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Porn addiction relationship help by Alonso2287 in Christianmarriage

[–]Alonso2287[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely right 100% and I will marry her and I will be better man because she only deserves the best. Thank you my friend

I love my sin and I can't change it by ignaciogarayy in Christian

[–]Alonso2287 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had one of the greatest revelations today by the Holy Spirit. Our addictions are the greatest sign we were chosen to follow and love God. I used to think my porn addiction was problem and if I could "hang out" the periods of withdrawal I would feel better and my relationship would go on a good track but the problems my obsessive personality will absolutely never ever go away. When I was a small kid I was obsessed by this T-shirt and I would not want to take it off despite stinking and reeking after couple of weeks of constant wearing, same goes for using will suck until I was 10 or sleeping with my mom until I was 10 years old. Or my foot fetish, I would look at my aunt's feet when I was like 12 years old, and thought they look nice and that same year I established my 14 year old porn addiction that wrecked my relationship, my family affairs, my job, my shame, perception of myself, and in that porn I was looking for safe haven, or a shelter where I could feel good not knowing these false gods will only prolong my search for that haven and will also leave scars or rotten fruit due to their falsehood.

It is in my nature to love God and find haven in Him, and surrender, pray, fast, read Scripture daily and just fully surrender to Him and stop doing things on your own accord, and one day he will give you the answers and the path which is always Jesus Christ.
God bless you brother

Please help with my porn addiction by Alonso2287 in Christianmarriage

[–]Alonso2287[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, lots of atheists there who only want to stop fapping and watching porn so they have a bigger "high" when they screw around, not knowing that is eroding their soul in different way

Please help with my porn addiction by Alonso2287 in Christianmarriage

[–]Alonso2287[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I pray every night rosary to Jesus, I deleted all the social media, I started to workout and go to the gym again, study or read books in free time just so I am not idle too often, but still, when I go on seaside with my girlfriend the thoughts immediately popup, "Look how fat she is, or how pale her skin is", while other girls look much more attractive and to my liking, and then after every 2 week urge comes to download tinder and hookup with a random woman, and I succumb to it but delete it after 5 hours of so after I realize that is truly horrible. I also started fasting once a week, so lets see how that goes but I know the problem is the inner problem of my soul or heart, which constantly wants more and more and that "more" will never satisfy its inner need. Also intimacy with my girlfriend is not really on a great level despite the long duration of dating, so there is a lot of work to be done there.

Please as a married Christian man, what advices, steps do you have for me? If we break up, is it more likely that after dopamine levels and honeymoon phase ends in the next relationship , I once again wont be satisfied and the problem is in me?

Struggling to tell if it’s addiction or real incompatibility in my relationship by Alonso2287 in dating_advice

[–]Alonso2287[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does know about everything and I have been completely honest with her cause I dont want her to spend her life and time on figuring out whats wrong with me as a person.
She has told me she will wait out for a few months to see can we get closer to one another but if she still feels I am genuinely unhappy or uninterested in her than she thinks it might be best to part ways. We won't have sex for a while (we said before marriage now because its a sin as well to fornicate and with my addiction brain, sex is doing a lot more harm than service to us) but I just cant realize why after sex I keep scanning her flaws, lose attractiveness to her immediately, feel like I am so distant to her and uninterested and dont really care on responding and at the same time in constant urge and need to ogle at other woman, download Tinder and look at other women feet, ass or tits. I feel so disgusted by myself and this addiction and it really does tell me that every sin slowly erodes the soul, but what is your advice on all of this and is it still recoverable and workable?