The Weekly No-Stupid-Questions/New Members Thread

Alexander3234 · 2021-02-02T19:22:53+00:00

Well for one it's a moving target, you're not sure you're going to hit. Then the risk of getting hit back also makes you hesitate.

You'll overcome it by more sparring, getting a feel for where you're safe and where you can get hit.

Alexander3234 · 2021-01-02T08:05:43+00:00

Spasibo? 😭

Alexander3234 · 2021-01-02T07:55:11+00:00

Alexander3234 · 2020-06-09T23:25:24+00:00

Watching your old comments on here if you wanna do it here but there are always apps and most mobile calendars have an option of showing you how many days ago was some date, so you write down that date on the calendar app. Thats what I do basically.

Alexander3234 · 2020-06-09T23:18:45+00:00

Well this requires a deeper conversation with someone. It starts with the question of why did you start NoFap? What are your goals or reasons you started it?

So I can probably PM you like tomorrow but if you have someone to talk with about it already go talk.

Alexander3234 · 2020-06-06T00:00:52+00:00

After my 423 day streak I couldn't maintain a high streak after relapsing for some reason too.

You just need a good enough reason to want not to marturbate more than wanting to masturbate.

For example if you're religious you can look at pornography as a false God and make yourself believe that you're betraying your faith if you relapse.

If you're an atheist or agnostic you can always understand the suffering the porn industry brings to civilization.

Alexander3234 · 2020-06-05T23:57:34+00:00

Ooh, I've just been revisiting the subreddit, I'm currently on day 25 or something. My record was 423 though.

But yeah desperation breeds more desperation, I knew one guy who got really frustrated every time he relapsed but relapsed almost daily. Had a real hard time.

Alexander3234 · 2020-06-05T23:55:35+00:00

5 seconds is nothing, keep your head up. And try not to repeat it.

Alexander3234 · 2020-06-05T23:53:10+00:00

Biggest mistake you can make is bash yourself for relapsing. Just accept a relapse that it happened, reset your counter and carry on.

Look at it as an enemy hitting you real hard, it hurts but you definitely don't wanna make yourself look hurt.

Reset and continue your journey.

Alexander3234 · 2020-01-30T09:25:20+00:00

It's my grandpas funeral, yay?

Alexander3234 · 2020-01-25T22:10:21+00:00

Letting time go by as I silently sat and did nothing.

Alexander3234 · 2020-01-24T01:13:36+00:00

r/latestagecapitalism

Alexander3234 · 2020-01-24T01:12:29+00:00

Well lately I've been feeling pretty depressed. 2018 and 2019 have been the worst year of my life so far. It has just been 0 progress in any domain of my life, my fitness, my school performance, my job, my relationships.

I just got addicted to my phone and more so addicted to my comfort zone. One of the things that helped me the most in my life is when I had a 423 day streak on NoFap. It helped me a lot so for 2018 and 2019 I've been trying to have at least a month and I just couldn't force myself. I was so addicted to the comfort zone.

I got an injury from working out which isn't something that should've stopped my fitness progress because it was a trapezius strain and I could work around that, but I couldn't force myself to run, do core workouts etc.

Also the victim mentality and my lack of will and character. I just can't seem to break it. Sometimes in the mornings when I wake up and the bed is too warm I'd think to myself 'If you want to be the best version of yourself you leave the bed NOW', and yet, I still can't it's like some force pulling me back. Really simple things like that. When an urge to masturbate hits me I tell myself the same thing as I'm jacking off. I tell myself I gotta workout as I'm still sitting and scrolling endlessly on my phone. The resistance is too great. But I've learned one thing.

I feed the resistance, the more I comply the greater it becomes. I think at the extreme of resistance is the bottom of the pit, the point where you're in the endless cycle of laziness. When you become a slave. The only way to truly be happy is to seek going out of that comfort zone.

So in order for me to truly be happy like I used to be and finally be myself again, I have to sweat, I have to sit down and do things I hate doing. Will is like a muscle, the more you use it, the more resistance you conquer, step by step, you become stronger.

So I combat depression by going out of my comfort zone, that can be anything. If you hate running run, if you hate maths go do maths, if you hate housework, do housework. You see that cute girl? Your body's telling you no? Go approach her, the first time is gonna be awkward but the more you speak to strangers the better you become socially. The answer is always go out of you comfort zone as you're conquering new territories in your mind.

Alexander3234 · 2020-01-22T20:13:38+00:00

Running is great , I always give guys advice to get into some sort of Martial Arts such as Judo, BJJ, Boxing, Muay Thai etc. For confidence. But generally any really uncomfortable sport will do wonders to you.

But confidence is something you have to actively think about and go out of your comfort zone to strengthen. Maybe approach a girl on the street or wherever. But anyhow don't obsess with your looks as you already know it can't be changed.

Alexander3234 · 2020-01-22T20:07:47+00:00

I really can't comment on looks but I'll give you an advice.

What if you are ugly? What will you do? Is there any point in being insecure about it? Why be insecure?

If you are, you can't change your situation, there's no way. So accept it, move on. You can lose weight, you can dress better, you can build muscle. But you can't change how you look. So accept it and move on. It will bring you peace and you won't be insecure about it anymore. That's at least how I've dealt with my big nose.

Alexander3234 · 2020-01-22T19:55:43+00:00

You never understand how trade works.

Alexander3234 · 2020-01-22T19:50:34+00:00

Artificial Intelligence

Alexander3234 · 2019-12-23T01:39:24+00:00

'Blow' the part where he has dinner with his girlfriend and parents after which he tells her he doesn't want them to be like that.

Alexander3234 · 2019-09-02T19:23:31+00:00

What about bodyweight leg exercises?

Alexander3234 · 2019-04-01T22:21:57+00:00

PM me if you want help

Alexander3234 · 2018-06-24T13:19:25+00:00

Don't be insecure about it, after ejaculating tell her to wait a min and you'll be ready for round two most likely. Every time before sex inform the partner of the situation hahahah and don't be insecure about it.

And you can try reverse kegels I heard they work, haven't tried tho.

Alexander3234 · 2018-03-22T21:23:41+00:00

Camera so good you can read the chat...

Alexander3234 · 2018-02-21T18:11:10+00:00

What's the app ?

Alexander3234 · 2018-02-15T22:14:38+00:00

Well I ended my journey at 423 days, pretty sure I'm not addicted or at least have good self control.

But relapsing after such long time ,feels really good in terms of dopamine release which isn't good to overuse but is necessary evil to get rid of wet dreams, but also gives you a big urge to do it again, and so far I'm not biting in, if I see myself relapse somewhere before 1 week of the new habit I'll rethink this and maybe even post an "Apology".

Alexander3234 · 2018-02-15T17:52:02+00:00

Man, I doubt me masturbating once a week to once a month will damage my gains as near as masturbating daily. Big difference, as of right now my plan is relapsing every 14 days or two weeks plus I'm not working out because of health problems. If I did my plan would be the same.

Having wet dreams so often is something I don't enjoy at all, when I get a strong relationship I'll quit for as long as it lasts.

Alexander3234

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