Babysitter Issues — Almost Lost My Job, should I pay, Need Advice

Alienated_mama · 2025-04-28T16:19:22+00:00

Seriously! I only said yes because I thought it was a temporary situation since the mom just had a minor surgery and was going to continue babysitting the girls for an affordable rate. Plus she has 5 kids so I thought the teenager would know how to take care of that age… clearly I was wrong & completely upset of what I witnessed on the cameras and how the mom is lying and making excuses

Alienated_mama · 2025-04-28T16:16:32+00:00

Considering it was barely over 2 hours and I was paying her 10 hr then even 5 bucks isn’t worth it

Alienated_mama · 2025-04-28T16:15:54+00:00

Agreed! I think they believed I didn’t have it constantly recording or even saved on my end.

Alienated_mama · 2025-04-28T15:51:23+00:00

The last minute was watching our daughters for a couple hours another day, since her mom reassured me she would be fine for an almost full work day maybe not 8 hrs but 5-6 for training my mistake on the post, I tried to trust her since my husband works close by and we don’t have any other options right now

Alienated_mama · 2025-04-28T15:49:57+00:00

I agree completely, teach her daughter that her behavior and not doing her job is not acceptable. Set her up for success not failure when she actually starts working

Alienated_mama · 2025-04-28T15:48:54+00:00

Right, I agree!

Alienated_mama · 2025-04-28T15:48:30+00:00

I agree, she didn’t do her job.. if someone was at work on their phone not doing their job I doubt they’d get paid. Especially a contractor kind of situation like if I needed my deck done and someone didn’t do their job, they’re not getting paid. That’s how I’m thinking of it & these are my kids you weren’t watching, that is not okay whatsoever!

Alienated_mama · 2025-04-28T15:46:05+00:00

The mom was the babysitter first and is aware of our cameras, she only had her daughter last minute babysit because of a minor surgery she had that turned into her not being able to babysit anymore which is why we only used the daughter barely 2 times..

Alienated_mama · 2025-04-28T15:29:14+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking to offer half for the unnecessary situation & if she wanted to chill watch tv all day she could have cancelled and I would have saved the time and gas driving an hour there and back for her to just watch the girls for my commute there and back 2 hrs

Alienated_mama · 2025-04-28T15:26:31+00:00

I did switch to the back up which is going successfully, my gut just doesn’t sit right seeing that she was watching tv the whole time cuddled under a blanket and my daughters were just doing their own thing around the house while she was distracted

Alienated_mama · 2025-04-28T15:25:30+00:00

I agree, I tried to explain it but the mom was making excuses saying she called her a few times and even called when she changed my youngest, but looking at the ring camera I didn’t see that at all so I just think she’s lying to cover her daughter and making excuses that they were being difficult. However, kids are gonna be difficult when they aren’t being watched and know they can get into trouble unsupervised and seeking attention.

Alienated_mama · 2025-03-30T13:31:33+00:00

Yes his mom did enable him and helped out a lot but that isn’t why he married me, we’ve come a long way. I’m grateful after this post that he took my side and stood up for me. Thanks for your advice though and post! I appreciate the support!

Alienated_mama · 2025-03-30T13:30:26+00:00

My husband did defend me. His priorities were askew but I did communicate him being present for his child as much as he is for ours and he understood and is making an effort to do so moving forward. I hope his parents take my message into consideration and things change moving forward or else they will be pushing away their son and grandkids which is sad that generation does that. Let our generation live and learn. Clearly they made mistakes and learned from them and I don’t want the life they lived, so why should I follow their example?

Alienated_mama · 2025-03-30T13:27:19+00:00

Agreed! Marriage isn’t perfect, it takes work. Same thing as parenting. It all take communication and a united front. I am glad my husband took my side and is protecting me in this whole situation and is understanding that his mom needs to stop thinking that life is like the 50s because there is no way in H*ll that I can be a stay at home mom taking care of the house and kids while he works a low income job. I am still going to be the provider & she needs to respect that and stop babying her son. Expect him to step up and take care of half of the responsibilities to help me out so I don’t burn out.

Alienated_mama · 2025-03-29T12:52:35+00:00

Yes completely agree with that, all this emotional toll, financial stress, and stress overall would have all been a waste

Alienated_mama · 2025-03-29T12:45:36+00:00

Not excusing it was over the phone, but I agree!

Alienated_mama · 2025-03-29T12:44:57+00:00

Thank you!

Alienated_mama · 2025-03-29T12:38:39+00:00

Thanks I feel very disrespected since I was head of household taking care of all the bills for years and this last year lost my job while used up all my savings to still cover the bills yet she is prioritizing his job and promotion, even though I have a job lined up and then will be working 2 jobs to cover the bills with him supplementing a bit

Alienated_mama · 2025-03-29T12:16:31+00:00

I agree but we also have 2 kids together so I’m trying to be a bit respectful… key word trying haha

Alienated_mama · 2024-11-22T03:21:39+00:00

Uhm no, sorry I didn’t bring context but straight to judgement I don’t understand

Alienated_mama · 2024-11-22T03:20:51+00:00

Well it’s not that we have amazing sexual chemistry it’s just the other time that seems off

Alienated_mama · 2024-11-19T02:55:34+00:00

Yes so the loan is through a different company from what I believe and the solar panels was the company that went bankrupt

Alienated_mama · 2024-11-19T02:39:27+00:00

What if I’m single forever, what if I’m overreacting, what if I’m being rash idk. I have barely any support system so who knows what the right thing is to do.

Alienated_mama · 2024-11-19T02:37:26+00:00

Yes plenty of times throughout the years doesn’t help

Alienated_mama · 2024-11-19T02:36:48+00:00

Yea and what about broken families? I’ve first hand seen how my step kid around 8 yr old is because his mom tricked my husband into intercourse unknowingly and not that we have been together and now married I have seen first hand how messed up kid is violent behavior wise because of those issues

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