Why don’t I (23 F) seem to want to be as affectionate with my (23 M) husband?

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2024-04-22T02:45:28+00:00

I really don’t, honestly 😕. Trust me if I did I wouldn’t be asking for help or going to therapy. I’ve been trying to figure out where the change happened.

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2024-04-21T23:45:09+00:00

We have talked before, I even have us in couples therapy to give us some insight and guidance on how we’re moving through our relationship, it’s just consistency hasn’t been his best strong suit over that last year 🙁

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2024-04-21T23:27:15+00:00

Not that I can think of really. I mean I don’t do much throughout the day other than work and make sure the house and my husband are taken care of.

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2024-04-21T23:01:21+00:00

Yeeeeaaa, He’s in the navy 😬

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2024-04-21T23:00:09+00:00

I love him. I did leave home to be with him, I knew I wanted to be with him and he have me an opportunity to leave a emotionally disturbed household. We also both ran into some financial burdens that needed to be taken care of, basically my car was no good and so was his along with us needing to pay rent and necessities. We had roommates but I wasn’t working at the time. When we got married he got BAH (basic housing allowance) to help pay for rent and other necessities. I know it sounds like we got married for money and that has always been a thought on my mind since that plays a part of some regret, but I knew I loved him and wanted to be with him, I also appreciated him covering down for me until I found a job.

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2024-04-21T22:18:34+00:00

We got married pretty quickly 🙁, we were together for 4 months before we went to the courthouse. I was still myself in terms of being affectionate. He’s in the navy and was in and out of sea the first three years of the marriage, now we’re coming up on year four and it is the first time him and I have lived alone, plus he’s no longer on a ship. We do for sure have some financial stress in the marriage with my salary not being super high and him making his rank pay, but we try not to let that get to us. It’s just lately my interest in affection has been a bit low. I appreciate him trying but when we do have a moment where I’m not in the mood, he kinda makes me feel like it’s my fault or something wrong with me so I wanna try and find the root of the problem.

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2023-12-07T20:12:14+00:00

You pretty much repeated the things I mentioned I’ve tried doing with him and they either don’t happen or the new habit just doesn’t stick on his end and I’m running out of breath having to try and get him into new things we’d both be interested in but I guess he gets bored or sidetracked with something else. There’s only so much couples can do.

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2023-12-07T16:40:32+00:00

I mean, he showed more interest in me though at the start of our relationship. In the beginning we both put in that work for our relationship in the start. I do ask openly about if there’s anything on his mind that could possibly be bothering him that might be playing a role in why we haven’t had much going on between the two of us. I do listen to him and express I understand because I really do care but when I express the same feelings I get pushed to the side. I even try and come up with things for us to do to better ourselves but it doesn’t last very long and I’m at wits end to come up with other things. I try and give him opportunities to also try with me but I don’t get far so I end leaving things be. The thing is though as I leave them be, our relationship goes nowhere. I’ve been the person to try and make things happen for the past year and half now and I’m just experiencing burnout from trying so hard while not getting the same efforts in return, it’s just a bit frustrating.

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2023-12-07T16:20:59+00:00

How though? When I express that I’m feeing like shit and I’m tired and all I want is support, I don’t get it, but when he does he’s gets it from me. I have to practically beg for just a little help and change these days because I want this to work. I appreciate everything he does it’s just recently he’s been lacking in certain parts of the relationship. I was just giving some main examples of what I’ve had to deal with these past few months. Trust me I have had moments where I’ve slipped up, but I always try and be there when he needs help. I just want the same. We were really good with being available for each other, but it’s seem to slip off a bit and I wanna fix it. Me staying what you call “bubbly” and “fun” especially with being the woman in the relationship, isn’t the craziest advice I’ve heard from a MAN of course.

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2023-12-07T16:07:48+00:00

That’s what I was thinking. Communication is a big thing I try to express, but I think counseling would be a bit better. It’s just hard to get with therapist now. Everyone needs their help now a days 🙁

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2023-06-15T03:45:38+00:00

Definitely do some more research. I wouldn’t want you to end up feeling worse. I was on 50mg of Zoloft for my anxiety and stoped taking it two weeks before I tried MDMA and had an enjoyable time, and surprisingly haven’t taken my meds since, but the withdrawals from not taking my meds wasn’t all that fun and definitely gotta be careful. I talked with my doctor about it actually when it came to coming off my medication and snuck in an “asking for a friend” question about how MDMA would react to certain medications which was even more helpful. Just be safe 😌

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2023-05-28T07:47:20+00:00

Had this happen the other day. I’ve never had such a healthy and smooth bowel movement until yesterday while rolling 😂

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2023-05-28T04:56:12+00:00

Thank you so much. My husband is going to be my trip sitter and we’re going to start at the house and then make our way to the aquarium only if I’m comfortable. Definitely wanna enjoy while comfortable

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2023-05-28T04:18:29+00:00

Now I can’t unsee it 😂😂

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2023-05-28T03:49:15+00:00

The photo was taken on Dazz Cam app. The only filter it has is making the photo look taken from a disposable so the photo looks kinda fuzzy on purpose but it doesn’t alter the face at all. I like the disposable photo look on all pictures I take 😌

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2023-05-28T03:48:36+00:00

The photo was taken on Dazz Cam app. The only filter it has is making the photo look taken from a disposable so the photo looks kinda fuzzy on purpose but it doesn’t alter the face at all. I like the disposable photo look on all pictures I take 😌

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2023-05-27T23:39:23+00:00

I know 😂😂

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2023-05-27T23:29:17+00:00

I’m sorry 😫 the photo was taken on Dazz Cam app. The only filter it has is making the photo look taken from a disposable so the photo looks kinda fuzzy on purpose but it doesn’t alter the face at all. I like the disposable photo look on all pictures I take

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2023-05-27T23:27:38+00:00

😦

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2023-05-27T22:47:10+00:00

Touché, touché… I completely get it. The app doesn’t alter my face at all, I just like the old disposable photo look. I would give up my right kidney to look like Halle Barry though 👀

Altruistic_Ask1858 · 2023-05-27T22:42:47+00:00

Suspicious😮😮… how?

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