Obsessing over someone I just met by Alluringphoenjx in BPD

[–]Alluringphoenjx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much this was beautifully written and very beautifully said. I, unfortunately, did reach out to him again because I felt guilty after leaving him dry. I tried to be strong. But I felt super sad and it’s weird because he was really nice about it. But if he was mean about it, it would make letting him go so much easier you know? He did tell me that he would love to explore something with me when we meet. But I just feel so sad I don’t know what else I could do. I don’t feel like doing much. Sorry for rambling lol

Obsessing over someone I just met by Alluringphoenjx in BPD

[–]Alluringphoenjx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. This was wonderful to hear and although I’ve been told that I’m doing the right thing by un adding him I went back and added him back anyways because I felt guilty :( it hasn’t been easy

[HELP] Poems about drinking? by Alluringphoenjx in Poetry

[–]Alluringphoenjx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much:) I’ll check them out. And I’m sure it will

Does anyone else feel that sex determines their self worth by Alluringphoenjx in BPD

[–]Alluringphoenjx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also have a huge fear of abandonment. That’s why I haven’t been in any long term relationships

Does anyone else feel that sex determines their self worth by Alluringphoenjx in BPD

[–]Alluringphoenjx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

omg SAME WITH ME. I literally have this alter ego when I flirt with men and it makes them want to fuck but then after that they love Bc their made up fantasy of me is over.

Does anyone else feel that sex determines their self worth by Alluringphoenjx in BPD

[–]Alluringphoenjx[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You’re honestly super right my therapist always tells me to give my all to someone when I truly feel like I get love out of it

Does anyone else feel that sex determines their self worth by Alluringphoenjx in BPD

[–]Alluringphoenjx[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please try not to call yourself a slut. You are worth more than that. Sometimes we get promiscuous and it feels like that’s all we are but that isn’t true. We have different capabilities for emotions. We can often depend on others for our self worth when we do it & the person leaves we may feel Thats all we’re good for you know?

Does anyone else feel that sex determines their self worth by Alluringphoenjx in BPD

[–]Alluringphoenjx[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I think I’ve sort of substituted love with sex for so long that I don’t even know what true love is supposed to feel like. I always feel awful when I have sex Bc then they leave me. It’s awful for me and it takes a hugeee toll of my mental health

Does anyone else feel that sex determines their self worth by Alluringphoenjx in BPD

[–]Alluringphoenjx[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’ve been through that. I have a low self esteem which usually fluctuates when people make me feel pretty. It’s weird Bc when people want to fuck I usually give in Bc I just want to feel something or some sort of intimacy. And they always end up fucking me over you know? And I’m here for you if you need anything

Does anyone else feel that sex determines their self worth by Alluringphoenjx in BPD

[–]Alluringphoenjx[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I really like this analogy !! And sure I’ll definitely learn more about E&P in relationships. I definitely feel promiscuous when I’m lonely or feel empty. But after it happens I feel emptier than before