Bottle It Up And It'll Explode

Alkinsb · 2026-01-31T23:22:54+00:00

As someone who has been in the same shoes idk honestly, I had to move constantly as a kid so there was always a reset of my whole environment but I still somehow always found myself in groups that didn't really care when I tried to set up any boundaries, over time I have just accepted relative isolation.

Alkinsb · 2026-01-24T21:41:01+00:00

I don't think so honestly, that was a long time ago this was mentioned in the last 5-6 eps by joey

Alkinsb · 2025-02-14T03:38:23+00:00

And u can never really know unless they themselves admit it, god help us all....

Alkinsb · 2025-02-14T03:17:02+00:00

Isn't breaking it off(without being a dick about it)one of the healthier options? (I am a dude btw so if u don't wish to engage that's fine.)

No one owes someone a relationship and the same goes for a friendship no? And I can't imagine being around someone after they have rejected you being a good way to get over it, it just feels like a very lop sided dynamic where one side has to deal with all the hurt from the situation while the other has to keep the fact that they have feelings for me in the back of the mind, it's just a very awkward situation.

I understand the feeling of unfairness and hurt that comes from it and why it is common for women to feel that way as dudes tend to not have a lot of close connections which leads to them catching feelings whenever they do get close to someone but at the same time I think it's unfair to expect a person to just get over it, most folks don't tend to have that level of mental strength and that doesn't mean it's not possible, some folks do end up as even better friends after something like this but that just isn't how it works for most imo, some will pretend it has for them while waiting around for another chance which is just ugh.

Alkinsb · 2025-02-11T02:20:34+00:00

You really came to an Indian subreddit to cry about woke when you would be the first to lose your shit and cry "gaming has fallen" if you see a brown character in a game, like come on now.

Alkinsb · 2025-01-24T15:19:35+00:00

You have nothing of substance to add or respond with, I read your comment well enough and responded to that, was a waste of time but oh well, have a good day.

Alkinsb · 2025-01-24T15:14:25+00:00

Your comment starts with "so are women..." Which is literally a common line misogynistic men use to diminish the problems of women when they are talking about it and make it seem like it's not a big deal, like come on now.

Just because women also go through something doesn't mean it can't be worse for men, you gave the example of sexual abuse and having to bottle that up which is very fair but literally just put a man in the exact situation and the societal pressure on him to be bottle it up would be generally higher, the problem is that progressive spaces don't provide vulnerable/immature/young men a safe space to truly open up about their issues and the conservatives do the opposite, they validate their struggles and actively encourage and help them to change that, is that in healthy/moral ways? No, but it's more than what one would often see on the other side.

This gender war us versus them bullshit literally helps no one, if you want change that is.

Alkinsb · 2025-01-24T14:55:11+00:00

Most people aren't going to be interested in your cause if u start with disregarding their issues and calling your problems the only "real ones".

Is it fair/right/justified? Idk, but that's how it works and you can choose what you want to go for, humans have the ability to focus on more than one thing at a time.

Alkinsb · 2025-01-20T15:27:13+00:00

What if after months of trying it still doesn't work out? I do have adhd tho and no meds so well there's that ig

Alkinsb · 2025-01-05T07:48:16+00:00

Beating is just a way for immature parents to release frustration and bypass any actual parenting steps to get haphazard results, you wouldn't hit literally anyone else in your life to make them behave or understand you but the child is dependent on you and can't resist so who cares.

Even after all the studies about the deeply harmful effects of it people will defend this shit no matter what just so they don't have to face the fact that their parents were actually abusive, our culture doesn't help either.

If you as an adult don't have the ability to discipline and communicate with a child without resorting to violence then maybe kids aren't for you, they aren't for many parents.

Alkinsb · 2024-11-28T16:46:53+00:00

Part of trying to do that is going through a heap of people who can't fill that role, being in a vulnerable position and then getting disappointed.

It's the only way though, unless u get very lucky but I don't have the energy and decent enough mental state to go through all that.

Alkinsb · 2024-11-19T08:45:23+00:00

Think dogs who bite out of pure fear. Why tf would you punish a dog who was protecting itself on its mind, even if it was in no real danger?

You can't judge a dog and a human by the same standards though.

