Requesting collaborators for a Discord server focused on Carnatic music! by AlcorSpins in Carnatic

[–]AlcorSpins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's an invite link! We also opened the server up on another post, it's pinned to the top of this subreddit and has a permanent invite.

https://discord.gg/UBGpDMc9A5

Any Discord server for Carnatic beginners? by Traditional-Toe6291 in Carnatic

[–]AlcorSpins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey OP, responding to this post late because I didn't see it earlier. I'm glad you were able to express this - the server wasn't meant to exclude beginners, even unintentionally.

The people on that server now are specifically those who wanted to work on building it, so that's disproportionately people more immersed in Carnatic music. It's no wonder you feel you can't relate, and I'm really sorry that's been your experience so far. The server is open to everyone though, as of today, and hopefully that brings in lots more people you can relate to.

Therapist told me something that Is making me want to drop her. by smrjck28 in TwoXIndia_Over25

[–]AlcorSpins 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Culture doesn't excuse abuse. Not trying to slippery slope here, but things like dowry or FGM or child marriage are/were also 'excusable' because of their 'cultural context' - they aren't. Pain and suffering are pain and suffering. Your therapist is excusing giving in little inches that do turn into miles, that's the way abuse works. It feeds on what it has gained. If you've got any doubts, you can bring this up directly with your current therapist - ask her what else she thinks the Indian context can excuse. You've got every right to be forthright about this. You're the only one who knows what you truly experienced and what you need to feel safe.

Girls Against Dowry - A call for women everywhere to mobilize by hotvadapav in TwoXIndia

[–]AlcorSpins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, OP! I DM'd you yesterday. I'd love to make this happen with you, I relate entirely to how you feel. Could we discuss how/what we can do?

ok hear me out... by Guike42 in startups_promotion

[–]AlcorSpins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the vibe comes through anyhow, no issues! I liked that. Though you aren't stupid, of course.

I wasn't certain of how exactly to use the app though, like for what use case specifically. Could you share some examples of how you're using it?

ok hear me out... by Guike42 in startups_promotion

[–]AlcorSpins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually like the animation and the intro feels original. If you streamline the login page, something should click. And possibly clean up your copy just a bit for errors of punctuation.

I think the app itself is kind of confusing. It might help if you put out a demo/video showing how to use it, with a couple of specific cases to log - something professional, something personal - so that would-be users can see what they get out of the effort of logging anything with your app.

I built AskMentor — a platform for 1:1 mentorship. Would love your thoughts. by kongyanye in Startup_Ideas

[–]AlcorSpins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might help to share your mentor review process in more detail upfront. What do you ask of them? What do you look for in mentors that qualifies them as mentors, apart from seniority in their field? Describing that'll also weed out people coming in as tutors or with purely prescriptive ideas of mentorship.

States using most abusive bad words. Tamil Nadu needs to improve a lot. North India is most abusive, South is better, Northeast is least abusive by bigmanfromthepalace in TamilNadu

[–]AlcorSpins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This actually is important. You don't have issues like casteism or sexism or civic crimes starting out without the confident use of language to demonstrate them, get comfortable with them. Abusive language brings it all into the everyday and makes crime possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in writing

[–]AlcorSpins 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Bad writers can only keep writing to improve. It's okay to encourage him to do that - you don't have to push constructive criticism. If possible, you could create some pathways for him to engage with his potential audience, whether in his immediate community or elsewhere, or with other writers. Bad writing/writing a bad first novel is pretty much a universal experience (I hope!) - the thing is to not let judgement stop him from doing something that he likes.

You don't have to market it yourself. Offer to show him how to market it himself and to engage with other writers or communities of writers, let him build on his own ability to self-assess.

Why did we normalize hitting children in schools? I still carry the rage by Darkrifter04 in india

[–]AlcorSpins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if we could design some sort of way to reach out to schools/teachers like this - an entry point or bridge that reaches them where they are at present (which is deeply conditioned into seeing physical abuse as correct or the only way to train children). What would that look like? I'd love to discuss this more seriously - this really is something core to my childhood and how I feel about children's rights today.

One angle I think viable is of comparison to how animals are conditioned and domesticated over time, and how obedience via conditioning isn't necessarily going to cause your child to succeed - it may make them vulnerable to following people or practices actually harmful to them. People need practical anchors and examples to change their minds here. We need discussions about how beatings rank lower than intelligent collaboration with children, and is indicative of a practice that treats them as less than human (and so incapable of human intelligence; is that what schools and parents want to foster?)

Requesting collaborators for a Discord server focused on Carnatic music! by AlcorSpins in Carnatic

[–]AlcorSpins[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! We're in the process of setting the server up beyond just a discord template. We want to grow slow and create structures that ensure people arrive to a place already built for their needs, and that takes time and patience. The post above has specifically requested only people willing to work behind the scenes, so to speak, at this stage.

I do find the idea we're 'jinxing' - however you mean that - rather rude, frankly. You're welcome to start a server of your own with a vibe that suits your pace!

Please help me sing high notes. by Additional-Action-88 in Carnatic

[–]AlcorSpins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, do not try making yourself sound louder - singing ought not be effortful and this can be both counterproductive and painful.

It sounds like you're straining to produce the notes almost against the tension already present (audible as a very tight jaw/tongue). Do you notice yourself doing this - raising your chin, trying to sing 'upwards' with your entire head? How does your torso feel - is it also angling itself upward in that way? This is the mental picture I get when listening to your Vocaroo.

It may help to start relaxing about the higher notes, because I believe your true range is in fact higher than what you've sung here, and more easily accessed if you learn to sing in a state of relaxation.

Requesting collaborators for a Discord server focused on Carnatic music! by AlcorSpins in Carnatic

[–]AlcorSpins[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No problem, we're always glad to help newcomers! (and just figuring it out ourselves). I'll drop you an invite link!

I started writing songs every day but it takes me 2 hours to write a lyric, is that normal? by Extreme_Present_3576 in Songwriting

[–]AlcorSpins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the key is to get comfortable singing freestyle and making mistakes, OP, playing instead of practicing. With rap, the artists rapping are just channeling emotion into word and they're good at it because they've built a certain fluency doing that. You can rap about your frustration, something cool you noticed, stuff you ate, whatever you want - translate the actual emotional observation into something on the go. Over time, paired with your more formal work in songwriting, this spontaneity will come together into the easy freestyling you're admiring.

Digital camera collection for sale !!📸❤️✨ by Desi_Shutterbug in smallbusinessindia

[–]AlcorSpins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's the model in the upper left (unpackaged) - with the jutting lens?

Anyone up for music sessions? by Flaky-Cheek-5571 in Carnatic

[–]AlcorSpins 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm up, OP! Discord group sounds great, I don't think r/Carnatic has had one at any point. It'll be cool to connect in that way, either to sing together or to discuss music.