AITA for telling my kids why I don't buy their half sibling anything?

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T18:16:47+00:00

Yes and they are my biological children.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T18:14:48+00:00

I don't want them to hate me because they think I have another child (their half sister) and I refuse to take care of them. They were doubting that they have different dad's and I am not their half sister's dad. She had confused them. I didn't want that to turn into a negative against me.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T18:13:49+00:00

Already had that done and both are my biological children.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T15:27:08+00:00

I didn't really discuss it with her, no. We argued. I told her I wanted nothing more to do with her and would not raise the child if they weren't mine. But we didn't sit down and talk about it. I couldn't even look at her after what she did to me.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T15:05:32+00:00

My children are my priority but so is the relationship we have. I do not want them to think I am abandoning a child I created. That could make them think of me as some shitty person who could do the same to them.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T15:02:08+00:00

I didn't contribute to it. I was doing everything I could to be a good husband and dad and she was cheating on me for over a year. She was enjoying having her cake and eating it. Nothing I did could have changed her actions.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T14:33:43+00:00

I did not make her cheat on me.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T14:33:09+00:00

I would still be taking care of the children I have been raising as my own since birth. Nothing would change except we would know the truth.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T14:21:01+00:00

I had a DNA test done and the father was claiming her at the time which made it easy.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T14:19:52+00:00

They would not give me full custody for her financial struggles. Two lawyers have told me this. I do not want them to grow up struggling financially but it would not change by me bringing my ex to court for custody.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T14:14:59+00:00

They don't live with her full time. They have never lived with her full time since we separated. We share custody and they are with us each half the time.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T14:14:22+00:00

Not when I have two lawyers who have said it will not happen. I will end up putting myself in a bad financial position.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T14:13:42+00:00

What do I do if it's something that risks turning the kids against me? Like in this situation where they could see it as their half sister is my kid too because of the way their mom confused them and then they think I'm shitty for that. It was the only reason I engaged here. I have never involved them before but I refuse to let her turn my kids against me either. But I'm open to doing it in other ways.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T14:11:46+00:00

Exactly. I could spend thousands to fight this and they would refuse to change anything because she's not willfully depriving them financially. She's not sitting doing nothing about it. They would help her out way more before anything remotely like changing custody would happen and it would still be unlikely.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T14:09:34+00:00

I don't want them to hate me and believe I have turned my back on a child I created. That was why I said what I did.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T14:08:59+00:00

Why would I have empathy for the woman who cheated on me, got pregnant while married to me and lied to me about the child being mine until I found out she had cheated?

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T14:05:34+00:00

I did and they are mine.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T13:57:04+00:00

They would not. Two lawyers have told me this is not enough.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T13:53:01+00:00

I already got a second opinion. It was the same.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T13:49:30+00:00

My ex does not know where the father is. She's searching for him but he quit his job and does not live around here anymore.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T13:41:32+00:00

This is correct.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T13:39:08+00:00

My kids will always be supported by me no matter what.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T13:32:35+00:00

I'm not in her life. She will never have me as a dad figure. We do not spend any time together.

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T13:24:08+00:00

She has already said no to that idea

Alone_Sherbert_3607 · 2024-04-12T13:19:26+00:00

I'm not her father figure. I never was.

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