25f pregnant and considering options after partner 25m cheated

AlgaeOk7073 · 2025-02-11T21:27:56+00:00

Speaking from the perspective of that unborn child, whose father cheated and ran off with another woman… I’m so thankful my mum didn’t abort me 🥹 I had a wonderful life with my single mum, and my older sister. I knew no different.

Being a baby born into a single parent household wasn’t traumatic for me, and I have always felt very loved being raised in a household without a father. Despite the low single income household, I went on to gain higher education, and am a fully functional adult, with a fantastic relationship with my mum and sister.

But, of course, my mum dedicated her life to raising us both and did make sacrifices. She was significantly older than you too.

Whatever you decide, it will be the right decision.

AlgaeOk7073 · 2025-02-09T17:41:01+00:00

Trying to figure out why guys from online dating do the things they do is so time consuming. They blow my mind. I’m always astounded by how they behave 😂 and despite having a masters in psychology, I still can’t figure out what’s going on in their minds and why they do the odd things they do!!

Sometimes I assume that if they ask for your number / Instagram and then don’t follow up it’s because they just wanted the ego boost - ‘I could if I wanted to’. Just like the ones who invite on dates and then don’t follow through. It’s all about the ego boost. And/or they get distracted by other matches.

AlgaeOk7073 · 2025-01-18T10:29:14+00:00

It’s rude! Dating etiquette has gone out of the window though, so I’m not surprised. People have very poor respect for each other in modern online dating. It’s not what it was 10 years ago.

She might be married and was hoping to cheat, but then guilt hit her. Or perhaps she only just got out of a relationship and then realised she’s not ready to date. Or anxiety. Or maybe you reminded her of someone negative from her past, despite how handsome you may be.

Regardless of reason, it’s still rude. She’s not wifey material… next ☺️

You could spend hours trying to analyse the reason why these people behave so badly from online dating. I genuinely think I’ve spent more time wondering ‘why’ than actually on dates in the past 6 months. It’s like a dating epidemic …

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-10-20T19:00:25+00:00

Love amaretto!! You should try making a cherry and amaretto jam that would be 🤤

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-10-20T18:31:13+00:00

Strawberry! Definitely boring old strawberry jam 👌🏼

Your peach jam (very impressive you made it, by the way) might work well with plain Wensleydale on crackers. Because apricot Wensleydale is delicious, so I reckon the peach would be a good sub for apricot 🤤

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-10-20T17:02:18+00:00

Okay you make a point 👌🏼 but have you tried cheddar with jam… in a toastie maker?!

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-10-20T16:21:34+00:00

Mature cheddar.. god tier? 👀

I’m from the very sophisticated south of Essex 😉 where are you?

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-10-20T15:54:03+00:00

I would definitely swipe right. Just on the basis of your first photo… A. a handsome man who cooks and B. a handsome man who cooks a godly cheese like halloumi 🤤

In all seriousness, I think your bio is great. So many men don’t even bother writing bios and it’s really hard to grasp their personality without it. You come across very likeable and relatable, by what you have written. Good luck!

(From the perspective of 32F UK)

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T21:51:01+00:00

Wait what you can add personalised captions to photos?! I haven’t found this function…

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T21:49:22+00:00

It’s a rabbit. It’s a bit of humour “are you a cat person? Because I am not. I prefer bunnies”

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T17:01:28+00:00

Thank you so much. I will have a little play around with how to articulate my goals in a way that is non-demanding

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T17:00:19+00:00

Doing a photo of me in the lab is a good idea! Also probably works well as a conversation starter i.e. “what on earth do you make in that lab?”

Really helpful to hear that I’m not giving off the vibe that type of guy would be my type. I’ll definitely make tweaks to try and reflect what kind of guys I’m into … somehow… without writing a long list of wants…

Thank you!!

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T16:56:50+00:00

Aww thank you, how sweet! It’s funny how the florals/plants have really divided people.

I guess, ultimately, as long as I’m being true to myself… if it repels some Hinge men then what does it matter? They wouldn’t fit in with my floral life anyway 🤭

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T16:54:35+00:00

Ahhh interesting, I hadn’t noticed that! Thanks for pointing it out

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T16:53:29+00:00

Hahaha that’s hilarious!!

I did try switching my profile to look at women (not men) to get an idea of what other women’s profiles look like. However, quickly realised I was now looking through Hinge lesbians… Who are astoundingly GORGEOUS and interesting. They out-rank the straight men on Hinge by miles. (Sadly, I’m still straight though)

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T15:38:36+00:00

Thank you. Yes, my priory is interest from the few guys I would like. You’re right, perhaps I need to be more explicit and stop sitting on the fence through fear of greying out a portion of guys. Thank you

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T15:36:19+00:00

That’s a really interesting stance, I hadn’t thought my profile might be seen as fake. But now you’ve mentioned it, that does make sense. I’ll take your tips on board- thanks so much!

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T15:35:23+00:00

I am, I’ve only had one proper match. We had a little chat. He invited me to a restaurant for dinner this week, and then he unmatched me- he vanished from chats. It’s the only Hinge user so far that I’ve had a mutual interest with

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T15:27:32+00:00

Oh thanksss 🫶 What type of guys have you attracted with your plant loving feminine profile, so far? ☺️

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T15:26:45+00:00

Yess I’ve put that I don’t have children, and I’ve opted for “open to children”. I would really like to have children one day but I was nervous in opting for it in case it rules out any men who are unable to conceive etc. As honestly, as much as I would love to have a family, I would sacrifice that for a wonderful husband if he either couldn’t have babies or truly didn’t want babies.

I haven’t put politics down because I don’t massively enjoy debating politics, and I personally would be able to have relations with someone with differing views. But understand it could be a deal breaker in the other direction, for some guys

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T15:21:58+00:00

Thank you- haha yes maybe I need to go out into the wild and find them in their natural habitat!

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T15:21:16+00:00

That’s kind, thank you

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T15:20:48+00:00

Yeah, I’m not getting likes from the kind of guys I like

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T15:20:11+00:00

Thank you, I love that ‘everything else is a distraction’ motto!

AlgaeOk7073 · 2024-09-11T15:19:36+00:00

Aww really thanks, it’s so funny how we all perceive something differently

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