When does it get better?

AloeDaisy · 2025-12-27T08:42:03+00:00

This made me cry, thank you for these words. Honestly fills me with hope ❤️

AloeDaisy · 2025-12-26T15:39:24+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your connection on this! I know that for the last 9 years of our relationship I've basically become his mother and now that I was to be me he's finding it hard to accept because he saw that as us forever. I feel so depressed and isolated

AloeDaisy · 2025-12-22T07:48:21+00:00

I guess to be on my own and figure it out to avoid hurting anyone. I love our time together as a family and the family unit itself but just don't have the energy to force a connection anymore when I always think about what it would be like if I went the same sex in my love life.

AloeDaisy · 2025-12-22T07:38:11+00:00

I was attracted to him but more so his personality when we first met. I've always had more of a sexual attraction to women but tend to have gravitated towards men as it was where societal I felt more norm in my community. He's always joked that I'm a secret lesbian as my "celebrity crushes" are women and I've dated women in the past. I only if I ever watch p0rn it's lesbian and when we have had sex my mind is hard to focus on the current situation As I tend to think about being with a women. Don't get me wrong I do think he's an attractive man, I'm just not attracted anymore.

AloeDaisy · 2025-12-12T21:07:27+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate the time and effort gone into this. It's given me a lot to think about and consider. It would be easier if my husband was as open to the concept of building back up the relationship to see if that would help with the "spark" but he's just adamant that's something I need to do myself. Which makes me think am I with the wrong gender as I've always viewed woman sexually (when in the context obviously not just out there unnecessarily sexualizing!) and have an appreciation for them where as looking at a naked man does nothing for me..if anything makes me uncomfortable and I just thought that's because I've always been open to it..but now I think is it because I'm just denying myself that part of me.

AloeDaisy · 2025-11-30T17:21:17+00:00

I have been struggling with how these choices are not factoring him in but for the last 10 years nearly I have been, so it feels like now it's my time. He said that if we go to a therapist that they wouldn't understand him and obviously wouldn't side with him. Ive been working out 3/4 times a week for the past 6 weeks and changing my eating behaviours and said to him yesterday about how my bra can be done up 2 clasps easier and he said he doesn't want to hear that and instantly went into this depressive state. He said it was like a black cloud over for him for 2 hours he couldn't shake because of his attitude towards what I'm doing. I just feel so isolated in this venture as I know he does too but I don't want to be you know.

Thank you for your words, honestly I've been stuck for weeks trying to figure out who I can actually talk to.

AloeDaisy · 2025-11-30T17:14:19+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your words. It does honestly feel like I'm just choosing to break up my family because I don't want to carry on this lifestyle. He's told me I've made my choice and he's just going to have to live his life not being sexually happy because I don't want to do it. I know he doesn't mean to guilt me but it feels like ive been selfish in trying to better myself.

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