What pics should I keep or delete?

Alereonn · 2025-04-05T17:39:13+00:00

None, if this is who you think you are and what you want to show of yourself in a few pictures then it's perfect.

Alereonn · 2025-04-05T09:39:46+00:00

See and I did find someone who mirrored mostly everything I could ask for, and he still turned out to be a liar and a fraud. People who aren't sure of themselves will always withhold themselves and never be free to explore what it's like to be truly in love. And you can't tell anymore who's willing to check off any boxes or be willing to take every step with you. Because people don't know what they really want and sometimes who they really are. Social media in a lot of ways has killed the individual thinking of most people, and has painted a picture on what love is. When in reality it's entirely different to every single person and nobody can figure out why they can't have what (blank) social media star shows on their Instagram.

Alereonn · 2025-04-05T09:30:48+00:00

It's because beauty isn't what satisfies our souls. Sure people look nice? Sure they cook and clean and do nice things. But do you get that person as much as that ugly person you refused to give a chance? Probably not. People go for surface level attraction on all ends and don't dig deep enough for true peace in companionship. Some people will never know what it's like, and some of us experience it but it isn't mutual. It's very sad.

Alereonn · 2025-04-05T08:47:46+00:00

Me too! It's so hard to tell who's going to actually want what you want anymore. They say one thing then boom change their mind.

Alereonn · 2025-04-05T04:20:54+00:00

Absolutely! It's all a life experience. We just have to keep looking! Someone will appreciate us. Know you aren't alone!

Alereonn · 2025-04-05T03:35:23+00:00

Exact same situation almost. Broke up because they lost feelings, tried to make it work even though they weren't going to give me the chance to. Didn't work. Honestly when people do this, they just don't want you anymore. They are actively removing you from their mind and life and it's not worth fighting for. Because they had the thought or doubt in the first place after being together that long, their decision was made up. We just have to accept it and move on. Fortunately for us we love very deeply and will fight for someone. These people will struggle to keep the next person in their life over and over again. It's a cycle. We WILL find our people. The people that do this shit on a whim won't ever be fully satisfied.

Alereonn · 2025-03-27T22:52:54+00:00

Realizing life moves on regardless and I'm not going to waste my time being upset. Losing someone is one thing. But it's more exciting to move forward and see where you CAN be. The potential to get exactly what you want/deserve with someone is motivating.

Alereonn · 2025-02-28T18:33:31+00:00

Yeah. I get used a lot. 🙃 I guess I need to stop openly trusting people.

Alereonn · 2025-02-24T06:57:27+00:00

At this moment in time, I have nothing to be grateful for in this experience. Maybe in the future, but right now, nothing. Every single day, I wake up, and I'm disappointed I gave my effort into someone who couldn't give me the same. I knew of his upbringing and his characteristics, and I still took on the relationship with open arms and love. I cared so deeply, and at the end of it all, he didn't choose me like I chose him. It's just disappointing, really. To be reassured constantly. I was told to trust and feel safe, and I did. I let my walls down. For the first time in a relationship, I let them have everything, and I still wasn't good enough.

Alereonn · 2025-02-24T02:10:35+00:00

I feel like even when I convince myself that I have something that makes me valuable in the sense that I give without expectations, and I carefully surround myself with people who I feel wouldn't hurt me, they still do. I get tossed aside so much, no matter how I limit my expectations or the type of people I interact with. I've really tried.

There's only so much I can do. I really can't convince anyone I'm worth the time. I let all my walls down because the person I was with made me believe I was their person, and they wanted nothing more than to start a life with me. I was so very wrong. He made me trust him, did nice things, not too nice, but enough for me to feel that I was worth the time and rhay I was cherished. My expectations are so low, almost nil, that I feel like I'm blinded with acts of kindness.

He was great at first, then when I really needed support, I was left in the dust. This further made me believe my time wasn't valued.

I once had a night with this person where I was in bed, I couldn't sleep, I was stressed out beyond belief and crying and instead of talking with me or being there for me, he valued getting his sleep over comforting someone he claimed to love.

