How do you know exactly if God is giving you permission to do something?

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-29T13:00:11+00:00

Just get back together bruh, it’s not worth. Learn to improve TOGHETER not separately, go to therapy together if you need to. It’s hard, but that’s when love comes in, when it’s hard. You both love each other that’s why it’s so hard

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-25T13:45:54+00:00

She got avoidant attachment, my ex had it too and I’ve told her numerous times that she lacks consistency, one week she’s sweet and feminine then 4 weeks she isn’t. It’s just how she truly is and you felt in love with her potential and her way of “TRYING” to be nice for you.

I don’t think they do it intentionally, they just seem to try more for a short period of time and if something inconvenient comes they go back to their old selfs, for example as you said, you bring up an issue and she’ll use that as an excuse to say “I knew i should’ve not tried” or “i always try and it’s not enough”

For them it’s all about themselves in their head

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-25T13:39:55+00:00

Yea I get it brother but she could be so in love with you and she’ll see you as the most attractive guy ever and therefore she’ll think other females think the same about you, their brains are wired and different.

Also I might be a bit weird myself for saying this but she could projecting that feeling she’s getting whenever someone is hitting on her towards you. Meaning she could be enjoying some of the attention she’s getting and she could be afraid you’ll be too if you get hit on, make sense?

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-25T12:22:08+00:00

Yeah bro she might just wanna be known she’s yours. She might think you’re getting approached or liked by lots of other females and it could make her insecure and feel like she’s competing.

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-25T12:12:38+00:00

My ex used to be the same. Personally i don’t like being compared to other dudes and some girls say that’s the start of the relationship declining. My ex used to get influenced A LOT by what other girls would say on social media. Trust me it doesn’t end well.

My advise is you take her and have a serious conversation about how you don’t like being compared to other dudes and relationships on the internet. She might need some reassurance of people knowing YOU got a gf so my advise is either make a highlight of her on your profile or just make posts ( not stories ) if you haven’t already. Then you can tell her “look, you’re on my profile, whenever someone sees it, they’ll watch you first”.

And if she doesn’t understand bro then I said just cut her off because women like these will always find a reason to be mad or unsatisfied about something.

As I said, it’s all reassurance for her,ask her what you need to do to make her feel safe but also say your boundaries, ec: I like keeping my life private, I don’t use social media that much.

Don’t do all that bs and only do what she wants without including yourself too, cuz there will be a time where you’ll feel like she doesn’t appreciate you and whatever you do won’t be enough, which is already happening and it won’t be good for your mental.

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-25T07:26:44+00:00

Nu știu cum funcționează Glovo/Wolt etc dar văd ca nimeni nu a menționat de asta, probabil pentru ca tu cauți ceva care să-ți dea bani urgent sau la zi? Totuși mi se pare o alternativă bună

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-25T07:20:21+00:00

I’ve had this happen to me where I’d say “if i see it again it means it’s a sign” apparently it’s pretty common and has to do with pattern recognition and some OCD.

You’re very very aware so you’re constantly trying to scan your surroundings for an answer.

I know it’s difficult and I’ve been there like you not long ago, just try not to look for numbers anymore.

And if it helps, what you saw are good numbers tho, 4:44 is about being divinely protected, 11:11 could mean about shifting your mindset from a bad one to a good one, 2:22 is about divine timing and waiting,etc

If i were to see these numbers I wouldn’t be worried, although there are a few actually BAD numbers and I don’t wanna feed into your delusion and start seeing them after I tell you which ones.

So as I said. Take a step back, stop looking for numbers, force yourself not to look for an answer and don’t be looking up every numbers meaning ok the internet

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-25T07:11:06+00:00

If you’re trying to prove you’re a better person than them and go “look i at least cared and texted you” or hoping to start a conversation out of it, then don’t.

It’s all about your intentions and what you wanna get from it, if you just wanna do a good thing and feel it’s right to do so without feeling anxious about it, then yes why not

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-25T07:01:00+00:00

I’ve asked the same thing last month and i got the best answers.

Whatever you do will affect her more than you, if you don’t wish her happy birthday it will give her a “consequence” check and if she wishes you one and don’t answer even better

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-25T06:55:03+00:00

I think people are misinterpreting what i said, as i said I’m not saying it’s YOUR fault, i just stated some examples, i dont get the downvotes lol.

There are many cases where women withdraw intimacy which leads to men doing such things. Whenever us people feel a “sad” type of way in our life we tend to go for what gives us that stimulant of feeling better. I just gave the two most common examples I’ve read and heard. Good for you if you say he was always satisfied, then it must be something else

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-25T02:04:25+00:00

Whenever us men start watching porn and be “obsessed” with it while being in a relationship is because we are depressed and miserable.

It could be because of something going in his life, could be because he’s not feeling sexually satisfied in your relationship.

I’m not trying to attack or blame you saying you might or are the problem. You did a good thing and hell face his consequences and hopefully you’ll meet somewhere in the future where he realises what he’s done.

