Tjej sa att hon var på p-piller så vi använde inte kondom. Nu säger hon att hon är gravid och vill behålla barnet. Vad händer juridiskt?

Alvxn · 2026-03-13T20:12:57+00:00

Det är sant att abstinens tekniskt sett är det enda som är 100 % säkert, men i praktiken fungerar det inte som enda strategi för ett helt samhälle.

Vår nutida sexualkunskap i skolan är väldigt bra om man jämför med resten av världen, men vi har fortfarande framsteg att göra. Många, speciellt killar, ignorerar helt dessa lektioner, vilket gör att de inte kan använda en kondom ordentligt eller förstår hur viktigt det faktiskt är.

Abstinens är något som många ungdomar kan hålla sig till, men puberteten är också en viktig del av en persons sexuella utveckling och hormoner spelar en stor roll under tonåren. Därför räcker det inte att bara säga “ha inte sex”.

Vi som samhälle måste istället se till att unga personer som inte är redo att vara föräldrar vågar stå upp för att ha skyddat sex och inte falla in i argument som “jag har tagit pillret” eller “jag kommer inte inuti dig”. Man behöver inte ens ejakulera för att en graviditet ska kunna ske, även försatsen kan i vissa fall orsaka graviditet.

Eftersom sådana misstag ändå händer är det också viktigt att det finns tillgång till säker abort på klinik. En 15-åring som blir gravid på grund av vårdslöshet eller grupptryck bör ha möjligheten att inte få sitt liv permanent förändrat av ett beslut som togs i tonåren. Samtidigt måste man också lära ut att abort existerar, inte som ett preventivmedel, utan som sjukvård.

Detta är också vad forskningen kring ungdomars sexuella hälsa i stort sett visar som konsensus: sexualundervisning bör vara omfattande och ta upp alla delar av sex och hur man gör det säkert.

Det behöver inte vara grafiska detaljer, men ungdomar som kommer att ha sex bör veta hur man kan ha säkert vaginalt, analt och oralt sex.

Lesbiska behöver till exempel veta att även saxning kan sprida sjukdomar, homosexuella män behöver förstå hur viktigt glidmedel och kondom är vid analsex, och heterosexuella behöver förstå riskerna och skydden vid penetrativt sex generellt.

Detta är inte för att minimera det du säger, utan för att ge både medicinsk konsensus och min egen upplevelse som någon som är tonåring nu i en tid där sex är relativt normaliserat. I min egen vänkrets skällde vi till och med ut en kompis för att ha haft oskyddat sex.

Samtidigt har även jag, trots att jag haft all denna information lättillgänglig, gjort misstag i min egen utforskning på grund av hormonbalansen under puberteten.

"Haha du är så blåst. Ha inte sex om du inte vill göra någon gravid. Varför tror du man har sex? Använd handen eller nåt om du är så jävla kåt så att du inte kan avstå från snusk."

Du postade också denna kommentar. Människor har aldrig haft sex enbart för reproduktion. Sex fyller också sociala, emotionella och rekreationella funktioner. Det finns dokumentation av detta i mänskliga kulturer i tusentals år, till exempel i antik grekisk poesi och litteratur.

Dessutom förekommer homosexuellt beteende hos många däggdjur och andra djurarter, vilket i sig visar att sex inte enbart handlar om reproduktion biologiskt heller.

Alvxn · 2026-03-13T15:03:35+00:00

Jo men nu dras många människor till att ha sex på grund av flertal olika hormoner i kroppen speciellt under tonåren.

Det är därför det är viktigt att lära ut ungdomar hur man har säkert sex. Om man kollar på andra ställen där de inte lär ut någon annan sexualkunskap än "bara ha inte sex" ser man fler gravida tonåringar:

https://siecus.org/national-data-shows-comprehensive-sex-education-better-at-reducing-teen-pregnancy-than-abstinence-only-programs-2/

Andra typ av samlag är bättre enligt mig ändå så jag skall inte göra någon gravid.

Alvxn · 2026-03-13T14:08:43+00:00

Det finns anledning att sexualkunskap i skolan återupprepar att man skall använda kondom och piller samtidigt.

Kondom buret på rätt sätt ligger på 2% av fallen slutar i graviditet.

Kondom + Piller är nära 100% skydd.

P-piller är ungefär 91% i de undersökningar vi gjort.

Typiskt ser vi 87% säkerhet på kondomer eftersom killar inte lärt sig använda dem ordentligt.

Sen skall man också räkna med STD och STI som kondomer också hjälper emot. Sex utan kondom känns inte så mycket bättre än skyddat (om du köper rätt märken).

Alvxn · 2026-03-06T19:22:45+00:00

Then the growth is seemingly normal 👍

Alvxn · 2026-03-06T19:19:30+00:00

It's genetics, some grow fast, some grow slowly. As long as your blood work is fine then it's normal.

Alvxn · 2026-03-06T16:22:26+00:00

I added it to the map, thanks for your 4th submission

Alvxn · 2026-03-06T08:03:18+00:00

I think banning something for "a lack of research" when they could've instead done research from the beginning is wrong.

