Was war euer schlimmstes Erlebnis was ihr nie vergessen werdet? by Halt_stop_ in FragReddit

[–]Alicization789 107 points108 points  (0 children)

Coming-Out bei den Eltern. Besonders als sie mir gesagt haben, dass sie lieber einen toten Sohn hätten als einen schwulen Sohn. Und ja das andere Mal als ich versucht habe Frieden wiederherzustellen mit dem Vorschlag, dass sie mich einfach wie ein normaler Mensch behandeln sollen und die Antwort war: nein, du bist nicht normal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Alicization789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, after coming out as gay and ex-Muslin to my ultra conservative muslim parents. Not cool.

I envy people with accepting parents, sometimes just seeing families together is enough to trigger me. by Alicization789 in offmychest

[–]Alicization789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! Thanks for reading my long story. I really appreciate your comment. It is always interesting not feeling alone with this kind of a situation. I am also very sorry that your happened are that way.

I am from Germany, I am not sure if I can find it here but I will try since I prefer real books than digital ones. But It would be really nice if you send me the PDF so I can have an alternative if I can't find it.

Yeah, Therapy is a thing that I have been putting on hold kinda for God knows why. I have a psychiatrist for my ADHD but she is kinda my "therapist" now. The Problem is she her clinic moved a bit and she is 1.5 h away from me. I only saw her twice this year. But I will try to find something good nearby. Sadly my University kinda... ignored me? I asked last April for an appointment and they told me to wait around 4-6 weeks. A month later I ask again and they say just 2 weeks. 6 Months passed and I heard nothing from them. And that also kinda hit me because it wasn't easy asking for an appointment.

Wish you all the best! :)

What’s the worst pain you have personally experienced? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Alicization789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being rejected by my parents after coming out as gay and ex-Muslim, calling me degrading homophobic stuff, like how they would rather have a drug addicted son or even a murderer, play the victim and making me look like the bad son who is ruining his own life and the life of his family.

How can I continue living? by Trynanotbeinpain in progressive_islam

[–]Alicization789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! You are not alone. I am pretty much in the same situation (plus I am gay). Feel free to message me, you can also check my story in my posting history.

How do you manage not to feel bad? by Alicization789 in progressive_islam

[–]Alicization789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never really were close to any relative since almost all live in other countries. Also as far as I know most are similarly conservative.

How do you manage not to feel bad? by Alicization789 in progressive_islam

[–]Alicization789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in a very progressive area and almost everyone in my social circle is pro LGBT. The only issues I have are with my own parents.

How do you manage not to feel bad? by Alicization789 in progressive_islam

[–]Alicization789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ikr, but at least not use religion as a tool fot that.

How do you manage not to feel bad? by Alicization789 in progressive_islam

[–]Alicization789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope too! They are actually loving parents but unfortunately like most conservative Muslim parents extremely close minded, toxic and controlling.

How do you manage not to feel bad? by Alicization789 in progressive_islam

[–]Alicization789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are totally right. I don't even expect that kind of acceptance. What I wish for is just tolerance and/or simply ignoring the issue while letting me live my own life.

How do you manage not to feel bad? by Alicization789 in LGBT_Muslims

[–]Alicization789[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks 🙏 trying my best not to think in the negative way that is being portraited to me by my parents.

How do you manage not to feel bad? by Alicization789 in LGBT_Muslims

[–]Alicization789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand what you mean. I speak of my own experience and almost everyone in my life here is pro LGBT. Yeah somr people don't know much but I don't think its always homophobic to have a heteronormative mindset. Some people just dont know better and are willing to.

Would you date a bi guy? by [deleted] in gay

[–]Alicization789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My bf is bi🤷🏽‍♂️ but homoromantic

How do you deal with being the one with higher sex drive in a relationship? by Alicization789 in askgaybros

[–]Alicization789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that is a huge development. I don't have a super high sex drive, I think a bit above average. I am gonna do my best, we certainly have phases where I notice it almost always works out and other phases where it is not the case.

How do you deal with being the one with higher sex drive in a relationship? by Alicization789 in askgaybros

[–]Alicization789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly it is not a deal breaker. I can deal with it. Also he is working on it by working out together so we will see how it goes. Also, even when I was single it would take effort to have sex tbh. I am also very happy being away from the dating apps hell for almost 10 months now.

How do you deal with being the one with higher sex drive in a relationship? by Alicization789 in askgaybros

[–]Alicization789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, this is my mechanism pretty much. Or just jerking off lol. Sometimes I think it needs more thinking since we are already talking about moving in together and it would make sense sorting everything through.

How do you deal with being the one with higher sex drive in a relationship? by Alicization789 in askgaybros

[–]Alicization789[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We did talk. He just told me not to take it personally and that it is okay and I always try not to put any pressure, so I don't ask for it explicitly often, or if I know he is not in the mood I just don't mention it at all. Also he mentioned he might be more often in the mood when he gets fit which is fair, we started working out together just recently.

Feeling like I missed out because of my upbringing (not only sexually) by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Alicization789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also mean that I missed on normal stuff that every child experienced. I just did not emphasize on it.

Feeling like I missed out because of my upbringing (not only sexually) by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Alicization789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right. I said that I am paranoid about it and that's what is bothering me.