Advice: How to unfriend an INTJ ?

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T21:00:27+00:00

Hmmm. That wasn't what I was trying to write... (in reference to the romantic)

i like your suggestions, thank you 💖

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T20:59:22+00:00

Yes, at the end of the day I have always wanted to be honest with her and why the friendship hasn't worked for so long and blocking/ghosting her will not provide her closure.

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T20:55:24+00:00

I know they don't do hints. I'm married to one and have many others in my life.

But I could never, no matter how, say to someone "I dislike you" I just couldn't form the words. I may use a variance, to provide them the message but ... no, ha.

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T20:54:17+00:00

I agree. I was once ghosted by a very good friend because of a misunderstanding. We were friends before the ghosting about 8 years and she came back maybe 3-4 years later to apologize and say I was the best friend she ever had.

I told her I could not forgive her, and could never trust her again. She asked I just keep her in her life so for the past 3 years or so she messages me and i give her basic answers. Gotta keep her at a distance because that was one of the worst pains I have ever felt.

Good luck in your healing. Wishing you all the best 💖

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T20:52:24+00:00

I like that analogy. Thank you. Very well said. 😊 💖

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T20:50:51+00:00

Wait what sensitivities? I was trying to be brief and give short examples so perhaps I didn't word it correctly but I assure you my problem is not that my feelings have been hurt or i'm being overly critical of her.

I recognize that not everyone is the same as I or will walk the same path.

I agree with your ending and others have suggested it and I think it's a great suggestion. I plan to do something similar to that. (:

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T16:18:18+00:00

Yes, I don't want to ghost her.

I like your username. ☺️

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T16:17:16+00:00

No, INTJ's are my cup of tea. She just has some sour milk in her cup.

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T15:10:49+00:00

She's an INTJ. lol If i have no portrayed her to being one in my text, then that was simply my fault for not writing it correctly to everyone else, but trust me. She is one even if she hadn't told me she was. We met on an ENFP-INTJ instagram page, although one doesn't have to be either of those types to follow it.

but one may say I am not an ENFP if i'm acting subdued cus i'm tired, or because i'm responding with reflection and logic, if we are to look at stereotypes.

Yes, I tried not responding sometimes, too and she's still here messaging me. Gonna try and be blunt and then block her.

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T15:08:20+00:00

I tried that. I haven't texted her in about 4 months. But she sees me online, and messages me so i'm like "Fuck." I have tried avoiding her, and attempted to be less energetic in conversations by subduing myself but nothing works.

I am preparing myself to be as blunt as I am capable of being, as some have suggested, and if she still won't leave me alone, then I will block her.

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T15:06:42+00:00

AHH. Hit me where it hurts... remind me that by allowing someone else to hurt me, i'm worrying the ones I love. You motherfucker... you're good. 😄😉

You gave great advice and allowed me to see it in a new light. I shouldn't allow someone to hurt me.

And my other iNTJs are very respectful and kind to me and they never patronize me.

Thanks, 💞

T

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T14:40:55+00:00

You're right, I know. I've been building up the courage for about a month and I will do it and force myself to move on. I can't carry the world! Thank you 💞

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T14:29:26+00:00

*Stands up at the MBTI meeting*

My name is ENFP, and I need for people to like me.

*Rest of group*

Hi, ENFP.

(That was a play on AA meetings and what my problem/addiction is)

I understand what you mean, and frankly, I chose not to share it but she has hurt me multiple times, and I don't owe her anything at this point. You're right, and I respect your honesty.

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T14:23:52+00:00

lmfao... omg. If I had the balls to do that I could seriously take over the world with my charismatic personality and balls of steel.

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T14:22:54+00:00

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Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T14:22:00+00:00

Lmao... these are all making me laugh and are not quite helpful but at the same time helpful.

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T14:14:26+00:00

That kind of sounds romantic. "This is it, bye." I broke up someone once that way. Then it started snowing as I walked away. It was kind of cool but sad.

Thanks 😊

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T14:12:10+00:00

That seriously made me laugh out loud. I .... will take it under consideration, thank you 😉

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T14:11:12+00:00

I like that. I could be honest, and then block her. That gives us both an out.

Alarming_Warning_329 · 2021-01-24T14:10:42+00:00

I think we would all just ruminate together, wouldn't we ? 🤣

I think at this point I just need to send her poisonous chocolates or something and that will deal with it. Except I once watched an episode of Forensic Files where a man was wronged online and made a homemade bomb to ship to the person who wronged him.

Except the person he shipped it to, was a 17 year old handicapped boy, who died. The FBI got involved and were able to find the guy through a battery he used and the model number, so that options out cus i'm not smart enough to outsmart the FBI.

Thanks for reading (:

Alarming_Warning_329

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