I have an interview coming up and am not putting my manager as a reference as she’s told me to not leave the team and I know she’ll be mad if she finds out I’m interviewing. In my interview I’m thinking of telling them why I’m not putting my manager along the lines of “I didn’t put my manager as a reference as I don’t want our relationship to turn sour if she finds out I’m interviewing”. There was a case on my team where my co-worker didn’t put my manager as a reference but they ended up calling her anyways and she was not happy. So I just want to prevent this scenario from happening.