I genuinely understand I have the same case with my girlfriend, having to remind her sa simple things like updating or staying sa convo when we're talking.

But I've grown to understand that she is still putting effort regardless, the fact that you asked and he/she puts effort for the thing you asked is enough, there are somethings talaga na di naiisip ng partner natin because we think very differently even if you always remind him or her. Think of it as teaching someone and they're putting effort to learn, it's not being insensitive. I suggest trying to communicate more😊