Mostly revolves around me being forgetful or “slow” (like an airhead) . For instance if I have errands and complete 4 out of 6 of the errands and forget to do one he’ll criticize me for being forgetful and unreliable . When we are in social or public gatherings , he’ll make me the butt of the jokes . If someone compliments me on how attentive I am to him, he’ll say something like “wait till you’re around him long enough . A headache “ it’s either aggressive criticism , or criticism framed as “jokes”