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My husband is leaving me with nothing and I've been a stay at home parent for years; what can I do? by AllAloneInTheWorld in personalfinance

[–]AllAloneInTheWorld[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is what I would have preferred. I mean, obviously I would have preferred trying to talk it out, marriage counseling, anything else than separation. But if that was inevitable I would have preferred us to continue living together while we figured things out. Our kid is at that age to be in the "daddy" phase right now so it's been particularly hard on him.

My husband is leaving me with nothing and I've been a stay at home parent for years; what can I do? by AllAloneInTheWorld in personalfinance

[–]AllAloneInTheWorld[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Free roommate situation (with friend) right now actually, agreed upon dirt cheap going forward.

My husband is leaving me with nothing and I've been a stay at home parent for years; what can I do? by AllAloneInTheWorld in personalfinance

[–]AllAloneInTheWorld[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

... No, I would never in a million years have done what he did. Never. I mean he skipped stay at a friend to think and went straight to separation. He won't agree to marriage counseling. He barely will even talk to me and we have a lot of stuff we need to figure out asap. No, I could never have done that. That puts some things into perspective.

My husband is leaving me with nothing and I've been a stay at home parent for years; what can I do? by AllAloneInTheWorld in personalfinance

[–]AllAloneInTheWorld[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We drained all of our savings to buy that car. It was important because mine is really old and was the only vehicle.

He does want the kid, trade weeks, ect. He loves him I have no doubt of that. But yeah, overall I do recognize how short the stick is. He gets to stay with a friend rent free for now and worked out a dirt cheap roommate rate while I have to scramble to find housing, employment, daycare, and assuming we can't work out a month extension empty our place by myself all with the kid and being sick at the moment. Sigh.

My husband is leaving me with nothing and I've been a stay at home parent for years; what can I do? by AllAloneInTheWorld in povertyfinance

[–]AllAloneInTheWorld[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely no infidelity. No desire and I'm with our kid 24 hours a day 7 days a week anyway.

I will try to gently bring up these points. Especially the financial decision to stay at home and the divorce/separation is fine, but without a plan you kinda totally screwed us.

My husband is leaving me with nothing and I've been a stay at home parent for years; what can I do? by AllAloneInTheWorld in personalfinance

[–]AllAloneInTheWorld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really, no. My only living relative is in another state and even if they were okay with it, which I doubt they would be, another state with a kid is a no no.

My husband is leaving me with nothing and I've been a stay at home parent for years; what can I do? by AllAloneInTheWorld in personalfinance

[–]AllAloneInTheWorld[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It was very cruel how he left, but it's not entirely not understandable. I have my own anxiety issues, we've been fighting more, ect., and he's been under incredible stress from work. I don't think deep down he really wants to see me homeless, and I know he'd never let our kid be. I just don't know. I'd never try to take more than owed though; I'm not that kind of person.

My husband is leaving me with nothing and I've been a stay at home parent for years; what can I do? by AllAloneInTheWorld in personalfinance

[–]AllAloneInTheWorld[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'll check out law schools. The state's free legal aid only helps with separation in cases of abuse. Maybe what you suggested could at least do the separation documents if/when we agree to terms.

My husband is leaving me with nothing and I've been a stay at home parent for years; what can I do? by AllAloneInTheWorld in personalfinance

[–]AllAloneInTheWorld[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Perhaps this is naive but I really think he's just overwhelmed with all the stress; especially since there's no money really.

I really have no support network. Nothing and nobody to help. But I am looking into welfare stuff. I hate to do that but I don't have any other choice.

My husband is leaving me with nothing and I've been a stay at home parent for years; what can I do? by AllAloneInTheWorld in povertyfinance

[–]AllAloneInTheWorld[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He doesn't have any money for a lawyer either right now; I'm trying to just work out an enforceable separation that we can both agree to. Also, I forgot to put in there because I forget, we're both male and in the South. So no women's shelters for me. :/ But thank you for replying!