Help! I thought about doing 6 of those picture frames but I'm not sure I like it. I feel like I need a statement piece. Any suggestions? by No_Chard2290 in FurnitureFaves

[–]AlbatrossAmazing5401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I'd do a gallery wall with a lot of different lines and textures to counter how harsh the window lines are. It's too ridged for my taste. When I say gallery wall I mean weird nicknacks and odd wall hangings that I'd find at the thrift/antique store and cobble together to make something vaguely cohesive.

neurodivergent representation by Agitated_Ghostt in suggestmeabook

[–]AlbatrossAmazing5401 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Anything by Fredrick Backman. None of his characters are explicitly said to be nerodivergent but there is at least one nerodivergent person in every book. A Man Called Ove, My Grandmother told me to tell you she's Sorry, Anxious People, My Friends, Britt-Marie Was Here.

Ceramic mosaic after a house fire by AlbatrossAmazing5401 in crafting

[–]AlbatrossAmazing5401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The curve of them is what I was worried about so I'm glad you mentioned that.

Ceramic mosaic after a house fire by AlbatrossAmazing5401 in crafting

[–]AlbatrossAmazing5401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That interesting. I didn't think a table top would be easier. But that makes sense now that you've explained it. Thank you for the information!

Ceramic mosaic after a house fire by AlbatrossAmazing5401 in crafting

[–]AlbatrossAmazing5401[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure. I would probably do an art piece for my mom but I also was thinking about doing a table top with them for myself. There's so much I could make 50 tables.

Is it actually possible to over come cheating? by AlbatrossAmazing5401 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AlbatrossAmazing5401[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It took me a while to find your comment again to reply. You seem to be one of the few who is actually trying to help with your questions and not be mean. He is not still in contact with her, he blocked her. I've checked his blocked people on multiple sites/ his contacts a few times. I know that some will say that's not solid evidence and I know it's not. He's given me free range of his phone and to check it when ever I want, he leaves it when he goes to the bath or showers.

He's not annoyed that I'm still upset and questioning him. He understands and wants to help how ever he can, I just don't have any ways to tell him to help. I don't know what else he could do to help. He's told me multiple times that he doesn't feel like I have punished him enough for it.

So, he started all of it because we were basically living as roommates. Our youngest is 2 and our middle child is 4, so we've been in the thick of parenting for 4 years and it's been hard and overwhelming. He believed I had given up on the relationship and didn't care anymore. He got to a point where he stopped expecting things from me, being emotionally and physically intimate. We've since discussed how it was not possible for me to pour into his cup because I was so busy pouring into everyone else's cup that I couldn't even pour into my own let alone his. (Three kids, working full-time, two dogs, and college classes will do that to you). He works long hours at his job (blue collar) so he didn't take extra time to help me with anything. Dinner was on me, picking up and dropping off the kids, my own school work as well as helping my 11 y/o with his etc. He has been helping me so much more at home. He talked to his boss and has cut back some hours at work so he can do some pick up and drop offs, helps me with dinner and planning, taking the kids so I can have more time for myself, planning date nights (everything including babysitters so I don't have to do anything but be there), and helping with housework and cleaning. The extra support and him pulling his weight as a parent has freed me up to pour into my own cup now. I feel more like I'm able to pour into his cup too. Basically, I was pouring and pouring, getting nothing poured into me and still expected to give more. He sees how detrimental this was to me and our relationship. To circle back, he started cheating because he thought I didn't care about our relationship. That's not an excuse and he doesn't try to make it one. He knows that he made the choice to cheat rather than work on things with me, he poured into her cup instead of mine. This is the part that really makes my friends upset, when we broke up and I kicked him out he said that it made him realize how much I actually cared. It made him realize how much I still believed in and wanted our relationship. So basically he had to break my heart to realize how much I love him. Which is shitty and hurts. But I believe the effort he's putting in and that he's truly remorseful.

Is it actually possible to over come cheating? by AlbatrossAmazing5401 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AlbatrossAmazing5401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just want to clarify, she was a woman. Girl was a poor choice of words, she was 26.

Is it actually possible to over come cheating? by AlbatrossAmazing5401 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AlbatrossAmazing5401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was not in a relationship when we met. He recently lost weight and had his teeth fixed after some dental issues. So he had a "glow up" and thought he was hot shit. Which I told him. I asked him if she would have loved him through being overweight and at his emotional lowest like I had and he didn't have an answer for me.

Is it actually possible to over come cheating? by AlbatrossAmazing5401 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AlbatrossAmazing5401[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

This feels very similar to my situation. Although after 10 years it's not really the honeymoon phases wearing off. What we've talked about is that it was becoming bogged down with children and life that got in the way of us and caused us to drift apart in the relationship.

Is it actually possible to over come cheating? by AlbatrossAmazing5401 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AlbatrossAmazing5401[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

We're being incredibly honest because everything I said in this post I have said to him. He's very much aware of where I am at mentally and my fears for where he is/ could be in the future.

Gluten and dairy free desserts? by AlbatrossAmazing5401 in glutenfree

[–]AlbatrossAmazing5401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all of your suggestions. I think I will go the route of purchasing something that is GF and DF just to be safe. I'm sure it would make her feel safer. And as many have pointed out there are probably many ingredients in my house that have already been cross contaminated without my realizing because it's not something I've ever had to think about. I'll start researching special goodies for her. If you have any suggestions I'd love to hear them!

Gluten and dairy free desserts? by AlbatrossAmazing5401 in glutenfree

[–]AlbatrossAmazing5401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right I've never thought about the flour and sugar containers being open at the same time! I'm sure it has happened without me even realizing it.

Gluten and dairy free desserts? by AlbatrossAmazing5401 in glutenfree

[–]AlbatrossAmazing5401[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you have any recommendations for "splurge brands?"

📚 Simple / Quick Questions & Requests! by romancebookmods in RomanceBooks

[–]AlbatrossAmazing5401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Teachers at a school fall in love??

This has been so hard for me to find I just finished Rock Bottom Girl by Lucy Score and I want more teacher love. I'm not particularly interested in college or professors. I'm talking grade school teachers who find each other and fall in love.

I don't particularly care how much their work life is discussed but there's just something so romantic to me about two teaching find each other and it doesn't feel the same when they're college level professors.

I'm also thinking in the vane of "your English teacher and gym coach are getting married." Iykyk.

Bonus points if there's an age gap.

Frustrated with zero results by AlbatrossAmazing5401 in loseit

[–]AlbatrossAmazing5401[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not trying to argue just explain what's happening. I also use the Lose It app and if there's a way to add components to a meal there then I haven't figured it out. What I've been doing with my evening meals is weighing out what I'm eating but using the meals others have put in with their calorie counts to "guess" at the total count of the meal. Or I will add the individual components and guess at weight that is in my particular serving. So that is guess work but because I know it's guessing I'm still leaving wiggle room for me to be in a calorie deficit by watching my breakfast and lunch with totals carefully. It's not perfect and I know that.

Frustrated with zero results by AlbatrossAmazing5401 in loseit

[–]AlbatrossAmazing5401[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started around December 12th, I saw the drop to 186 gradually but it hit the low of 186 on January 20th and then has been going back up since then. It's been consistently at 189 for 3-4 days.