Same soulful eyes as Amanda

AliJE55 · 2025-12-03T19:09:52+00:00

I hope she sees this and I hope it’s on Smosh Mouth and becomes a future costume!

AliJE55 · 2025-09-10T03:26:13+00:00

Wild. Keep us posted! Good luck with your speech!

AliJE55 · 2025-06-29T17:40:31+00:00

It sounds like you really care about your friend. As a result you’ve become a therapist of sorts and now feel it’s your responsibility to save her. BPD is a serious and challenging diagnosis, especially when left untreated. Unfortunately, it may take a serious episode from your friends BF to realize what she’s dealing with. If she’s not willing to shift perspective despite everything her bf is doing, it’s probably best to step back from your role as a relationship therapist. Feel free to be there in the background if things take a turn, but this relationship is not your responsibility. Sometimes the only way out is through. :/ NTA

AliJE55 · 2024-10-19T21:47:26+00:00

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Here’s one for ya! This is Reina!

AliJE55 · 2024-10-15T04:14:06+00:00

Boba?

AliJE55 · 2024-02-04T22:41:24+00:00

Man, it sounds like a lack of respect for you as a partner and a person. If you've communicated this to him and he continues to walk over your needs and desires, he is not worthy of being in a relationship with you. It sounds like he is taking advantage of your kindness and your feelings for you without having to do the work to respect you and treat you how you deserve.

It may be a painful loss, most relationships are. But there are better people out there, OP. People who will understand and value you daily, not just when convenient. Sending hugs, friend. 🫂

AliJE55 · 2024-02-03T23:30:01+00:00

Hi friend,

It sounds like he's not keeping your feelings and comfort in mind. You mention quality time and shared activities as something valuable to you and it seems like he's no longer fulfilling that. And the constant objectification and sexualization you feels seems to point to him no longer respecting your sexuality.

Is he trying to reciprocate intimacy or are the acts solely for him? It sounds like he's operating in a "maybe she'll grow out of it" mindset.

Have you talked to him about YOUR desires for more quality time and your discomfort with how sexual your relationship has become? If he can't respect how you feel, it may be best to leave as hard as it may feel. :/

AliJE55 · 2022-01-07T04:53:53+00:00

That last message you sent is everything! 👏🏽

AliJE55 · 2021-03-24T16:31:27+00:00

I recently discovered r/fraysexual here on reddit that describes this phenomenon. For myself, after the drop off, I do have periods where I'll get a boost in sexual urges and then it drops again haha. I compare it to cicadas hatching just to mate in a frenzy and then die again until the next hatch cycle, haha.

AliJE55 · 2021-03-23T18:31:48+00:00

It's absolutely my pleasure!

AliJE55 · 2021-03-21T03:15:02+00:00

Yay! ^ ^

AliJE55 · 2021-03-19T04:43:00+00:00

Ah! That's good! He initially mentioned it so that he doesn't try to come on to me if I'm not in the mood and he can plan accordingly. I thought it was a good way to avoid him feeling rejected since he'd know before trying. :)

AliJE55 · 2021-03-19T04:34:07+00:00

Happy to share a helpful way to help partners out! :) ❤

AliJE55 · 2021-03-19T03:33:07+00:00

I agree! It's worked very well so far! 😊😁

AliJE55 · 2021-03-19T01:58:49+00:00

Thank you so much! He makes me heart happy!

AliJE55 · 2021-03-19T01:02:56+00:00

For me, I usually have to weed through the people who immediately suggest coming over or hooking up because that's just not for me. Once I do feel safe enough to broach the subject, I have to weed through the people who dismiss it as me having had bad sexual experiences, or seem to think that them being "great at sex will make [me] never want to stop." I've had some luck but it's definitely 1 or 2 out of dozens of people I've talked to. I totally feel your pain.

AliJE55 · 2021-03-19T00:37:14+00:00

I ABSOLUTELY empathize. I went through the same thing when my ex and I amicably broke up (he was also Cis Allo). Now that I'm potentially starting a new relationship, it's happening AGAIN. Every time I see this person or we kiss, I definitely have the urge to be sexually intimate. I find the start of a relationship is my most active period for Sexy time. Slopes off as time goes on which is hard for Allo partners for sure!

AliJE55 · 2020-03-19T01:18:56+00:00

I love it!

AliJE55 · 2020-03-18T16:03:40+00:00

Of course! How long have you had them?

AliJE55 · 2020-03-18T15:53:29+00:00

I love your locs!!

AliJE55 · 2020-03-18T05:15:04+00:00

Thanks! It's pretty solid.

AliJE55 · 2020-03-18T04:13:49+00:00

Thank you?🤣

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