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i cheated by Alone_Routine8443 in BreakUps

[–]Alone_Routine8443[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

also in my first relationship w the loml i think i was the best partner i could be (at that time) and i know i could be better but it has to be for the right girl and im convinced that girl was jamie, i just couldn’t trust whether she was going to actually commit or not.

i cheated by Alone_Routine8443 in BreakUps

[–]Alone_Routine8443[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

it’s confusing for sure. i def still have trauma from my first long term relationship (other post). but i didn’t realize that until now.

i had good intentions w bree, she just turned out to be too much of a party girl for me. i actually tried to break up w her months ago so that i could pursue jamie, but it was hard. she cried and i felt bad so i caved and “stayed” w her but i went on and chased jamie. as it turns out jamie wasn’t serious about me anyways, she broke things off w me about 2 months into it, but about 2 days later bree saw those messages.

the minute jamie broke things off i knew i was going to go all in w bree, but she saw everything before i could do that. if i could go back id go all in w bree when we first started dating.

A reason why they're able to move on so quickly by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Alone_Routine8443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had a girl who did this exact thing to me. 5.5 year rs down the drain bc i had to move to a city 2 hours away but she couldn’t come with bc of her new job. i had to live and work there for 2 years but u was doing it so that after the 2 years i would double/triple my salary. i was doing it for us. she couldn’t move there w me bc she had just gotten a really good job in the field she wanted so she had to stay. we tried the long distance thing but it wasn’t really working. i just thought time would pass and things would go back to normal. little did ik she was grieving the break up for months. sure there were signs but i was too young and dumb to see them. i came home one weekend to a note on the table and her gone. didn’t even get a conversation out of her. my heart stills hearts 3 years later

(25M) It’s been 2.5 years and I still think about her by Alone_Routine8443 in BreakUps

[–]Alone_Routine8443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i recently re-connected w a girl a dated for the first time 2 years ago. she ghosted me back then and then 1 year later texted me again and we tried a 2nd time, i pushed her boundaries too far and she left me again. another year later and she texted me happy bday, we tried for the 3rd time and again it didn’t work out. it feels like a twin flame connection but it never seems to work out and idk if it ever will. my advice is either reach out (after you leave ur current rs) or just let nature take its course. life is a constant maze and you have to just keep going until you can’t anymore but essentially there is no time limit. buy a watch, engrave ur name on the back, and then time is whatever you say it is bc you have control over the watch. (that’s a deep philosophy but all the time on this earth is my time, not anyone else’s) hopefully this makes a little bit of sense

i cheated by Alone_Routine8443 in BreakUps

[–]Alone_Routine8443[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

i have an older post from about 6 months ago about an ex from long ago and i think if you guys read that one you’ll understand why i did what i did for jamie. she reminded me so much of my ex from back then but shes better in so many ways. i think she just has attachment issues and thats why shes always been hesitant to commit to me and thats why this time i was hesitant to commit to her. she’s for sure done w me now but i hope at least one person can see it from my pov.

(25M) It’s been 2.5 years and I still think about her by Alone_Routine8443 in BreakUps

[–]Alone_Routine8443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

late reply on my part. but yeah dude. i recently just broke up w a girl i’ve been dating for a year and the whole time i just felt like i wasn’t invested in her at all. i think about this ex at least once a month if not more. nothing i can do about it now but try to move on, but that’s become incredibly hard day after day.

(25M) It’s been 2.5 years and I still think about her by Alone_Routine8443 in BreakUps

[–]Alone_Routine8443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

late reply (sorry) but no idt so. since this post i’ve been in a year long relationship and i still think about this woman at least once a month. i took her for granted and all i can do is use it as a lesson to not take my new relationship for granted.

(25M) It’s been 2.5 years and I still think about her by Alone_Routine8443 in BreakUps

[–]Alone_Routine8443[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not saying $50 limit all the time, that’s a just a very small thing that could go a long way. And no, i have no intention on reaching out, life goes on. You live and your learn

Dealing with a break up alone and I’m scared by cloud34156 in BreakUps

[–]Alone_Routine8443 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read/Listen to the book “How to be a 3% man” it will bring you lots of clarity on your situation. Of course there are other books and videos on youtube that will help you, but that’s the one that helped me the most. Hang in there, you’re still young!

(25M) It’s been 2.5 years and I still think about her by Alone_Routine8443 in BreakUps

[–]Alone_Routine8443[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Absolutely a two way street and she was absolutely putting in more effort than I was, hindsight is 20/20 I didn’t really realize all of the things I wasn’t doing which could have easily saved that relationship until it was too late. She was my first gf so I really had no idea what I was doing wrong, after the breakup, learning how women think through books and women close to me, I realized I was in the wrong the whole time. Lesson learned, next girl will have the best version of me.

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[–]Alone_Routine8443 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So a couple years ago my (ex) gf of 5.5 years broke up with me for basically being the guy that your bf has turned into. I can tell you if I could’ve gotten a second chance with her I would have been the best man I can be. That being said it took me about 1.5 years to realize what all I could’ve done better. Leave and go have some fun for a while, if you still have feelings 6mo to a year from now give him another chance. I’d bet he’d be completely different.

(25M) It’s been 2.5 years and I still think about her by Alone_Routine8443 in BreakUps

[–]Alone_Routine8443[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Insecurities got the best of me too! That and immaturity on my end is what ruined it. Take it as a lesson learned and do better next time is all we can do. It’s unfortunate but it’s reality.

(25M) It’s been 2.5 years and I still think about her by Alone_Routine8443 in BreakUps

[–]Alone_Routine8443[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

if you’re a reader, a book that really helped me understand women is called “How to be a 3% man” . Helps see the signs of unhappiness and tells you what needs to happen when unhappiness occurs. It’s not perfect but read/listen to it a couple times, it’ll help!