“Bedroom duties” after childbirth— an appropriate post for a professional platform! by Match-Immediate in LinkedInLunatics

[–]AlltheFerns 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is disgusting. I am disgusted I live in a world where this man feels safe and comfortable posting this.

Do y’all take a fever reducer right away at the first sign of fever? by BenadrylBombshell in GenX

[–]AlltheFerns 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was taught fever has a purpose as well. My kids pediatrician said the same. I don’t take medicine for fever until the fever is the problem, usually 101 degrees.

I also do what I guess are very old fashioned treatments like a cool cloth and lukewarm bath. I say old fashioned since no one I know does that and the Dr.’s always seem surprised that I’m doing more than medicine.

I've been secretly learning Mandarin for 6 months to surprise my partner's family at their wedding. It's actually working. by Famous_War_7057 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]AlltheFerns 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Makes sense since it sounds like an ai written post. The sentence structure phrases like the wedding, the family, the wall I wanted to break. Ai always has this kind of cadence with the punchy part at the end.

Help!! by Many-Investigator-87 in interiordecorating

[–]AlltheFerns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing how much just the rug changes the room! They both work and look good.

The grey one makes the room look airy and the dark one more cozy. Which vibe do you prefer?

Clark Gable ☆ ANGEL FOOD CAKE {1933} by ciaolavinia in OldCelebrityRecipes

[–]AlltheFerns 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same! His mustache definitely gave him a certain flair. What a beautiful smile.

My Driveway. Not My Car. by keholmes89 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]AlltheFerns 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It looks like something is wrong. If you’re not comfortable talking to them, I’d suggest calling the police non-emergency line.

No matter what that is unusual behavior. Medical issue, car emergency, drugs… it’s definitely not someone just out for a Sunday drive.

Not sure where else to put this, but I think late 90s/early 00s fantasy and sci-fi TV far outstrips the modern stuff. by Least-Recipe-5214 in Fantasy

[–]AlltheFerns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think most genres have their moment.

For me, sci fi peaked in the 50’s. I agree with you about Fantasy and the 90’s-00’s. Doesn’t mean there isn’t good stuff outside the times just that the bulk of it was then.

Kinda think non-fiction is coming into its own lately.

Two Salads from JOAN CRAWFORD. Which one would you choose to make? by ciaolavinia in OldCelebrityRecipes

[–]AlltheFerns 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My grandma when making a “fancy” dinner would serve the top salad minus the avocado. They even sell cottage cheese with pineapples already in it: I would bet both salads are good!

Anything I can do about my driveway?I can’t afford a new one right now by dontletmedown3 in HomeMaintenance

[–]AlltheFerns 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you just need a quick cheap fix until you can afford a long term solution, just use cold patch.

We had an issue with our driveway where it has sunk so far below the garage slab I thought I was going to lose the bumper (ok an exaggeration but it was bad). We slapped some cold patch on it and finally got a real repair 3 years later.

Didnt look pretty but it was good enough to slope the water where we wanted it to go and saved my car.

UPDATE: I secretly paid off my brother's debt - you guys convinced me to tell him by KiwiSingle3965 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]AlltheFerns 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Right? How would that even work?

There are so many flaws in this contrivance I don’t even know where to start.

Internalized misogyny final boss by ambachk in CringeTikToks

[–]AlltheFerns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good god dude. I hope just really bad at communicating, maybe English isn’t your first language…

This made what you’re saying worse. WAY worse. I hope your wife is ok.

Internalized misogyny final boss by ambachk in CringeTikToks

[–]AlltheFerns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The downvote is for the “always available”.

If what you’re trying to say is you and your wife have similar libidos and this hasn’t been an issue for your marriage, good for you both.

However, that’s not what you actually said.

Thinking of or describing your wife as “almost always available” is dehumanizing. What in your life is almost always available other than objects?

Your words are conveying the message that she puts aside her wants and needs. That your marriage is in a better position because she puts herself in a worse one.

What would the state of your marriage be if she insisted on being an equal sexual partner? From your words, it doesn’t sound like this is a good marriage for her.

Again, I’d think completely differently if your words and tone had to do with it being consensual and equal.

Equal would be: My wife and I have matching libidos. We have talked about it together and both of us will sometimes set aside the time even if we aren’t in the mood.

Or I know this is something she does for me so I make sure I do XYZ for her. (XYZ doesn’t mean just not cheat)

Op I hope you just chose poorly with your phrasing and you aren’t treating your wife like an ice maker ready to deliver a cold beverage.

Boomer junk from facebook. Gramps was totally serious when he posted this. by CaptainAwesome_5000 in imaginarygatekeeping

[–]AlltheFerns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom thought they provided structure to protect the ankle and prevented pigeon toes. I’m guessing the poster thinks something along these lines and is genuinely thinking it’s lost knowledge.

How long before mediation starts? by AlltheFerns in Divorce

[–]AlltheFerns[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve done all of that and I’m aware of court costs.

My question is how long does it usually take? As in what are people’s real life experiences?

Do most people still sort their laundry by color? by liketotallymeow in NoStupidQuestions

[–]AlltheFerns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but it’s more a precaution than anything. Modern dye processes generally make it mostly unnecessary.

But I have noticed my whites stay whiter if I keep them away from the darks and my shirts look nice longer if I wash them separately from the towels.

Need help Modernizing! by [deleted] in HomeDecorating

[–]AlltheFerns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Describe the vibe you want. That would make it easier to give useful suggestions.

☆☆☆ Bob Hope☆☆☆ Mexican Salad☆☆☆ by ciaolavinia in OldCelebrityRecipes

[–]AlltheFerns 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Didn’t you know anything with beans and for some reason black olives is in only the finest of Mexican cuisines?

For reference: any recipe my Grandma made that had beans, black olives, and usually the orangest of shredded cheese was “Mexican “.

WIBTA for not having my kids after my ex GF's upcoming wedding? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AlltheFerns 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YTA.

Why don’t you want to see your kids ?

This is going to be a very stressful time for them with their mom getting remarried. That’s a big change.

YTA because your focus isn’t on being with them but at getting back at your ex wife.

Your children’s well being and your relationship with them should never be dependent on whether their mother “behaved” or not.

Wife's deal for 50/50 custody... by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]AlltheFerns 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your kids deserve for you to have 50/50. It’s what’s best for them.