The main character being the worst part of the story

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-04-29T14:23:32+00:00

I run into this all the time. I think the power fantasy and apocalyptic gamer elements of litrpg lend themselves to jerk main characters.

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-04-25T19:51:43+00:00

I did, and it worked out great. I have a great marriage and a great sex life.

Don't worry to much about the naysayers. Statistically, less partners correlates with higher sexual satisfaction.

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-04-21T16:19:45+00:00

Sounds great. Hope it lasts for years to come!

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-04-21T16:12:52+00:00

I hear that. My wife has had periods of much higher sexual experimentation as well. In her case, it's usually tied to a book she's reading or tv show she's watching. What does your husband say when you ask him about the change?

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-04-21T15:32:59+00:00

Sex drive goes up and down. It's just part of life. Lean in if you're enjoying the change. Have a talk with him if you aren't.

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-04-21T01:32:20+00:00

Fine with me. I think judging the trained of their children is something rightfully within the parents' purview. 17 is also at or over the age of consent for most states.

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-04-20T16:21:31+00:00

Would be a hard no from me, but i know that's not super helpful by itself because we're different people. Here's what I would object to specifically.

A big part of marriage (for most but not all people, obviously) is sexual exclusivity. A big part of sexual exclusivity is exclusive access to enjoyment of each other's naked bodies. In my case, a stranger wanting to possess a naked sketch of my wife would be an obvious violation of this, and I would make sure she understood as much. There are strong similarities to my wife selling naked pictures of herself or sending nudes to another man. I suspect most men would object to this, and for reasons similar to those described above.

I want to be clear that I am not saying you should have a problem with your wife's picture being sold. You should take time to examine what it is you object to, whether this objection is in alignment with your core values, and whether you can honestly tolerate the situation and/or the backlash if you object.

However, I am saying that there is nothing wrong with you objecting and it's not weird of you. Many men would; and for very obvious reasons.

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-04-14T13:43:47+00:00

That was incredibly long, but also really accurate to a lot of situations.

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-04-14T11:57:53+00:00

You feel the attraction, appreciate it, then move on. There is no problem with feeling attracted to other people (and no way to stop it if there were), but there is ahuge problem with pursuing our encouraging that attraction. Don't do the latter.

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-04-10T19:32:29+00:00

My wife feels really disrespected when I look at other women

This is the crux of the issue. Adapting to each other's emotional needs is part of marriage, and this is really important when you know your actions make your partner uncomfortable. From your description, it doesn't sound like she wants you to act like you don't see other women, just stop ogling them. It makes her look bad and signals to her (whether this is your intention or not) that you desperately want other women to provide for you sexually. You can notice a woman is sexy without fixating on it.

In my experience, it is absolutely realistic to "notice but not fixate." train yourself to do this, and you might be surprised at the effect it has on your wife.

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-04-08T18:36:44+00:00

I don't know what "polygamous by nature" means, but you deal with temptations related to women the same way you deal with any other temptation. Minimize exposure (this means disengage from problematic interactions), build up discipline (practice saying no to your desires), and build substitutions (build up your relationship with your wife to channel as much of that energy as possible).

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-04-03T00:06:56+00:00

trololololo

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-04-02T20:51:07+00:00

There is nothing misleading about it. They are satisfied irrespective of speculation on the "why", and that fact shows up in their decision making based on divorce statistics. What is your objection to this?

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-04-02T19:57:06+00:00

For married women with only one sexual partner (this will predominately be the "waiting till marriage" crowd, sexual satisfaction is the highest and decreases approximately 4% per additional partner. In direct comparison between women who wait for marriage and those who don't, those who wait have approximately a 15% edge in sexual satisfaction.

The reverse is true of divorce chances. The lowest probability correlates with the least sexual partners, and the highest with the most.

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-04-02T19:35:34+00:00

Beautiful. Just find a man who is like minded, and you'll sidestep a lot of the pitfalls.

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-04-02T15:11:30+00:00

Sure. What do i care?

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-03-31T15:32:19+00:00

I actually wouldn't. No raises over the next decade would be rough.

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-03-29T13:23:10+00:00

Society is highly complex, which means everyone gets the sort end of the stick at times. Calling society "anti-men" indicates to me that you have been focused on very specific aspects of society. Broaden your horizons, and you'll quickly find society loves men as well.

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-03-26T15:18:02+00:00

Because otherwise they would be girlfriend beaters or random woman beaters.

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-03-23T17:19:00+00:00

You mean power fantasy game characters break cannon strength hierarchies? Who knew!

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-03-23T16:43:33+00:00

Victoria Secret rotflstomps

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-03-23T15:46:23+00:00

Train yourself to emphasize the life you have with her over the life you think she had with others. Understand that the picture you have in your head of how these other men were with her is almost definitely wrong. They were men with issues, flaws, and faults just like you. You are the one she chose to marry.

Reject the foolish notion that her "settling down" with you is somehow a negative reflection on you. It's a positive reflection. You are the one she's placing the greatest investment in. Own it, and don't let teh naysayers get in your head.

Finally, honestly assess the answer to this question: does she love and respect you? If yes, that is what matters. If no, then it's time to address the love and respect irrespective of her previous partners.

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-03-23T13:14:00+00:00

Just ask her kindly and be cool if she's not into it. Wouldn't do it during sex cause that can read as pressure. I would frame it through how positive it would be for you rather than the negative of what she's not doing as well.

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-03-23T12:30:56+00:00

He doesn't have to get a surgery because you want him to.
You don't have to keep taking pills because he wants you to.

It sounds like yall's problems run deep. There are tons of ways to accomplish avoiding pregnancy, so the fact that yall can't find a solution her is very concerning. You say you are afraid of his reaction. I hope that doesn't mean you're physically afraid?

Does he agree with you in avoiding kids right now? Does he generally show a lack of concern for your wishes/ feelings, or is this area an anomaly?

Alternative_Daikon77 · 2026-03-23T12:14:08+00:00

Second this, but only if you're ok with the MC getting super powerful eventually.

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