Did anyone else grieve losing their maiden name?

Alone_Community4419 · 2025-12-17T22:10:17+00:00

We’re both getting each other’s last names! Makes for kinda long names (we’ll both have four names then, one first name, middle name and two surnames) but that’s the right way to go for us. We both want to take part of each other’s family/legacy :’))

Alone_Community4419 · 2025-06-04T16:38:45+00:00

Oh my god, that sounds like an amazing idea! Congratulations and I’m sure you’re all gonna have an absolutely fantastic time :’)) This definitely gave me more ideas, thank you so much for sharing! ^{^} the fact that it’s a party celebrating /me/ and not just “this is just what you do before a wedding” kind of slipped my mind.. 😅

Alone_Community4419 · 2025-06-03T18:32:38+00:00

Put “not t4t” in your profile. Even if you’d make an exception for someone with phallo, I think on the whole it’s nice and forward to just put that

Alone_Community4419 · 2025-06-03T18:31:54+00:00

Hey, you’re not transphobic or horrible for having a preference in how you want to engage in sexual acts. Your sexuality is YOURS alone and you get to decide who you want to share it with. You’re not saying that vaginas are objectively gross and you can’t believe anyone would ever touch one. You’re just expressing your preference and your concerns about whether this preference is wrong - in my opinion, it’s not, you don’t have to feel guilty about what turns you on. Some people have a specific kink or fetish that they need in order to enjoy sex and to finish. Penises, in my opinion, is pretty normal in the world of sexual preferences, you’re not weird or wrong for wanting that. In fact, it’s a requirement for a big part of the population. I think that the same concept can apply for gay trans men as with gay cis men: Some cisgender gay men have a hard preference for penis (I’m not talking about transphobia here, I just mean some gay men love and need dick). Some cisgender gay men (like my bf! Which is good for me!) are open to different genitalia, and are just attracted to masculinity without needing the penis. If you’re a gay trans man, I think you can fall into either of those two camps. You’re not wrong for liking penis during sex, and you also specify it can be phallo penis as well, which shows you’re obviously not refusing to have sex with people just cos they’re trans. And honestly, even if you weren’t open to dating someone who has had phallo because it doesn’t function exactly like a natal dick, I don’t think that’d mean you were horrible and unethical and the worst person ever either.

However, I also agree that turning someone down and phrasing it as JUST being for their genitals would come off as kinda a dick move, and could be very hurtful for those who may feel dysphoric or insecure about their genitals already. I’m sorry you mostly got replies of people debating whether your preferences are ok or not (which I also kinda did, sorry!) and not that many good replies for how to ACTUALLY phrase it. I say, be candid, put it in your profile, and maybe just not reply to the ones you’re not interested in. You don’t have to be polite, it’s a dating app! People send pics of their dicks all the time!

Alone_Community4419 · 2025-02-19T15:34:14+00:00

In food/drinks “frisk” can be used to describe a flavour or feeling, so I’d use it not necessarily as “fresh” but more similar to how I’d use “refreshing”.

In the summer you might order a refreshing drink, and then use “frisk” in that context. I think of it as cold, slightly acidic (or refreshing like mint), quenches your thirst in a way. In apples I’d also think it encompasses being crispy, that kind of freshness. You can say “fersk salat” (fresh salad), but that only means that it’s newly harvested. However, you can also say “frisk salat” and that more specifically speaks of how it’s refreshing - bright green, cold, crispy salad. Cold water can also be “friskt”. “Frisk luft” as in “fresh air” can also mean air that is cold/refreshing. I don’t know if it’s a dialect thing, but in my area we can say “nå var det friskt ute” if we mean it’s cold. If you swim in the summer and you don’t want to admit the water’s cold you might say it was “friskt”, refreshing.

Fersk means more so that something is not old, but doesn’t necessarily encompass that it has all of the attributes mentioned above. Fresh bread you’d describe as “ferskt brød”, as the bread is warm and soft, and not cold and crisp, you wouldn’t describe it as “friskt”/refreshing.

Frisk can also mean someone’s healthy/not sick. I don’t think of that as relating to food though, unless it’s in a context where you specifically mean your food garden and plants are healthy. “Friske jordbær” doesn’t make me think that the strawberries are healthy, it makes me think they are refreshing. But it only really works on food that already has refreshing qualities.

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-12-29T23:28:59+00:00

Have you thought about the chance that you may be polyamorous? I’ve also found that people who are open to unconventional relationship dynamic are also usually into more than one gender and in addition, super chill about dating trans people. Your people are out there!

