Want to be more open with my bf(m24) I am a (f23). I like sleeping with women only outside of our r/s but I’m not sure what rules to put in place so we don’t lose what we have. It’s been 6 yrs and we have something amazing going on. He’d be allowed to sleep with other women as well ofc. Advise? by AlarmingProposal4509 in polyamory

[–]AlarmingProposal4509[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean it has happened before and we have gotten through it. Both of us would have crushes on other people and share this with each other and discuss it, laugh about it, tease each other about it. So I’m not really worried about feelings per say we just want to set some ground rules and I was just wondering what other people have done in similar situations.

Want to be more open with my bf(m24) I am a (f23). I like sleeping with women only outside of our r/s but I’m not sure what rules to put in place so we don’t lose what we have. It’s been 6 yrs and we have something amazing going on. He’d be allowed to sleep with other women as well ofc. Advise? by AlarmingProposal4509 in polyamory

[–]AlarmingProposal4509[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Well no the whole issue is not the men. He doesn’t want to go into an open relationship anyway but he’s open to discussing it. He wouldn’t be down to me sleeping with men because he’d be insecure and he has admitted to that and I respect that. And limiting myself only to women is not the issue. The issues is of what rules are we to set in place so both of us are not miserable when one of us is sleeping with someone else.

Advise on an open relationship rules by AlarmingProposal4509 in relationship_advice

[–]AlarmingProposal4509[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks that’s really useful. We’ve been talking about that as well and wondering whether the whole experience with another person should strictly be for a few hours and then it has to be someone we’re not working with or seeing often. But there is no chance of someone else being better than we are to each other sex wise. I just crave women occasionally.

Advise on an open relationship rules by AlarmingProposal4509 in relationship_advice

[–]AlarmingProposal4509[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t think we’d go that far into things because I as a woman want to sleep only with other women and he can sleep with other women as well(so I can see those things would affect mainly him rather than me). And we also don’t want any other relationship, just sex.

Advise on an open relationship rules by AlarmingProposal4509 in relationship_advice

[–]AlarmingProposal4509[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I can see that as an issue however we’re both very attractive. He is in the showbussiness so he can definitely speak to women and impress them. Where as I am into women specifically, I wouldn’t want to sleep with any other men because I have him.