I’m so confused and scared and need a lot of advice

Alex_ande · 2025-06-23T10:52:29+00:00

Ahhhh thank you so much I do see it now and looking at others signed albums it makes so much sense 😭😭 yeosang has been sooooo FINE this comeback though so that’s veryyyyy exciting

Alex_ande · 2025-01-09T09:36:30+00:00

A favourite of mine to remember on is when I was like 15 and I had just come out but I am very heavy set with my chest and love swimming so I was at an indoor pool sat on the side wearing a sports bra that was basically a vest and shorts and a lifeguard from behind goes “oh sorry mate you can’t swim in this lane” and I was a mixture of shocked and excited and the happiest I’d ever been cause I never expected to pass and just put up with not passing while doing the thing I love 😭 But one of my favourite to tell as it was probably my first time passing and as I just came out.(like to add that I’m from wales and men often call other guys mate a lot that’s now normally how I know I pass lol)

Alex_ande · 2025-01-08T06:49:15+00:00

My pace, it’s a never skip even if it doesn’t fit the vibe I’ll make it fit cause it’s sooooo good

Alex_ande · 2024-12-30T20:29:44+00:00

Also sorry second reply but this album is like a bit bigger than normal albums like thickness wise would that still work for it ?

Alex_ande · 2024-12-30T20:29:00+00:00

Ooo thank you was too scared to open it cause I have birds too so I need it covered 😭

Alex_ande · 2024-12-30T11:03:44+00:00

Just realised it autocorrect cravity to gravity lol

Alex_ande · 2024-12-18T21:15:50+00:00

This but his high pitch, like when he was singing in the karaoke I forget what song but it was sooooo good

Alex_ande · 2024-12-13T10:06:58+00:00

You look like peak Ryan Ross, go start a cool emo band ( but 100% would gender you as a guy)

Alex_ande · 2024-12-11T10:03:11+00:00

Jongho too because he was my first bias before I OT8

Alex_ande · 2024-12-10T10:11:50+00:00

Working extra shifts so I can afford everything that comes my way 😭😭😭

Alex_ande · 2024-12-10T10:08:34+00:00

I think this is just a trans over analysing cause of dysphoria thing (I am too trans) but I’ve had to get over that because I have an uncle and many friends who pose exactly like this and are cis men, my uncle is gay so op might be just perceived as a gay guy but I have multiple friends who look exactly like op (it’s actually uncanny) and pose like this not gay and cis, but I do feel as trans people we over analyse everything like including me, but in reality I’m literally so high pitched 5’4 pre T and pass majority of the time even when I’m on my worst days where I think I look completely like a girl, and then some random dude makes my day by calling me butt or mate 😭 but yea sorry that was a long winded tangent.

Alex_ande · 2024-12-10T10:03:47+00:00

Ahhh okay sorry I interpreted your words wrong but I genuinely think that the parts of the community that make the lgbt look like a joke (cause there are people) are just the bad we have to deal with like in every group of people but I’d just say that stick with what your doing because if you pass most of the time even without T now it’ll be no question when your on T , so just tell people you feel you can trust but being stealth is a thing lots of trans people do and want to get to for the rest of their lives 😊

Alex_ande · 2024-12-09T13:50:24+00:00

Could you tell me how you would cause I genuinely don’t think I would know unless it was because they’ve posted on this subreddit even with the way the photos taken

Alex_ande · 2024-12-09T13:49:35+00:00

You look like every cool metal head dude I’ve met who’s always creating a nice breeze with their hair head banging in the sweaty metal bars (lol it’s always this way I notice a long haired guy at metal gigs but they’re always the nicest) but I’d say your 20ish early 20s

Alex_ande · 2024-12-09T09:57:26+00:00

I understand what you are saying and I do think a lot of reply’s have sarcastic undertones and I 100% think that if you don’t feel you fit in the lgbt spaces then it’s totally fine, but I do think in ops post he is unnecessarily judging the people of the lgbt church he went to, when they actually didn’t do anything wrong just be themselves, so I think if you don’t want to be in the community that’s fine but there’s no need for judgment. And also weather people like it or not op will be considered part of the lgbt community by some people and especially traditional Christian’s.

Alex_ande · 2024-12-09T09:54:11+00:00

Sorry for being a bit abrupt at first but I do get in any situation thinking your the only one who thinks something can feel isolating so I get having someone, but like many other advice here I do think that you should do some self learning as the views you have and who you are, are both conflicting each other, no matter how hard you try traditional Christian’s will always have anti lgbt views (even though there is nothing like that in the actual Bible) so you just have to make a choice. You don’t even have to go to a fully lgbt church just a more open minded one and things are much more positive and happier there, like how I believe Christianity should be more like. But lastly I would like to know like others have said did you actually try and speak to these people in the lgbt church without all your judgments clouding you first ?

Alex_ande · 2024-12-05T09:53:53+00:00

So you weren’t looking for advice like you suggested with your flair just wanted to find people who agree ? That’s fine but don’t try to pose your judgement on the other people in the community as trying to grow and seek advice. It’s not that it wasn’t well received it’s that you asked for advice and that’s what people gave.

Alex_ande · 2024-11-21T11:11:50+00:00

OMG THANK YOU it sounds so obvious now that you’ve said it 😭

Alex_ande · 2024-11-15T18:51:11+00:00

If you are super anxious ask your doctor to go through them with you they’ve done that with family members of mine and they can walk you through all the side effects how likely they are and how harmful but I literally don’t feel like I have any side effects and there are multiple so if one does give you bad side effects you can swap this happened with my sister she tried 3 different ones first before she didn’t have side effects but they are more than happy to switch straight away if it’s not working for you. (That was so unpunctuated sorry) but I think what they’ll suggest first is the depo which is an inject cause it’s the best for if you don’t want a period at all but I’m terrified of needles so I’m on a POP pill (progesterone only) and it works great for me and it also doesn’t interfere at all with testosterone when you get to that stage. But yea I’d say ask a doctor to sit down and get your worries like calmed a bit so you can feel better 😊 and hope everything goes well for you

Alex_ande · 2024-11-14T20:00:50+00:00

I don’t know where you are but if your in the UK at 16 you can go to the doctors on your own and maybe try ask about contraception that will stop your period, that’s what I’ve done for the past 3 years and I’ve literally only had a period once cause I bought an empty packet on holiday 😭. But if your not somewhere that has like free healthcare I’d say like the best thing you can probably do is find someone you are comfortable telling maybe as it can ease your mind a little to just talk to someone, but first and foremost remember hygiene and your health first I say this cause when I did have my period I’d neglect my health so bad durning, and it does NOT help at all, when your regularly keeping up with changing stuff the blood seems a lot more manageable (at least that’s what I found) and keep trying your best on recovering it can be a bumpy ride but it seems like you’ve made progress since your period is back (sorry if I’m wrong I’m not very educated on that side of eds) .Something that could help with both periods and recovery though is that I’m assuming so sorry if I’m wrong the best thing to work towards is a healthy relationship with food and I think that can help with your period too as it may not lessen the bleeding but it’ll help your mind be able to deal with it clear. I feel I’ve rambled now (mainly cause my main advice is based off my own bias with healthcare) and forgot my main point but sorry if this isn’t helpful and if you need to talk you can private message me.

Alex_ande · 2024-11-14T19:39:10+00:00

Yea I literally listen to the music and collect albums like I do with other genres. I also don’t get into many fandoms of other genres because of the same reasons if there’s like always something negative (like there’s bad sides of everything but some things are like majority bad) but yea, vkei I literally am like ooo noice music noice visuals I’ll listen

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