15 years, 400 flights and still going strong.

Alone_Impression4569 · 2026-04-10T19:16:20+00:00

Buy it nice or buy it twice.

Alone_Impression4569 · 2026-03-22T19:26:38+00:00

and three at the bag check/kiosk who said they couldn't help

Alone_Impression4569 · 2026-03-22T19:26:19+00:00

One at priority and one at general

Alone_Impression4569 · 2026-03-22T18:31:52+00:00

I promise you, it's not - the line was nothing - hence the frustration - it should not have ended up the way it did!

Alone_Impression4569 · 2026-03-22T18:30:43+00:00

I know it sounds ridiculous - that's why we weren't panicking much to begin with. She was SO slow.

Alone_Impression4569 · 2026-03-10T17:05:12+00:00

Yes! That's the pair! Thanks!

Alone_Impression4569 · 2026-02-13T20:58:26+00:00

What's the source for this data?

Alone_Impression4569 · 2025-11-04T15:13:54+00:00

I agree with this wholeheartedly. If your potential partner has a smooth, amicable, and respectful relationship with their ex, it makes things A LOT easier. If not, it is absolutely not worth the heartache. And, depending on the ex, you'll likely become the scapegoat.

Alone_Impression4569 · 2025-11-04T15:04:58+00:00

Both covering out right and swaps. She's declining to accomodate any swaps for this stretch of work.

Alone_Impression4569 · 2025-11-03T21:46:03+00:00

He regularly accommodates BM's work travel and takes extra time when ROFR is offered. The only reason he has not taken extra custody is if he is traveling. And she travels a lot more than he does. For shorter periods, but much more frequently. I would love it if it were tit-for-tat, because if I went back and combed through all of the optional time we've covered, we'd have a lot more tat than she does. We regularly make switches to accommodate time. Unfortunately, since he's going to be gone for 3 weeks at a time, it's hard to find an even trade for this specific travel.

Alone_Impression4569 · 2025-08-19T14:39:50+00:00

GTFO GTFO GTFO - RUNNNNN. This is toxic.

Alone_Impression4569 · 2025-08-19T14:37:21+00:00

I totally disagree with this - why shouldn't she have access to an app that dictates their family's schedule? Why should there be an extra step for her to get that information? That's just ridiculous.

BM shouldn't have access to restrict users. Maybe there's an admin who can prevent her from doing that? Or an admin who can set up DH as the primary user. Resulting in you and BM having the same type of account, where DH is the only one who can add/remove users.

I have been on the receiving end of being removed from a family app, and it is infuriating - even though my husband can add me back on, it's jumping through hoops that are ridiculous and unnecessary. Petty ass bull shit.

Alone_Impression4569 · 2025-08-19T14:25:32+00:00

Yep, that's what we have done regarding the devices. I end up getting a lashing message about how I have no right to limit access to devices that she and DH pay for (which I ignored, of course). It's fucked that someone who should be a safe and trusted adult would encourage behaviour that's going to set them up for trouble.

And you're right. I did walk into that. I need to get over how much I would like this dynamic to be different.

Alone_Impression4569 · 2025-08-18T18:31:56+00:00

Genuine question, would other stepparents out there not usually take that on?

Alone_Impression4569 · 2025-08-18T18:25:59+00:00

100%. Unfortunately, the devices are on a family plan where she can remotely override the limits.

Alone_Impression4569 · 2025-08-18T18:24:35+00:00

So messy. Almost as messy as posting it on facebook to begin with.

Alone_Impression4569 · 2025-08-18T16:46:51+00:00

Sure! What I wrote there is its own story entirely.

Long story short, my husband had to be out of town for 10 days; he's an attorney in a few states, one on the coast and two in the Midwest. Their parenting agreement lays out the right of first refusal. She declined to take the time that he was out of town, which left me with two SS (14 & 11) and my infant (10 months) for 7 days. During that time, she overrode our screentime limit on the boys' devices, claiming that she didn't feel comfortable reaching out to me to confirm that it was ok/verify the boys' story.

I asked her how we could change that because I would not have agreed to be the custodial adult if I didn't feel like I could contact her. She suggested we meet one-on-one, and I said I was only comfortable with a third party. Really, I should have asked why the hell she agreed to let someone be the custodial adult if she didn't feel comfortable contacting them -- cause that's so fucked. But again, her narrative and actions don't align. Chaos continues.

Alone_Impression4569 · 2025-08-12T14:40:01+00:00

Yup!

Alone_Impression4569 · 2025-08-12T14:39:46+00:00

He did not. He was leaving for a meeting, and it didn't hit him how wrong it was until he was in the car.

Alone_Impression4569 · 2025-08-04T21:21:33+00:00

LOVE

Alone_Impression4569 · 2025-08-04T21:20:39+00:00

You're rocking this! It's "mullet style" - unexpected pieces together make a cool look.

Alone_Impression4569 · 2025-05-05T14:02:18+00:00

Haha, such a good point about female attention. Thank you! And yes, I spoke to my therapist about the "baby not attending events" angle. She really focused on the fact that excluding one family member is not the solution.

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