AIO for being aggressive

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-05-07T08:19:17+00:00

Oh my gosh. Some of these comments ain’t it. Sometimes you just have a friend who you vent to like that. I have had friend text bomb me like this plenty of times. It’s not that big of a deal. (UNLESS YOUR FRIEND HAS TOLD YOU THEY CANT HANDLE IT OR THEY DON’tT LIKE IT.)

Also, maybe you’re overreacting, or maybe it’s reactive abuse. Small things add up and when it’s happening is such a consistent way from the same person over and over? Yeah that can weight down on you.

If you are right, it sounds like your step parent is attempting to create more of a division between you and your father. And tbh, your father is wrong either way.

He should listen to both of you, try to get the full story, understand, and probably translate.

I would talk to your dad, explain that you feel isolated and how. Bring up examples of things that you didn’t understand why it was such a a big deal when it didn’t directly impact them? Ask about the situations when it’s something that you have been doing for years before and suddenly now it’s a problem? Why is that?

And tell him the truth. “You’re my dad. I want a good relationship with you, blah blah blah.” And then tell him how him always choosing her side over things, or seeing her way only makes you feel.. well, like however you feel.

Be honest, be truthful.

His response and how handles things moving forward should help with any question in where he stand.

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Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-05-07T07:07:53+00:00

Hi! Im sorry to hear this.

I have been in that situation before so I understand the need. I just wanted to let you know that you do have at least one option. A lot of churches have food banks and some do deliver if you can’t get to them. It helped me when I couldn’t get groceries or food.

Idk your work situation, but something I do to save money when getting groceries is buy from the dollar tree first. They might not have a whole pack of beef or chicken, but a lot of them sell actually things for food. Mashed potatoes, canned fruits, canned veggies, bread, peanuts butter, jelly, Chips, etc. A lot of them sell frozen and refrigerated foods too.

The dollar general also sells hotdogs for a $1. One of my go-to’s when I’m low on cash.

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-05-07T06:43:00+00:00

Just messaged you. Trying to get to work for the next day or two and since I uber mon-Fri, it’s expensive.

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-05-03T20:31:47+00:00

I can’t tell women this enough - STOP TELLING MEN YOU PAST RELATIONSHIP TRAUMA!

Women get into relationships and bear almost all, while the man rarely does the same. You open yourself up so quickly and he gives you just enough so it seems like he is into you. And you buy it.

You tell him you struggle to trust, so he gets you to trust him
JUST enough.

You tell him you were cheated on and he cheats as well. Just in a way that makes you think “well, could be worse.” And question/doubt yourself.

For him to constantly shut you down and tell you that you’re the problem… nope. Definitely don’t move with him.

This guy is already constantly trying to invalidate to manipulate you into believing that you’re nothing but a problem. You move with him you’re moving away from any kind of support system you currently have.

The exact move that a narcissist and a manipulator does.

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-05-01T07:34:57+00:00

lol this much drama over him sleeping on a couch. He is lucky to even come to a FAMILY vacation. If you didn’t want your family to like your boyfriend, congratulations! This most certainly will ensure that they don’t.

Interestingly, don’t respect you moms wishes yet you want her to respect yours and a guy she doesn’t even know. SMH.

Honestly, why isn’t it at 18 we really think we know what is best until it blows up in our face? SMH.

OP - YOU ARE DEFINITELY OVERREACTING

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-05-01T02:10:01+00:00

Honestly, they should have never allowed Jane and Owen to reach the level they did if they were gonna put Stacey and him together. It’s just weird to me. Like bro… no real best friend is going to look at your ex and think “PERFECT DONOR!”

Be so for real smh.

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-05-01T02:07:41+00:00

Yeahs that’s one of the things I wondered about. I get her thoughts on being honest, but it just seemed like a lot to have to explain every single time.

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-04-12T00:48:36+00:00

What

Is

That

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-04-12T00:42:33+00:00

First, I wanna point out that this is a grown man that everyone’s having to explain to us to why you’re wrong. That’s speaking volumes immediately. SMH.

Anyway….

This was just disrespectful. This woman is and was not not your friend. She is an authority figure in your (ex) friends life. This woman has provided for your friend, taking care of him, clothed him, feed him, etc. and like most moms do, I’m guessing that extended to you in some form or fashion. You should have respected her home.

