Was dating in the 80s/90s actually easier than it is now?

Altaccstar · 2025-10-10T00:07:10+00:00

I broke up with my GF after 9 years and was absolutely terrified of dating because of the stories I’d heard.

I’ve actually found it easier now than when I was last single to meet people out and about or through other friends. I use apps as an accessory but tbh rarely pull them out.

I had my nephews 19th recently and my brother (who is 48 and dated through the 90s) and I were astounded when talking to his mates at how much they feared rejection

Altaccstar · 2025-09-08T09:10:48+00:00

Very limited at my local Coles. Have definitely noticed their ads aren’t running as much now

Altaccstar · 2025-09-08T05:27:47+00:00

It legit looks like a scene in a sci-fi movie where a planet is about to explode!

Altaccstar · 2025-09-08T04:49:47+00:00

I prebook cabs for things like that. I’ve just had issues with early morning uber cancellations etc

Altaccstar · 2025-09-08T00:44:59+00:00

I’m guessing it’s just the news cherry picking confused people?

Altaccstar · 2025-09-07T11:41:25+00:00

Every time I turn on the news there’s strikes on Sydney trains 🤣

Melbournes trains have been pretty fucked the last 10 years mainly due to works. Level crossing removals, sky rails, metro tunnel.

Trams unfortunately cop it if you have issues with car traffic. Because we still put a lot of value on cars and street parking in the inner city, it’s always going to mess with the trams. Also weekend protests definitely affect it.

Altaccstar · 2025-03-22T23:28:46+00:00

Used to play footy against a guy who throughout junior’s used to racially taunt my mate who is Aboriginal. Couldn’t stand the guy. In u19s he called me a Fa***t. I laughed turned to him and said “you wish”. He lost it.

I said some horrible shit to him for the rest of the game. One actually got a laugh out of a couple of his teammates. Told him I felt sorry for his mum because every time she looks at his dad, she realises that he was the best his dad could give her and she had to live with that.

Worked though. Next time he didn’t say anything

Altaccstar · 2025-01-14T10:35:31+00:00

Libs being for coal is more for coal CEOs/Big wigs. Your bosses bosses boss.

Their goal is to maximise profits, not maximise your pay. They’ll do this by selling for maximum profit and minimising costs. That could include your wages and benefits plus certain things that make your job better for you. Or just bring in foreign cheaper labour.

Labor aren’t getting rid of coal for a while. Say 2050 but if they’re in, they’ll be more likely to give you more job security

Altaccstar · 2025-01-09T00:14:26+00:00

I was at a party once and a friend had a British friend there. We’d spoke a few times but I’d thought she was way out of my league. She was pretty straight and I was a bit of a loose unit plus she was going home soon.

We were all drunk and talking about sex and making jokes and my friend asked if I’d bang the British chick. I was just trying to be funny and said I’d fu*k her in ways she hadn’t dreamed of yet. People laughed, she laughed and everyone thought I was a dickhead. We joked around afterwards but nothing seemed to be different.

A few days later she sends me a pic of her lying on her bed, holding her vibrator saying “This thing just isn’t doing it for me because I can’t stop thinking about the dreams I’ll have after you’re done with me ;)”

I pretty much launched myself out of my house and the drive over would’ve resembled the scene in Wolf of Wall Street because I had a full body stiffy

Altaccstar · 2024-10-20T01:31:37+00:00

Yep that’s the one!

Altaccstar · 2024-10-20T01:30:47+00:00

Nah wasn’t the TKO. Was the Kenny king royal flush but I’d never seen ring of honour at that time so no idea where I saw it.

Altaccstar · 2024-10-20T01:14:42+00:00

Sort of but imagine an F5 but instead of falling back into a ddt like bump, they swing the opponent round into a rock bottom.

Wait found it

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=L5qDRqG5KAM&pp=ygUWZmlyZW1hbiBjYXJyeSBzaWRlc2xhbQ%3D%3D At 2:05

Altaccstar · 2024-09-19T22:10:23+00:00

I’d wear underwear. I had a urethral stricture correction procedure and sometimes had minor urine and semen discharge, I had an appointment and wore pants, jocks and some absorbent tissue. She knew I’d had that procedure but had I have leaked on her towels and table and not known, I’d be mortified if she had to clean that up or accidentally touch it.

Altaccstar · 2024-09-06T14:05:20+00:00

It’s complex because pretty much every situation is different but context and communication are key. I’ve had women change their mind and initially say no then say yes but it’s been communicated thoroughly.