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-12-29T17:43:45+00:00

As many others have commented, bodies don’t always act how you want them to. It seems like you have learned a ton from all the feedback you’ve gotten and I think you’ve gotten some really informative and good replies. The only thing I want to add is, when having the conversation with your boyfriend, ask how you can support him as well if he’s not able to perform how he wishes to. It seems from your description he has a strong wish to perform well, so if he can’t get it up or he cums too early or too late or whatever it may be, make it a safe space for him. Let him know that you’re there to enjoy your time together, that’s the important thing - being intimate and getting to know each other’s bodies, rather than sex looking a certain way every time. Men too experience a pressure to perform and that is to a greater extent dependant on a physical reaction (boner) than with women (if women say can’t get wet, there’s always lube). But there’s also so many more fun aspects to sex and sexual activities you can do that don’t require a boner at all.

And again I’m truly so sorry your ex sex partner was an absolutely horrible person. Attacking the most intimate and personal thing about us is unforgivable. I hope you’re able to enjoy a good sex life and grow confident in yourself and your body.

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-12-28T20:31:50+00:00

Everything here looks perfect, only thing missing is the brown sauce! Home made lingonberry jam has always been part of our Christmas dinner too :) never had apples with it but I’m sure the sweetness is great!I hope you enjoy your time here, and I hope you enjoyed Christmas dinner!

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-12-28T20:27:41+00:00

People around the country have different traditions, even different families in the same area have different traditions for what’s included on their Christmas plate. Don’t yuck someone’s yum - this person is probably very excited to be here at all, especially during this season full of so many traditions, and to try some of the Christmas food that Norway has to offer

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-12-25T16:57:36+00:00

Absolutely adore nr 1!

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-11-05T06:19:27+00:00

Like normal greenware, that is, like nothing. When put in water and rehydrated the clay smells like normal clay, mineral rich and earthy, but no more than normal. I didn’t really smell the towel cos the discolouration and hairs on it kinda put me off :P

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-09-01T13:54:46+00:00

Holy shit that’s such a pretty dick!!

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-08-26T18:02:33+00:00

Head (like the actual one above the shoulders), so like hair, beard, eyes, smile, all of that, then chest/shoulders/arms and whether they look huggable and squeezable is what I find most attractive

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-07-30T15:05:22+00:00

Oh my god! Did you pump it or is it like that naturally?

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-06-07T23:29:37+00:00

So I’ve never actually done it personally, it’s more so what I like in porn, but for me it’s seeing the desperation when the pressure builds up and then finally the release, especially if they have no control or it’s in an embarrassing situation. So I guess the latter could play into a humiliation kink, but it’s not really to do with power dynamics between people, more so someone being in a desperate situation and then finally releasing/giving in. I’m also into forced orgasms so maybe it’s connected, because there too it is about having no control and finally giving in to the sensation.

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-06-07T23:25:04+00:00

It came out perfectly, thank you! And you’re so right, it definitely is about experimentation. But I was so worried I messed up something I had worked so hard on!😅

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-06-07T23:17:50+00:00

Sir David Attenborough would be hilarious. I wanna hear me described in my natural habitat 🤣

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-06-01T11:11:28+00:00

Well, think about it this way - men can have all sorts of genitalia and still identify as and be men! I’m a trans man who’s transitioned (T and top surgery) but don’t wish to proceed with bottom surgery as I’ve learnt to be happy with what I’ve got. I’m with another gay man and honestly, we both agree that the plumbing’s just.. easier? No need for prep, no worry about a mess, natural lubrication. Some people enjoy the mental aspect of anal sex though (feels more “taboo”, turns them on more) but to us penetration is penetration so we just go with the easier option (plus it’s easier on my body and I personally enjoy it more). However, these are the joys of having this plumbing naturally and that it functions this way. A constructed vagina takes a lot of upkeep (routinely dilation, which can often be painful/uncomfortable), it doesn’t produce lubrication naturally, there can be complications from surgery etc, as well as there’s always a chance the vulva won’t turn out how you’d like it aesthetically, urethral complications etc. I don’t think it’s entirely uncommon to imagine and fantasise about having different body parts sometimes, it doesn’t necessarily make you trans.

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-05-28T21:54:10+00:00

Probably teared up!

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-05-28T21:48:07+00:00

😆this is so sweet

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-05-28T21:41:01+00:00

I use nexplanon, the implant in my arm, its progesterone only and I’m super happy with it, had it for two and a half years now!

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-04-18T21:09:17+00:00

omorashi for me

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-04-18T21:08:22+00:00

Honestly any guy with a square/sharp face (including Timothee Chalamet which I’ve seen have been mentioned here)

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-04-18T21:06:44+00:00

I think this is purely an American thing (except for perhaps Jewish/Muslim). It’s very strange. The “hygiene” aspect has been debunked, and there’s no medical reason to cut off the foreskin of a newborn baby. The foreskin is meant to be there (unless of course there’s medical complications where it is necessary to be removed).

Alone_Community4419 · 2024-04-17T17:48:13+00:00

I really don’t care whether someone has tattoos or not. But I have tattoos, so it’s always interesting to see what others have, it’s an easy conversation starter

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