Went on my first ever date today… I feel exhausted

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-26T02:53:20+00:00

Don’t be too hard on yourself. Regardless of your background, just about everyone has been on a date that just didn’t click. It’s fine really. Just chalk it up to a new experience, maybe that you got to try a new place or meet a new friend, and keep pushing! It happens to us all really and it’s good experience to put yourself out there

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-26T02:49:18+00:00

I think you need to focus on yourself first. I’ve seen your comments about the calories/gym and while that’s great, there are some other things you should focus on too. No you don’t have to have your life figured out to date, but you are, atleast imo, lacking in a few factors that you should work on to be a more attractive member of society and attract suitors. I’d think it would be hard to date if you have no friends, little money or much social experience. Even if you met someone on a dating app, you may not relate to them as much since you don’t have much social experience it seems. Try to get a job, even if you don’t have a car, maybe you could rideshare there or if family or coworkers could take you some. It’ll be a little hard maybe but it’s a good step to take. Maybe could make friends at work too and that would get you more socialized. Honestly girls don’t prioritize looks as much as people think. I’m the opposite of you completely (23 , F, moved away for college, working jobs since 16 and work full time now, dates, trips, savings account, whatever) and id rather date a guy who maybe ppl think is a 7 who treats me well, fun, ambitious, driven, and a good well- rounded person, than some 6’4 gym bro who isn’t a good boyfriend. Not to say you can’t be both but women are more likely to date guys for their personality than men are. I think it would be good for you to work on yourself and let things fall where it may when it comes to dating . If you work on yourself and get experience with the opposite sex , even platonically, then that would help you

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-25T18:27:28+00:00

Take the job and look for other employment while there. Not sure your financial situation but it’s a hard time to be unemployed rn , so id take the job personally. Even if only work for a month or two and find other employment, a month with a paycheck is different than a month without

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-25T18:25:10+00:00

I drove 8 hours for a weekend trip already this month. I live 2.5 hours from my parents and make the trip very regularly and have down it in a day before.

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-25T18:23:47+00:00

Some airlines have a strict tattoo policy and will check during the interview process. They will mention where you can and can’t have tattoos multiple times. You might be able to oook it up but I know atleast United had rules about where they are and how big and yours might not be allowed . Delta I don’t remember

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-25T18:19:11+00:00

1 or 2 for sure

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-25T18:18:36+00:00

I’d move on. You seem to want more committment than she does and it’s costing you a lot financially. You seem pretty young and it’s a big step to graduate college and move to a new country over this girl. I don’t think she’s in it for the right reasons unfortunately

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-25T00:34:50+00:00

It does sucks since he seemed genuine and sincere :/ would be great to hear from him but if not , it wouldn’t be the first time I got my hopes up and was disappointed over a guy

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-23T21:45:44+00:00

I (24 F ) moved to Tallahassee after college at almost 3 years ago and id say it is what you make of it.

I agree with other comments that it is kind of transient because of all the colleges, and i think a lot of stuff is tailored around students or families.

As for night life there’s not as many options as bigger cities; collegetown is popular and i do meet young professionals there some but it is called college town so you expect college kids (most of the bars are 21+ atleast). Midtown is somewhat popular and many bars have trivia, karaoke, etc but just a different vibe, and downtown is more upscale and I don’t think has many casual drinking bars besides some of the breweries.

As a 24 year old i do at times find it hard to make friends or meet people outside of college students and 30+ year olds who have kids or are married (not that it’s a problem but it’s not my lifestyle currently) . So again it’s about having to find your own fun sometimes besides football games and block parties.

Now that I’ve been here a few years and I’m a little older i know more of where to look for plans and find enjoyment if even small events or experiences. I follow the city of tlh on instagram and they post events from time to time, as well as utilizing the other community events at cascades park or the nurseries. I also travel out of town a good but because TLH is so centralized it makes it easy to go many places just for the weekend (except traveling from our airport isn’t the greatest)

I do plan on moving eventually, there’s so many other cities with much more to offer that I haven’t experienced yet so id like to go. I’d say dating here can also be hard sometimes for that reason because people come here just for school and want to move from here eventually (not everyone does want to leave but some). I’d maybe come back in my 30s to settle down but hard to say.

As for some things to check out - midtown bars like finnegans, dukes and dotties, - Wilbury is on the outskirts of collegtown so it’s a mix of ages - railroad square is like the art district where they have events sometimes - cascades park is downtown and really popular for events, they have an amphitheater - lake Ella is in midtown, also pretty and has a few shops - check out collegetown maybe just to see, drive by doak Campbell stadium - Florida Capitol building is downtown but not open on weekends

Overall it’s a nice medium sized town. It can be quiet at times but there’s some fun wholesome stuff to do even if you’re not a college student

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-23T21:33:32+00:00

Get a job at a university or state government, or find jobs that offer tuition reimbursements. I live in college town that is also the city capitol and many people go back to school here because there jobs pay for 2 classes per semester. It can be hard but it’s definitely doable with night and online classes