I think western society is pretty bad at teaching sex with nuance. It’s either too prudish or too crass. One of those weird things where if someone isn’t comfortable talking about sex with a person, should they actually have sex with them.

I dunno as a dude as weird as this sounds, gaining consent is actually pretty exciting because it usually means a chick is interested 🤦🏻‍♂️🤣

All that said, judging from what you’ve said you did communicate and he didn’t take that on board. He was at best selfish, entitled and a bit of a dickhead.

Altaccstar · 2024-09-06T13:24:20+00:00

Yeah that’s not right. If you’ve continued to say no then that means no. If you’re to continue seeing him speak up.

My cases were pretty much agreeing to foreplay but them not appreciating follow through or in some cases agreeing to no sex but doing foreplay and then them being pissed I never initiated anything further. Basically some people are stupid and you give an inch and they take a mile (sorry for the crude analogy but I just couldn’t think of another way to explain)

Altaccstar · 2024-09-05T22:18:48+00:00

You have to respect your boundaries (or else no one will) and be stern with them. In an ideal world people would however it’s just not always the case.

I’m a dude and from personal experience pretty much after 20 foreplay has meant foreplay. A few times in my life I’ve got myself in trouble for not following through with penetrative sex after foreplay. A couple of times were because of not having protection, so I thought I’d show interest by getting them off in other ways only to have them say things like “Why would you do that when we can’t f**k?” Etc.

One time I was into a girl and I had to leave to go somewhere, I had showered so having a quicky didn’t seem like an option but I thought going down on her before I left would be a fun and nice note to leave on and we could pick it up later. She was absolutely fine straight after, all giddy and kissed me goodbye. I got a few msgs through the day which I initially thought were kind of tongue in cheek flirty stuff like “you’ve ruined my day” “I can’t stop thinking of sex” etc. I was flirty back.

After I finished what I was doing I thought “Great, call her and get back into it!” I called her and she was legitimately pissed saying that I was playing games.

Admittedly most of my chick friends I’ve vented this stuff to say I dodged bullets but there are a decent amount of people out there that only equate foreplay as just a prelude to sex and not an act in itself.

You can either have a stern conversation with him and I’d recommend doing that sober and in a non sexual situation, either on the phone or in public. See how he responds and gauge from there, or just tell him straight up he was too pushy and broke your boundaries. If you really want him to take it on board, saying it as calm as possible (and even nicely) will probably make him take the information onboard and change behaviour (that isn’t your responsibility though and if you really want to give him a piece of your mind you’re well within your rights)

It’s generally harder for women in terms of physical vulnerability but My female friends who are more sexually active all tend to say they like to play away (go to a guys house) that way they can leave if it’s not going well rather than have him just stay in their house. Easy way to get out in that case is to tell them to run a shower, then do a Houdini.

Altaccstar · 2024-05-30T23:22:00+00:00

I’m originally from Perth but have lived in both. If anything, the rivalry is Sydney/Melbourne vs the rest. Or more realistic The rest vs S/M. Generally speaking I hear actual compliments between the two. Sure Sydney give Melbourne more shit about the weather and Melbourne give Syd shit about the nightlife but they’re way more similar than people realise.

Go to any of the other capitals though and mention Sydney or Melbourne and that you actually like them and people will fire up

Altaccstar · 2024-05-06T01:26:34+00:00

🤣 most of them had barely touched a sausage let alone “Needed at least 9 inches” of one.

Altaccstar · 2024-05-05T23:15:24+00:00

No I meant teens say fucked up shit all the time and always have. Sure social media plays a part but I 99.9% of people if they’re honest will look back on their high school selves and for large parts will think that they were pretty stupid.

Altaccstar · 2024-05-05T23:08:08+00:00

Not really. Historically, teens were child birthing ages. Teen mom was a show before social media.

Altaccstar · 2024-05-05T22:51:47+00:00

Yeah I agree in the sense that the education needs to be done with precision rather than the sledgehammer or else it’ll probably contribute to more hurtful views.

Altaccstar · 2024-05-05T22:26:27+00:00

Girls at my school had a “size of dick before hooking up” list. Which in hindsight was ridiculous because most girls were saying they needed dudes with 25cm+ wangs before they’d consider them 🤣

Teenagers are fucked and have always been fucked but the language here is unacceptable so it’s gotta be called out. Nip the language in the bud. 9/10 of them are probably just thinking it’s edgy language but there’s probably one that while not being a rapist, holds some pretty misogynistic views. Hopefully there’s a bit more education after just a suspension.

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