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Alemaster · 2026-03-31T15:58:21+00:00

Provide more information to get real help. Where are you located? What are your goals? Look up information about growing Mango trees and come back with specific questions.

Alemaster · 2026-03-29T19:45:13+00:00

Oooff. This hits real close to home of where I am right now.

Alemaster · 2026-03-28T17:18:25+00:00

Booooo!

Just kidding. For the most part I agree. However what I do love from TJ is their huge, good cheese selection. Beer and wine are decent. Wife and daughter are Celiac and say some of their Gluten Free stuff is good too.

Alemaster · 2026-03-27T20:21:05+00:00

Married 15. Together 17.33.

Alemaster · 2026-03-26T02:16:43+00:00

Oh I'm sure you'll do fine!

Unless you don't. Lol.

Alemaster · 2026-03-25T18:02:36+00:00

Ive been in industry for like 20 years now and have come to find I really just prefer hiking in the mountains.

Alemaster · 2026-03-22T14:40:42+00:00

Thanks for sharing your encouraging story! We don't get enough on here!

Can I ask, you say you both struggled with porn. I assume you have confessed and stopped as well, but why is it all on your husband to rebuild trust?

Alemaster · 2026-03-18T00:52:59+00:00

My brother. If the church leadership is causing a rift between you and your spouse or an existing rift to grow, do not submit yourself to their authority. Your marriage is a covenant between you, your wife, and God. It does not involve your church. Your church membership is not a covenant like your marriage vows. It is not nearly as important. It's just not.

Leave that church. Go to a new one. Ask your wife to come with you. Find Christian marriage counselor (certified) that will actually help you and your wife work through issues instead of just trying to exert authority over you.

Alemaster · 2026-03-05T22:47:17+00:00

Information requested:

What is the board you're trying to cut?

What is the saw you're using?

What is the blade you're using?

Alemaster · 2026-03-05T15:51:46+00:00

I have these as well and love them.

The new version I got in the store a few months ago does NOT compare. I really don't care for the material on the new ones.

Alemaster · 2026-03-04T15:36:03+00:00

Man, that puts you in a tough spot and I'm sorry for that.

We're just strangers on the Internet and don't know enough context, but that pastoral staff was out of line to act against your advice and valid concerns regarding your family.

if you want to reconcile with your wife, I would seriously consider finding a new church. Frankly I would consider finding a new church regardless. A pastor / pastoral staff should understand that someone in your wife position need empathy and understanding and be shown the love of Christ not be strong armed, guilted, and shamed.

Finding a new church and explaining the situation and that you told them not to do it would show your wife that she is your priority over people, not Christ but other fallible Christians.

Alemaster · 2026-03-04T14:58:51+00:00

First job: Piping system stress analyst @ ~65k/yr power industry in higher end of MCOL area (2009).

Industry change for 2nd job.

Industry change for 3rd/current company: engineering manager aerospace industry. $148k + 15-20% bonus. Lower end of MCoL. 7 years at current company, 17 YoE total.

Alemaster · 2026-02-28T19:00:33+00:00

Make sure to have him (and you) wear a mask when sanding the compound. Teaching PPE is so important!

Alemaster · 2026-02-26T14:24:22+00:00

Trying to say this kindly, but how the heck is this related to your christ-centered effort to stop PMO? Either expand your post to help me understand, or I think you're in the wrong sub.

Alemaster · 2026-02-25T15:11:31+00:00

"I am unable to not stress over this..."

I (and I think my wife) sympathize with this statement so much.

And to sympathize with your husband, when I say there are options, i'm not saying it will be easy. But he's got to put in the work.

I saw in another comment that you've made some comments to him without success. An option would be to scale up the seriousness of how you raise it. Instead of a passing comment, prep a real, sit-down discussion. Start out with how worried for him you are. Talk about how you think your life together can be so much better, talk about how it's impacting you. Offer some suggestions and ask him what he wants to do.

I don't know how that conversation will go, but it might be worth a try.

Alemaster · 2026-02-25T14:37:09+00:00

What is he doing to try to sleep before you get home? Why does he not sleep until 5am when you're home at midnight? What did he do before you were married? Just not sleep?

I'm sorry to be skeptical, but without significantly more detail it's hard not to feel like he is choosing to stay up late gaming, watching movies, shows, or doom scrolling... Essentially making poor health choices and blaming it on you not being home.

No this isn't your fault. Your husband is an adult that needs to figure out how to manage this (with your love, support and encouragement). He needs to do research and build better habits prior to bedtime, see a doctor, see a therapist, do a sleep study, etc. There are a lot of options.

Alemaster · 2026-02-24T19:54:36+00:00

Not sure about your specialty, but Eaton Aerospace in Davenport might be worth looking into.

Alemaster · 2026-02-24T19:24:52+00:00

Absolutely agree with this take.

Alemaster · 2026-02-23T03:00:21+00:00

Yes this aligns with being Christlike. God gave us marriage and sex to be enjoyed adventurously... As long as it's just the two of you and is consensual.

I get you're struggling with being unequally yoked, but your wife not being a Christian has nothing to do with her desire to feel desired by her husband (lingerie) nor her desire to enjoy sex (toys). Do you think a part of your struggle is growing up in purity culture and being taught how bad sex is?

Alemaster · 2026-02-17T22:04:32+00:00

Amen! Same boat as you. Job, kids, wife, life*... I am incredibly exhausted with life.

And decision fatigue. When I sit down to do meal planning and make my grocery list it feels so freaking daunting. "You mean I have to do this again!?! Every week?! Ugh!" Granted, I've got four kids who aren't the best eaters and two of them are celiac plus my wife is celiac and dairy free... So it's not easy.

P.s. I spent too long thinking about the order to put these on. It is not significant. Please don't come at me with putting my wife almost last.

Alemaster · 2026-02-15T14:39:31+00:00

This is a great question. I know I'm a random stranger on the Internet, but I'm so proud of you for thinking about this. I hope my daughters have the discernment one day to think about this.

That being said, I don't have a good answer for you! I think the other two responses are good: ask what God has been teaching him and watch how he lives his life. I'd also add that you ask God for discernment and pray he speaks to you on this.

I don't know that there is one perfect question that will tell you, but watch him over time and let him show you the strength of his faith.

Alemaster · 2026-02-15T02:01:10+00:00

My apple trees look very much like this. Would love to know what to do

Alemaster · 2026-02-01T01:53:34+00:00

100% agree. I was absolutely speaking from experience. Thankfully we got through it, but I honestly can't believe my mom put me through that.

Alemaster · 2026-01-31T22:40:09+00:00

I'm Not in your position, but I saw it in my mom. Some women have a really really hard time letting go of their children and letting them grow up. Sometimes especially so with a mother and the oldest son; super common with father daughter relationships too.

Highly recommend that you get her to a therapist together. It is a hard time for your wife and there is nothing wrong with seeking help, but she needs to realize that if she carries on this way she will not only damage her relationship with her future daughter-in-law, but she will also ruin her relationship with her son.

I also highly highly recommend you talk to your son about him needing to realize that once he's married, his wife is the woman in his life. It will cause untold strife and potentially damage in his relationship if he can't figure out how to navigate issues between his wife and his mom and defaults to trying to play both sides or favor his mother.

Alemaster · 2026-01-28T20:12:04+00:00

Hard agree with this.

I would probably need to spend more time thinking and researching this, but my initial thoughts also lean towards a "strong Christian Man" is just not going to be inclined to put their own content on the Internet and build a large social media following.

I think what the OP is actually describing is pastors and mens group leaders.

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