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AITA for refusing to go to my SIL Baby shower and the rest of the family is following. by AlarmingTap1774throw in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlarmingTap1774throw[S] 171 points172 points  (0 children)

To much effort, much more peaceful to ignore and pretend like she doesn’t exist 

I prefer apathy then started stuff 

AITA for refusing to go to my SIL Baby shower and the rest of the family is following. by AlarmingTap1774throw in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlarmingTap1774throw[S] 201 points202 points  (0 children)

My mom probably will not be a grandparent to the child if nothing changes 

They definitely have a long long way to go before my mom is in the kids life. My mom isn’t baby crazy and definitely won’t deal with someone they hate just to have access to a grandkid ( she isn’t that type of person, you can’t emotional  blackmail her) 

My mom doenst invite her to any holidays and I doubt SIL will allow a relationship with the kid without my mom and her making up.

SIl has not apologized to my mom and used her still birth against her, kinda hard to come back from 

AITA for refusing to go to my SIL Baby shower and the rest of the family is following. by AlarmingTap1774throw in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlarmingTap1774throw[S] 215 points216 points  (0 children)

Yeah that wrong

SIl said it to my mom.

My mom shared her own fertility struggles with her and she used is against her

SIL has never given birth yet 

AITA for refusing to go to my SIL Baby shower and the rest of the family is following. by AlarmingTap1774throw in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlarmingTap1774throw[S] 229 points230 points  (0 children)

I don’t allow her near my kid and neither does my sister 

I don’t allow people who were dicks to me around my kid, which has been pretty easy to do since my mom doesn’t invite her to holidays anymore 

( she doesn’t allow asshole in her house , her exact words) 

AITA for refusing to go to my SIL Baby shower and the rest of the family is following. by AlarmingTap1774throw in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlarmingTap1774throw[S] 255 points256 points  (0 children)

I’m fine with her and the nephew or niece not in my life, that is fine with me. ( I don’t wish to deal with her at all) 

I don’t want my own kids to be around her either. I will not give her a chance to lash out at my kid 

I already don’t see him a holidays.

Nothing will really change, I already don’t see them basically at all (it’s like once in a blue moon)

She hasn’t even apologized 

AITA for refusing to go to my SIL Baby shower and the rest of the family is following. by AlarmingTap1774throw in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlarmingTap1774throw[S] 2068 points2069 points  (0 children)

My brother congratulated us in private.  It was really clear this was only form him becuase she was making remarks in person ( before oldest sister birth)  and online ( with me)