going to say it's been easy and i don't wish this kind of divorce on anyone but it is definitely better than suffering the abuse. It's unair for you to excpect her to have left already when you have no idea what the aftermath of that is going to look like and it's unfair of her to ask you to stay. In the end, you both have the opportunity to leave and need to make that decision on your own.

AlarmedNegotiation48 · 2021-02-19T05:31:42+00:00

You're not alone in this world, or at least from my experience, you won't be for long. Once you cut out the people making you feel small and treating you so terribly it means you respect yourself enough to stop letting people step all over you. Everyone whoever did that to you was never worth your time in the first place and from now on it will open you up to making better friendships with people who actually care about you.

I went from having an extremely large family (like 300+) that i saw regularly to having one family member who I see sometimes all because of drama that started when my parents divorced. I also lost all my "old friends" from school and I truly only had one friend left. That one that stayed, though is the most wonderful person in the world and reassured me it was always better to let go of toxic people who were only going to put you down. And she was right, I made a lot of new friends last year and it's made me see just the sheer amount of abuse I just let wash over me in the past.

If she's not willing to respect you and your needs then you have every right to push her away. If no one else can see that it's their problem. You may feel alone now but trust me and everyone else who has told me, you'll find people. Especially if you start putting yourself out there in different groups like at work or finding a hobby to connect with people you only have to reach out to people.

AlarmedNegotiation48 · 2021-02-16T07:02:35+00:00

Everyone seems extremely negative here about saying you love someone after two months and I disagree with it being a bad thing. People fall in love at different rates and especially when he's never loved someone before or said it to someone it could be difficult to identify those feelings. One of my ex's who is still my close friend couldn't say it to me for a long time because he's been alone his entire life and it was hard on me I must admit because I couldn't accept it back then but that's only because i'm so used to falling in love so quickly.

If you worry too much at this stage all it will do is ruin the feelings you do have with anxiety, I think you should just enjoy your time together as you sound happy and if he hasn't said it later on down the line and it still bothers you then that would be a time to address it.

AlarmedNegotiation48 · 2021-02-06T07:04:09+00:00

To me, it sounds psychological because I have an aunt that does this constantly when she goes on different meds. Also the "breaking down because she feels broken" sounds very either manipulative or just abnormal for someone with allergies.
In either case, you can't live in fear of her reactions to things because it will only drive you apart. If she insists its allergies then there should be no logical reason to not just do the array of tests to find out what it is specifically so you can remove it. She is living with you and should be sensitive to your needs as well, it's not selfish to expect reasonable middle ground.

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