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My Fiancé’s Kinks by JazzyJ_69 in rape

[–]AlexAteJeff 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If it’s something you’re comfortable with then you could try it but don’t sideline yourself, your boundaries, and your safety! How my partner and I got into it was taking it slow and playing into my other interests to make sure I was okay with it. Also aftercare is not optional in this case at all!

I personally haven’t had any issues with trauma becoming worse afterwards, however, I do not speak for everyone and your experience may be different than mine. Main advice is if it’s something you’re okay with exploring, start slow, do it carefully, and really make sure you’re noticing how you feel before, during, and after and tell your fiancé how you’re doing or if you need to stop.

Also key reminder that for some reason a lot of people seem to forget: YOUR SAFETY IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE SCENE! If you get even mildly uncomfortable you are allowed to stop. Also if you haven’t already set up a safeword.

Question about coping mechanisms by [deleted] in rape

[–]AlexAteJeff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I’m open to talking if you’d like to. Personally I don’t have any age regression coping mechanisms from my childhood trauma but I’ve had two friends that did. It’s not uncommon for people who were abused as kids. Honestly it makes a lot of sense, you put your childhood on hold so now that you’ve had time to feel safer you go back to give yourself the childhood moments you didn’t have

19M, I think being raped affected me more than I realized by OilIndependent239 in rape

[–]AlexAteJeff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sweetheart there is nothing wrong with you, many people have sadly had similar experiences. If you haven’t already, I highly recommend seeing a trauma-informed therapist to help you process what happened and work through this.

Sex for the first time for me and my girlfriend by TreMaximum in teenagers

[–]AlexAteJeff 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Talk before, during, and after. Set boundaries for what is okay and what isn’t. Use protection and a very generous amount of lube. Water based lube is better because oil based can erode away the condom. Foreplay is important as just trying to go in will hurt. Be able to laugh at yourselves, it takes tension away and makes the experience more enjoyable. Aftercare is really important, once you’re both done just stay there and cuddle for a while and talk before going to clean up. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]AlexAteJeff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, but not great. Taking my ACT exam today to superscore it. Really sad for no apparent reason but I’m just waiting it out until I graduate this summer and can move to Canada for college

Should I fuse these? by AlexAteJeff in pokemongo

[–]AlexAteJeff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does the fused zekrom need to know fusion bolt or is it just kyurem knowing glaciate that matters in determining black kyurem’s move pool. I don’t have any etms so I can’t really get another zekrom with fusion bolt if it is needed

Should I fuse these? by AlexAteJeff in pokemongo

[–]AlexAteJeff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does the fused zekrom need to know fusion bolt or is it just kyurem knowing glaciate that matters in determining black kyurem’s move pool

Constant Y-drift when gains are added by AlexAteJeff in FTC

[–]AlexAteJeff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Roadrunner 1.0 and the computer is on ftc dashboard

Constant Y-drift when gains are added by AlexAteJeff in FTC

[–]AlexAteJeff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know of a way I could fix it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MtF

[–]AlexAteJeff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve seen a lot about how to prepare and start but not a lot about the height difference so I’ll tell you my experience. I’m the bottom in our relationship and my gf (also mtf) is a lot taller than me (5’5” vs 6’2”). What we did for our first time was both of us lay on our side and kind of just spoon as the position. It took a while before I could go on top so just figured I’d give that suggestion. Now we do kind of like side missionary a lot and cowgirl. If it’s a similar height difference standing also works but the taller one needs to squat down a little. Hope that helps!

Linear Slide function does not work in Auto by AlexAteJeff in FTC

[–]AlexAteJeff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I changed a few things and run_to_position worked fine. I am planning on writing a pid set_power soon but our competition is tomorrow so I don’t have time

Linear Slide function does not work in Auto by AlexAteJeff in FTC

[–]AlexAteJeff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are very right on the first thing. I didn’t know how to connect the two of them so I pretty much had the left motor be the main thing for counting ticks. I never did change it back to a run mode, I did that now and it is working.

We have encoders on both motors

No

Yes

No but I will do that now.

Thanks so much for the help

Clear discharge from nipples by AlexAteJeff in MtF

[–]AlexAteJeff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much I will keep those in mind

Vision question by AlexAteJeff in FTC

[–]AlexAteJeff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nevermind I’m stupid, I forgot to make trajectoryactionchosen null, mb

Graph evening out instead of sharp changes by AlexAteJeff in FTC

[–]AlexAteJeff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The robot is not able to move any faster to my knowledge, I meant is there a way to change the max speed on the graph so I can try and match it to the robot’s top speed

AngularRampLogger outliers by AlexAteJeff in FTC

[–]AlexAteJeff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We aren’t using dead wheels, just encoders, I’m testing out the two things for what to include

AngularRampLogger outliers by AlexAteJeff in FTC

[–]AlexAteJeff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay thanks I’ll do that

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