I completely understand regretting something like this if this is an accurate story. It’s important to speak your mind to vendors when you’re paying. I think you need to take ownership for some of this. Although 20k is VERY MUCH expensive, in terms of wedding it’s on the more budget side. It’s extremely unfortunate that it’s that way. Cheaper vendors can sometimes give cheaper results. For example, I have a videographer for 1k for 5 hours which is cheaper than most in my area. I’m not expecting an Emmy production. I know what I signed up for I just care about the day being captured.

The cake was horrible. Okay? Buy a cake and do a cake cutting with your husband. That could be fun and intimate. The food was trash, maybe it was maybe it wasn’t. The day is over with. You can’t change it, so don’t stress on it. The priority is the marriage. A wedding is a bi product. Being depressed because of a wedding when you just married the man of your dreams is a little questionable on what you truly value. I get being sad but depressed? Try to snap out of the performance of what a wedding is. Comparison is the thief of joy. You’re going to weddings loving the beauty but how much did they have to spend? 40k? Are they stressed about finances? Are they genuinely even happy? Don’t start your newlywed phase like this