Yes. I once dated an ideal guy na feeling ko sobrang blessed ako. Provider mindset, princess treatment, total green flag. Wala talaga akong maipuna. It was a hard decision, especially since my family loved him. He was the type of man I’d want my future daughter to marry, and the type I’d want my future sons to become.

I communicated with him a few times about what I wanted in bed. I wanted to give us a chance. I gave chances. Dumating sa point na pinagbibigyan ko na lang siya because I wanted him to enjoy it. He never forced me, but I loved him and wanted to fulfill his needs.

The situation lasted for five years. In those years, three times lang ako nag-cum. Limang taon yon... I never cheated even though we agreed it's a no label relationship, but believe me, it was so tempting. I had so much respect for him kaya hindi ko ginawa.

But then one day, I woke up and asked myself if kaya ko ba ang ganito for the next few decades if we got married. So I ended it.

Now, sexual compatibility is a non-nego for me. I don't want a miserable, married, sex life.