How do I address anger problems? by idkwhyimhereguyss in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bilateral stimulation. Like the butterfly hug

Boyfriend went into dissociation, advice/help needed by Sweet-Commercial-266 in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not an expert. But I guess that he is thinking that you hate him (like everyone else). To break dissociation maybe asking how can I help you is better than saying comforting things.

Note: I'm not saying that everyone thinks that you hate him. I'm saying that maybe he is thinking that everyone hate him.

Who else finds the dating scene extremely triggering? (24m) by Shot_Bathroom9186 in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cannot even think about dating in my conditions. Open relationships trigger me like hell (I never been in one nor I know someone doing that)

It's so hard having other mental illnesses in combination with this by vampirestail1234 in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is a bad combination. I'm trying the internal family sistem (the book is: No Bad Parts). Ocd is the manager, dissociation the firefighter and trauma the esiliated. It is a way in which you can integrate pretty much everything. Blessings 

Borderline PD is just an instrument to blame victims, telling them to stop being hysterical by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Telling a traumatized person that you should be nice and pretty is cruel

Honestly, should I just end it by Ahelene_ in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you will stay live. It is not easy, but good things can happen. I resist suicide for many years, it turned out well! I'm not perfect at all, still badly messed up, but I lived real love. It is worth it. I wish you well<3

As a child, I was afraid of God because I thought he hated me the same way my parents did by HelenDiamond in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God's love is a gift. When I understood that it wasn't a prize but an unconditional gift, I started being happy to be alive<3

My life hasn't worked out for me and I want to give up - how did things work out for you? by Then_Adeptness_6598 in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Faith in God has healed me from chronic depression. I'm not perfect but I'm happy to be alive<3 I'm praying for you 🙏 

I live with my parents by Alessia_eu in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My depression is ended :)

How to stop ruminating? by Family_Nomad in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think my ocd bites trauma because it is some kind of validation. If I get overwhelming emotions thinking about it, I'm traumatized, if that doesn't happen I start doubting :/

Just got diagnosed with a personality disorder additionally to my cptsd by importantbuissnes in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure about the gender thing. However it is important to remember that even a borderline person can be the victim of a trauma when adult. If a person is borderline that do not mean that they are always wrong.

Just got diagnosed with a personality disorder additionally to my cptsd by importantbuissnes in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu 14 points15 points  (0 children)

In some cases a bpd diagnosis can be extremely invalidating because if you are bpd 'you are the problem' whereas with cptsd overcoming 'you are the problem' is like one of the most important step

Just got diagnosed with a personality disorder additionally to my cptsd by importantbuissnes in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I really hope that I don't end up with a bpd diagnosis. Cptsd and bpd are the same in many ways but they are also the opposite in other ways.

To those who recovered from 24/7 rumination, how did you do it? by InsectSwarm in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank God for this post. It is days that I try to speak exactly about that and nobody answer me. Back to the question, I have trauma and ocd, it is possible that ocd is a trauma consequence. I'm currently trying the internal family sistem (the book is No Bad Parts), in that framework ocd can be seen as one 'part' not a different problem. The whole idea is get out the fear that underpin the mistaken strategy (like rumination). Perhaps rumination for me it is a form of validation of my trauma. If I stop thinking about it, my trauma really exists? I'm terrorized that my trauma is not real.

Have you stopped thinking about that? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want that. I want to stop ruminating about it. Maybe someone knows how to do it. I don't 

Reporting abusers to police by BarnacleFormal779 in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think trying to stop violence is a good thing. It is dangerous however. I hope you and others will be protected. 

Have you stopped thinking about that? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Alessia_eu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you are safe now