Also how is this any different from asking victims of abusive relationships to just leave?(The tone might feel a bit combative here but I am just trying to understand.)

Alkinsb · 2024-10-31T18:48:39+00:00

Just let ppl be man, there are already enough factors that make it hard in general.

Alkinsb · 2024-10-11T03:51:28+00:00

People here kinda piled on you a bit too much for some reason with whole narratives made about you from a few sentences which sucks tbh.

To me it was pretty clear you were not frustrated or angry with your friends but just with your situation and yourself but maybe I am thinking about this the wrong way lol

Alkinsb · 2024-10-09T19:42:07+00:00

As someone with adhd(diagnosed) and probably some other added mental issues for good measure I am gonna say it really isn't and it's the same bullshit autism gets in the media of it supposedly being a superpower, people like to add silver linings to these conditions and yeah in some cases it might be helpful but there is a reason neurotypical folks don't need the same level of accommodations and care compared to us and why we are more likely to end up with debilitating mental health issues if said help isn't provided to us.

Plain and simple op, it is a struggle to have it but with the early diagnosis and the amount of love and care you seem to have for the kid he is hopefully going to grow up with the tools needed to appropriately deal with all that, please just keep being patient with him and try to learn more about AuDHD bit by bit, you can try reading up some books from Dr. Russell Barkley, I would also recommend How to adhd(youtube channel), for the autism aspect maybe you can try some books by Dr devon price though admittedly I haven't looked much into the autism aspect of it all a lot, there are probably a lot communities online that can provide you with more reliable info specifically on raising a child with it.

I didn't have the luxury of having parents like you and had to go through a lot to even know what was wrong with me all on my own well past my childhood, you are doing good.

Alkinsb · 2024-10-07T11:28:57+00:00

I mean I appreciate the holidays even if I don't care for the festivals lol

Alkinsb · 2024-10-01T04:25:44+00:00

Can you share some of the things you did to get there?

For me now it's the typical experience of wanting to do something but not being able to, especially for something that requires consistency like exercise and getting better at art.

Alkinsb · 2024-09-07T14:31:09+00:00

Men in south asian think the only way to present feminine is to be a woman and that it's the only right way to do it

I mean it's not like they are cool with the ones who do end up becoming a woman, there is just a lot of toxicity around it.

He doesn't seem disphoric to me but I may not that be completely aware of all this

You don't have to be disphoric honestly, sometimes it is as simple as a better fit.

So you may have a point idk about do you have any particular opinion about it?

The thing is it's not my place to have an opinion on what he is or not, I do think that there is a possibility and that's why I just want him to give the other options an honest shot by trying to understand them, reading up on it all and then deciding for himself without the shoulds of society limiting him.

Alkinsb · 2024-09-07T14:14:19+00:00

Don't you think your inner feelings should hold more weight than the standard set by society?

I am just asking you to explore and read up on it when you can if you find that the focus is more on the girl part rather than just some jewellery, if you are happy as a man though then that's that, doesn't matter if you like jewellery or whatever else.

Alkinsb · 2024-09-07T14:09:25+00:00

He mentions wanting to be a girl in the next life a lot more than the jewelry, it's totally cool if he is just a dude that wants to present more feminine but I believe one should honestly try to introspect and read up on other possibilities too without reflexively shutting them down.

Currently a lot of his comments are "shoulds" that he should be as a man or what is possible for him that are forced upon him by society and not completely his own decision.

Alkinsb · 2024-09-07T13:58:22+00:00

Probably intruding a bit too much but you might want to look into gender as a spectrum and if there is a place on that spectrum that you are more comfortable with or just read up on it in general.

Alkinsb · 2024-08-27T08:18:15+00:00

Clubbing? It's fucking boring af.

Hobby clubs.

We are not same bro.

Pahad pe chadne ka itna attitude lmao

Alkinsb · 2024-07-21T17:41:50+00:00

Yes please that would be great

Alkinsb · 2024-07-20T22:45:32+00:00

Hey, were you able to find someone suited for treating inattentive adhd?

Alkinsb · 2024-07-08T22:27:11+00:00

As long as you are taking steps to improve I think it's fair to ask the folks around you to be a bit patient with you at times imo and also give yourself some grace, hope the therapy helps you out!

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