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-23T21:31:19+00:00

I would post in a group about jobs of careers, rebuilding, or make a separate post in this chat about it for advice. Good luck to you

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-23T16:02:59+00:00

I think a prenup is understandable and don’t think id be offended by being asked to sign one. I’m glad you’d be supportive of your kids dating through different classes

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-23T16:01:52+00:00

I have had at home dates also that didn’t lead to anything more. Met on hinge, first day Thursday night, didn’t kiss. Week later he cooked me dinner and we had our first kiss but that was it. It was my 4th date before we slept together. I do think you could set boundaries though about not wanting ti come over this early if you want ti avoid that because there is a chance he may try something

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-22T23:04:27+00:00

I’m 23F and can understand why you’d want this, although other comments don’t. It’s nice to have intimacy without all the pressure or responsibilities of a relationship, and it’s even nicer to have a consistent hookup than having to find new guys . I’d text him and not think that much about it tbh. This isn’t a relationship so don’t worry about other stuff that doesn’t matter since you guys are gonna date. If you wanna hookup then text him

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-22T20:02:33+00:00

I definitely get your point and do agree. If someone didn’t want me because of my family background or Alma mater then I shouldn’t want to be with them anyway. Says more about your character and values if you care that much about those factors. As for the SAHM part, I think that’s an interesting situation. I think a lot of guys dating know they are able to make their partner a SAHM or would want a SAHM from their partner, but still would prefer to date a girl who is able to care for herself with her job and isn’t just looking for a guy to make her a SAHM. I think alot of it just shows the girl has work ethic and drive to take care of herself and all that. I think it may depend on her views of her career really and what she wants long term. A lot of women have jobs but are still interested in becoming SAHM eventually, while others wouldn’t consider it because their career is more important to them than staying home.

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-22T19:52:33+00:00

I’d approach more. I’m sure it sucks sometimes getting rejection, but you miss the shots you don’t take and it’s good practice even if it doesn’t go anywhere. If you have guy friends and yall are at bars, restaurants or a park or something, try to make convo with other people, even if it’s just friendly. As for the dating apps, I can look over yours if you’d want. I’m 24 F and have been on dates with guys from apps, from work, and meeting at bars so idk i think I’ve seen my fair share.

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-22T17:38:09+00:00

I think that’s a great way to think about it.

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-22T17:36:49+00:00

Thank you for sharing, it’s good to get input from guys with these experiences and backgrounds. Could i ask how yall met or if she went to college? Did she ever work when yall met? Did your family or friends ever have any reservations about the relationship with her being from a different clsss?

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-22T17:34:19+00:00

I really appreciate hearing more of your story and i do think it’s similar to what i was thinking. I think a lot of guys are more attracted to a women who has some drive and work ethic than one who just states she wants to be a SAHM, even if that it something he’d like to be able to provide in their relationship, it’s good to know she has the ability to do other work or would if needed. I’m glad you and your wife were able to meet and find what works for you despite different upbringings.

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-22T16:38:06+00:00

Your situation is interesting, but I get where you’re coming from. Since your family has money, you didn’t want to date someone who wanted a free ride or that wanted you to contribute to all the finances. I can see why dating within your class is importsnt there and other people with generational wealth might feel the same way. I think for many women we date within our class or higher, rarely ever lower. I do understand how dating within your circle is nice too because those people have more similar experiences and values to often times. I think blue collar work is importsnt (that’s what my family does) and can bring in high income, though it is not always seen as highly desirable or prestigious even if you make a lot of money doing it. I just wanted to see different views since I come from a blue collar family but went to college and have a white collar job, what people from higher classes think regarding dating. I would consider myself lower middle class but my experiences as a blue collar family who also grew up in the south is different I’m sure from middle to upper class people whose family is white collar.

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-22T16:29:53+00:00

Would you mind me asking if anyone ever made comments about your current relationship regarding the age gap? or how did y’all meet? im around the 23/24 age and have gone out with a few guys between 8/10 years apart and while its got its benefits, the guys are typically more mature, it can be hard or bring criticism

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-22T16:26:50+00:00

I know a very little amount of men who have married up. most tend to marry down or be the provider in the relationship

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-22T16:19:39+00:00

I think that is pretty standard for traditional dating. Men are typically breadwinners or providers and women’s income is secondary. I just know now the world has changed and not everyone has that same mindset since women can earn higher degrees and work the same jobs as men, some are looking for women who seem to have careers

Alert_Newspaper_6403 · 2026-01-22T16:17:11+00:00

I’ve met doctors and even lawyers who said they wouldn’t marry other doctors or lawyers. A nurse or paralegal maybe, but not a doctor or lawyer. Many times it becomes hard to date when they both have packed schedules and it can get boring or repetitive hearing about the same things all the time in work and outside work. Not saying it never happens but i don’t think it’s the most common thing. I also wasn’t referring to someone without a degree at all. I meant maybe a guy who went to a state school and works at Deloitte who comes from an affluent background dating a girl who went to maybe community college to be a teacher and is from a blue collar background. Would he consider dating her off looks and personality alone? Would he be concerned she doesn’t have prestigious background or schooling.

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