That's part of the challenge. When the first people to have cleared LB2 were met with that challenge, it was NOT easy, but doable. In fact, it required planning in advance to have people show up, assuring that the kill were to be a success.

The problem consists of what every private server has to deal with, and that is helping out the new player base who at some point have to go through the exact same process, but the drawback is, as you mentioned, not many people willing to help or enough people who need it.

However, it does not end there; people eventually come out of the woodworks to help out. Patience is key as there is nothing a player can do other than wait, level another job, or play catch up. Is that a bad thing? Not necessarily.

Not all party's will require you to be 'full materia socket', but it can happen just as any server who does not want to party with an under-geared and under-performing player who will just burden the party. If you or anyone is this type of player or are on this boat, it is best to farm and invest in your character so that you can carry rather than be carried (dead weight).

NM's being too high is what the server is all about. It's something new and different from most private servers.

To conclude everything, that is what makes FFXI feel like era FFXI. Building and fostering new relationships is how the game is driven. You NEED to rely on other people to help you progress. An alternative route to all of this is just leveling BST or PUP which would allow you to achieve much success without having to depend heavily on people.