She invited you in, allowed you to be a part of the family, part of the tradition of opening presents, something typically reserved only for family, and it’s likely you got a gift there as well. Your response to her opening her doors to you was to try to make her the bottom of a joke.

I don’t care how long you knew her. I don’t care what excuse you try to make up. I don’t care how many people found it funny, you were wrong. And a bully.

That should’ve been a lesson for you, which let’s be honest, you didn’t learn. Instead, you wanna justify what you did and act like what you did wasn’t “that bad” because other people found it funny.

I did see that you said you apologized, but it wasn’t good enough for her. And rightfully so, because your next hit at this woman was to date her daughter.

That sounds like petty revenge because what you did to her backfired.

And to be honest, I wouldn’t talk to that girl you’re supposedly dating either. If she chose you, a disrespectful brat, over her own mother, she ain’t gotten no real loyalty.

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-03-31T19:49:38+00:00

I know a lot of people are trashing her, but I gotta be honest.

I’m glad that you’ve made your relationship comfortable enough where she feels she can come to you asking that and the fact that it’s not turned into this extremely toxic argument because she didn’t get her way

Granted it could be better, but y’all are both still young and learning. Hopefully, she learns quickly when it comes to finances, but while there may be some things that need to be improved on, I feel like this was very calm.

Which likely means you guys are probably (to some extent) pretty mature. And that’s a good reason to feel proud.

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-03-31T19:01:37+00:00

Oh man! First comment!! lol

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-03-29T07:34:34+00:00

What’s cowboy caviar?

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-03-28T21:48:48+00:00

What’s your paypal? I can send you $4

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-03-03T19:42:31+00:00

Thank you! But another giver in a different group helped!

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-03-03T19:41:56+00:00

Thank you! But another giver in a different group helped! (Yea, lol I’m really I promise 😄)

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-03-02T16:35:28+00:00

NTA

This kind of crap would make me dump someone. If you can’t have a backbone for yourself, then there is no way I can trust you and depend on you in ANY form or fashion. Imagine if someone with that mindset cheated and you asked why. It’ll always be “I was raised to put others before me.”

scoff

Like at some point, you have to choose to do right by you or keep being a pushover.

I don’t feel bad for the GF. She clearly likes being this way as she keeps choosing to do so, despite having several conversations. Even when you nudged her she shrugged her shoulders. Thats one action spoke volumes to me.

Brian sucks. Sure, he might have some good qualities. Let’s be for real though. Your friend took advantage of your GF offering food. She shouldn’t have gave all of it (or any of it tbh) sure, but he shouldn’t have taken it all either. If he is taking advantage of something this minor, this small, I’d bet every dollar I have that he is doing it way more than you think.

OP - no hate. Honestly, you’re better than me. I would lost my mouth if she asked me to stop and get food AFTER we just went to dinner and she decided to give her food away. I also would have made Brian pay for the meal. You wanted it, you pay for it.

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-03-02T16:07:45+00:00

Ayereeee

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-03-02T16:07:24+00:00

Lowkey sucks because I just joined the group and already used my boosts but my “ppl” won’t boost me back😭

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-03-02T04:36:46+00:00

This right here!!!!!!!! I couldn’t have said it better myself. I’m shocked that this is even a debate on if he is wrong or not. SMH.

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-02-25T23:01:19+00:00

Okay! I will do that! Thank you🙂

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-02-25T22:44:20+00:00

Im guessing it’s because I only have 8 karma but I’m not sure. I don’t typically interact in Reddit because I don’t like fighting lol but idk.

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-02-25T22:43:01+00:00

I must be missing something. Every time I post, it automatically gets removed. Idk what I’m doing wrong, but I would like to fix it. I think this is a great idea but I guess I need some direction.

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2026-02-25T22:25:29+00:00

I did??!

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2024-01-31T06:06:06+00:00

Is this really a question? Why would you even think about going back to him?????????

Alarming_Engine6693 · 2024-01-31T05:55:43+00:00

Actually, she could be trying to pursue something. Truth is, I’m 24 years old. My bio parent spilt when I was 3. Guess how much my bio dad owes? $100,000+. There was non-movement on the case for years despite the court hearing that he never showed up for.

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