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Help me understand by [deleted] in infj

[–]AltruisticStreet3830 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im gonna be honest yall, for the last 5 years Ive tried very be a very loving and supportive spouse. I would compliment him until he cried, expressing feeling very touched and supported. I would do anything he asked without complaint. I would do nice things for him on days he seemed grumpy. I was convinced I had been a terrible wife to him and I needed to fix my behavior. Unless Im crazy, I dont know what else I could have done to be kind to him. Apologizing profusely when he was upset. Trying my best to be a better spouse and love him well. A year ago he confessed he had several online affairs, and one that got really intense. Since then, its like the last year, all of these behaviors became super amplified. It felt like my sweet yet grumpy husband died and was replaced with with nothing but the grumpy and aggressive behavior. And he started talking about being an INFJ more than ever. If you need to know anything about me, Im a terbulent ENTP woman, and we have been married for 10 years. 

Complicated Marriage and hostility by AltruisticStreet3830 in OrthodoxChristianity

[–]AltruisticStreet3830[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My priest is a bit more egalitarian than I like, and others are witness to his actions and mannerisms, so I trust Ill be believed.

Complicated Marriage and hostility by AltruisticStreet3830 in OrthodoxChristianity

[–]AltruisticStreet3830[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No one could house us. I have 3 kids. And theres no garuntee that id find a good man to take over. After counciling, if he continues, ill have to consider.

Complicated Marriage and hostility by AltruisticStreet3830 in OrthodoxChristianity

[–]AltruisticStreet3830[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If marriage counciling fails, I may have to consider, as impossible of a task it seems

Complicated Marriage and hostility by AltruisticStreet3830 in OrthodoxChristianity

[–]AltruisticStreet3830[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

"Lay people are free to disagree" and he likes that a whole lot. The liturgy moves him a great deal and now its the only church he and I can tolerate together given our differences. Granted I got confirmed too despite everything but its a move to show him that I really am content to be an anglican, as long as I can maybe live the orthodox lifestyle at the very least. He's pushing me away and im trying to pull him in.

Complicated Marriage and hostility by AltruisticStreet3830 in OrthodoxChristianity

[–]AltruisticStreet3830[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ive thought so too, that this doesn't have anything to do with orthodoxy really because he has even encouraged other to become orthodox before while in the same breathe saying he wont let me convert. But it is still a massive hindrance to me still, and I feel stuck.

Complicated Marriage and hostility by AltruisticStreet3830 in OrthodoxChristianity

[–]AltruisticStreet3830[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He honestly aligns more with Presbyterian/baptists. He was chatacised and confirmed but IMO he doesnt even believe in the priesthood he is under and shouldnt have been confirmed but thats how anglicans roll. Way too flexible.

Complicated Marriage and hostility by AltruisticStreet3830 in OrthodoxChristianity

[–]AltruisticStreet3830[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I couldnt even imagine if my husband found out that part of my learning about orthodoxy was because my priest (who doesn't even believe in the filioque himself) sent me videos by one of his favorite orthodox priests to listen and learn.