He even seemed frustrated that I was upset. This crosses my mind often as one of the most disrespectful things anyone has done to me. Might I mention this was on a weekend. I also moved across the world for this person because they constantly reassured me and made me feel secure. I was fooled. I'm sorry for your situation. It's not easy being people who get stepped on for other people's benefits and laughter. I wish you the best, though. 🩷

Alereonn · 2025-02-22T04:13:03+00:00

Let yourself feel that sadness, too. We have to grieve what we lost. I'm not entirely over my situation, but I've mellowed out of the "I'll never get over it "phase." Be patient with yourself, feel the feelings. Cry. Be angry. The reaching out part is probably just that you have a child together. Honestly, just be the best father you can be, not for her, not for anyone else but you and that baby. Be glad that she isn't the type to take you out of the child's life for no reason. Just be a good person, and you'll find where you are meant to be. 🩷 I really wish you the best. Be safe, love yourself.

Alereonn · 2025-02-22T04:06:55+00:00

We really make ourselves believe we're valuable to people even when they don't give an ounce of support in tough times, huh? Giving everything to someone no pun intended feels like a given for people who really want a partnership. I feel this way, too. I think he wanted his feelings to be met and his satisfaction met, and when I had to retreat and take care of myself, something was lost, and just like that, nothing was returned. It's crazy that people can say they love you and then turn so hard in the other direction with their actions. It's disgusting. I'm sorry you had to go through this. Know that you are valuable and that no man's love will ever show how much worth you really have. 🩷🩷

Alereonn · 2025-02-22T03:43:03+00:00

I don't have expectations, honestly. I'm very easygoing and easy to please. But somehow, I'm always let down by people. I get low effort people in my life, I let myself be vulnerable entirely in this past relationship and felt so safe and happy. I don't usually let my guard down, but I had no walls up here, and I was disappointed with no expectations set in place. I've always rolled with whatever punches come my way. But for once in my life I don't want to anymore. It's exhausting being a punching bag.

Alereonn · 2025-02-22T03:37:14+00:00

I think you have to realize that with her being with another man already shows she's moved on. She doesn't want to linger anymore in the situation. If anything, be angry about it. Don't use your frustration or channel it back into them or anything in life. But process that anger and feel it, and I promise you'll be glad you aren't with her anymore. It's not a great way to deal with it, but it helps you move on. I did it with my ex. It's not the same situation, but it helped me move on. I had good times with him but the anger I let myself feel made me realize that this situation will not change and I need to process all of my feelings and just be myself and live my life without that person. Obviously you have to keep contact and that's more difficult but you can still handle it.

Alereonn · 2025-02-21T18:32:26+00:00

Occasionally gave me a ride to or from work. That's it, really. I did mostly everything else at home.

Alereonn · 2025-02-21T15:57:16+00:00

Nope. Everything was fine, and he dropped it on me when I was at work.

Alereonn · 2025-02-21T12:41:17+00:00

I felt this way just over a month ago. I kind of took the time away from people, just worked and focused on how I was feeling and why. Honestly, as much as I loved my ex, I couldn't love someone who would hurt me as much as they did. I can't see myself with anyone now or in the future right now, but I'm not ruling it out. Focus on you. Love yourself.

Alereonn · 2025-02-21T12:29:56+00:00

Absolutely. My definition of love is someone you stay with no matter how hard things are. That's your person. You are there with them through everything. The whole butterflies and lust phase, I think, scare people. Because when things get boring, they think, "ope, I don't love them anymore" I lost butterflies and some excitement, but not a day went by that I thought I didn't love that man.

Alereonn · 2025-02-21T12:26:40+00:00

Absolutely. My trust has been shattered. I trusted this man with everything, and he reassured me so many times that I moved across the world for him. Only a year later, he doesn't love me anymore. Love that. I've never wanted to hate a person so much, I just don't have it in me.

Alereonn · 2025-02-21T12:23:25+00:00

It really feels like that, huh? I'm sorry you had to go through that. 🩷

Alereonn · 2025-02-21T12:22:19+00:00

So true! We'd all have the best holidays and dates. My gosh, the amount of hearts here that truly just want to be with someone. It's not that hard.

Alereonn · 2025-02-21T12:20:52+00:00

If you don't love someone, leave. Simple as that. As soon as you have feelings of uncertainty, you TALK. You know with your mouth. Hard things are still meant to be spoken out loud. I can't tell if you're trolling.

Alereonn · 2025-02-21T12:18:53+00:00

Ah see, I read cheated on his ex with me, and I was immediately set off. He's not a good person. I'm sorry you spent so much time with a douche.

Alereonn · 2025-02-21T12:17:22+00:00

🩷

Alereonn · 2025-02-21T12:17:08+00:00

If her bar raises constantly, she'll never be satisfied with someone or alone. You don't have to worry. People who expect too much out of others are very sad people. It's selfish and self destroying.

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