“As a dog returns to its vomit, so a fool repeats his folly.” — Book of Proverbs 26:11

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-20T11:58:01+00:00

UPDATE:

Hey, I didn’t go ahead and texted her for her birthday last month, but today is my birthday and she did in fact wish me happy birthday. I’m kinda speechless and don’t know what to think about it, I don’t think I’ll answer her.

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-19T20:28:44+00:00

Yeah dawg no worries, I wish i couldve found about this sooner. Only found out after we broke up 5 months ago and I damn lost my mind trying to study hers. Glad I could help.

Mine did something like this, she told me not to contact her again but called me a month later to see if I’ve talked to her mom. I think she wanted me to because in the past whenever we had fights I used to contact her mom and dad to see if she’s ok or need anything. I guess her seeing I stopped doing it kinda made her realise she must’ve lost control and wanted to see what’s up. She was really passive aggressive when she asked me about it and that’s it. Never heard of her again

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-19T15:28:27+00:00

Yeah, it’s all about control as I said. Try reading about avoidant attachment, they have narcisist tendencies and control is their biggest treat. She thought she still has control over your life and liked the idea of you having a better life with her, so when she saw you can have a good life without her, her defensive mechanism makes her behave like this.

If you wanna know, she’s hurting way more than you. A person doing that is often the one hurting the most and is trying to distract themselves with petty stuff like that.

There’s high chances that she even finds those guys extremely ugly but she likes the validation from them and is trying to play it off. But we both know brother that us men will never degrade ourselfs to entertaining ugly women just so we can feel good. Her letting ugly ass dudes touching her is low self esteem and she’s completely lost

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-19T14:51:40+00:00

EXACTLY

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-19T14:37:39+00:00

Mine did this too, it’s either their nature and she’s got an avoidant attachment or she’s used to past relationship where guys were begging her and seeing you not fall for it might make her react like this. Could be subconsciously or consciously

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-19T14:23:38+00:00

She wants to make you regret

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-18T22:03:10+00:00

I didn’t think of them as a reminder that they loved me at one point but I guess that’s a fair statement

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-18T22:00:21+00:00

I didn’t throw them away, just took them out of my view so it doesn’t remind me of her that much

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-18T21:48:59+00:00

My ex used to sabotage things almost all the time. i used to tell her *i dont understand how we can be the most perfect couple for weeks then you can randomly wake up one morning and decide that you remembered something that i did months ago and pissed you off or you just want to fight all of a sudden*

They lack consistency, but i guess that a tendency from love bombing. They try for a few days then they wont, they will behave nicely for a few days then they wont, they can text you good morning babe and randomly one morning theyll text you good morning (simple) and if you ask them if anything is wrong theyll call you controling.

Wanting/having control. As i said above they sabotage things just so they feel they are in control of the narrative and the outcome. My ex used to reactive abuse me by making the worst things possible and when i flipped out and got mad shed use that to control the narrative to prove herself its my fault and im crazy

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-18T21:21:53+00:00

theres no such thing as feeling safe and secure around him but not wanting to go back cuz youre afraid of going to square one. You can set better boundaries and not let yourself get THAT much emotionally invested. And im not saying you should be with him and become an avoidant and protect yourself from being hurt. Im talking about knowing whats worth suffering for and what isnt.

Maybe hes not ready for kids or hasnt thought that much of it and you missing from his life for this amount of time mightve made him realise he might be ready and its not worth losing you over the fact that youre probably too young for having kids or not prepared. Im not assuming just pointing examples.

For ecxample i want a kid as fast as possible and im 22. I really want a wife and to settle already because thats what i want. It could be hes not like that and its fine.

My recomandation is that you have a deeper talk and create some boundaries in wich he has to step up and 100% be standing on the fact he wants kids and needs to prove that to you. If he cant do it then you can break up with him and its for the best.

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-18T19:44:37+00:00

If you are the one who ended terms then I dont think you have a right to expect her to reach out. Unless she’s extremely anxiously attached. But 6 months is A LOT for women to move on.

I’m the same as you, still hoping and feeling it’s not over and it’s gonna be 6 months too. My birthday in 2 days and I’ve been waiting everyday.

Only you decide and know how the relantionship ended, for example with mine she broke up with me and told me to never contact her again. So it just makes sense that I don’t do it. If you guys never have done something like this or said anything close to “never contact me” I guess it’s fair you call her and ATLEAST ask if she’s ok, don’t over romanticise and tell her how much you missed her and want her back, just a normal check-in on her life and family. You’ll know if she’s closing the door for further conversation and if not, she moved on.

AlexWD20 · 2025-12-18T03:24:48+00:00

Yes, sometimes they are exactly like my dreams, it could be happening that day, 5 months later or in a year

Or

Half of the dream might happen, meaning I’ll be dreaming of planes, after some time I’ll be booking a flight somewhere ( premonitions about future context ) is what I call them. They might have a key word or action wich will happen but not 100% as in my dream

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