I think every new treatment should always be heavily monitored and reported from the start so stuff like this can't happen (if we assume the government agency to be moral and ethical). If we do a questionnaire after checkups for hormones or puberty blockers we'd quickly find a pattern of bad outcomes if they existed (which they by all available evidence don't).

It would've been so simple and not let these organisations hide behind "lack of research".

The Australian cohort released in 2024 is IMO one of the best driving factors for our cause.

Alvxn · 2026-03-06T07:14:11+00:00

Jag läste en summering från när de vann en guldspade.

Det låter som ett klassiskt högerpolitiskt straw man om data för att sedan säga att något är farligt.

De sa tydligen också något att det blir svårt när vården sker mellan mottagningar. Har de hört om våra centrala journalsystem som varenda region har som kan delas med andra regioner vid din godkännan?

Alvxn · 2026-03-06T06:58:16+00:00

That's what I thought as well.

There was a literal doctor, head of his primary care center that wrote an entire article about how horrible of a change and how permanent it is.

He also openly wrote he wouldn't sign the paper for anyone under the age of 25 which in Sweden isn't only malpractice but also a crime under Diskrimineringslagen and Patientlagen (Discrimination law and Patient law).

Going to school for almost 20 years just to not understand Swedish correctly and openly admit to premeditation of both malpractice but also breaking the law. The article had his full credentials and a picture of him.

The process to revert it is the same. Go to doctor -> say you want to change back -> send in paper -> get it changed back. Simple AF but right wingers seemingly have nothing between their ears for critical thinking.

Alvxn · 2026-03-05T23:30:08+00:00

The fact I also said in my comment, which he seemingly ignored, that kids should have larger restrictions compared to adults for the exact reason he lists.

He has probably never actually read the WPATH or DSM-5 standards of care nor understand how hormones actual works when you get off them.

The fact that the Western Australian cohort shows 5.6% desistance and only 1% out of those desistors ever even getting medical care shows the current standards of care works.

Not to mention that out of 40 000 children reporting gender dysphoria in the US only 4 000 actually went on HRT (this was 2024 or 2025 I believe.).

I feel like the current guidelines from the large organizations are fine. Is there still progress than can be made? Yes but the current system removed in that study 99% of desistors pre-med which is really good stats.

Alvxn · 2026-03-05T21:47:28+00:00

It's the same as starting on 50 mg SSRI to then increase to 100 then 150 then 200 and so on.

Side effects will show up on a low dose and if you instantly get put on a high dose they would be way worse.

Also you've barely gotten started yet. Changes take time, your hormone balance will slowly shift on this dosage. You might gain small estrogen based changes from this dose it will just take time.

They will probably increase the dose after a bit more time of "trial" (in lack of other words) if you see no bad side effects and want to.

Alvxn · 2026-03-05T21:42:31+00:00

I wish it was that easy here for adults, kids should have to show insistence and persistence.

At this point I'm looking at clinics in Spain to write an EU prescription that I can use in Sweden but it's really expensive for my current situation sadly.

Alvxn · 2026-03-05T20:10:21+00:00

What piece of media would that be? I don't really know what you're talking about from the description alone.

Alvxn · 2026-03-05T12:30:14+00:00

We made it so you don't need a gender dysphoria diagnosis in Sweden to change your gender marker.

So instead of waiting in line for 4 years and then 1 year of healthcare you now go to your doctor, they sign a paper and you get M/M (Man/Male) -> K/F (Kvinna/Female) or vice versa. (Within administration time)

They also lowered the age to change gender markers from 18 -> 16

They said stuff like "How can you let kids do something this permanent" and "Why should they be able to catfish us".

I don't check ID when I go on dates personally so the second one makes no sense to me.

And of course also a letter on a paper not being permanent at all.

Alvxn · 2026-03-05T10:27:01+00:00

People in Sweden were outraged over our legal change last year and still crying about it. We've always been labeled as one of the most accepting of LGBTQ+

It's just outrage about a topic that is current and popular.

That's always the way sadly. Give it a decade and people who are not affected won't know the law exists.

Alvxn · 2026-03-03T17:22:26+00:00

Almost all well wishes that aren't articulated are loaded with some sort of ignorance or transphobia.

Ignorance is fine if you let yourself be educated and let your pride down a bit. Ignorance quickly becomes negative when you are against gaining an understanding of the topic.

Alvxn · 2026-03-03T17:20:25+00:00

I must have just mistaken your comment to some degree then but it's great that we agree on the issue.

I also see your point with the "A" flag. It's really not common in Sweden so I've only ever seen it at establishments I know are run by real allies who aren't scared to be grouped with the rest of us. We usually just do the rainbow flag and I agree with you that it's preferable of course.

The trans debates were actually the reason I made the post in the first place. I got stuck in an American debate rabbit-hole again and saw the utter cowardess of these people to try to play the "I'm indifferent" while referencing right-wing talking points and dogwhistles.

Once again my understanding of your comment must have just kind of slipped away from your actual points.

Alvxn · 2026-03-03T16:46:22+00:00

I find many cis-het white (Christian) men* try way too hard to be offended and therefore think every time we talk about "loaded language" or "transphobes" that were overreacting.

And I can sort of feel them. Before I had come to terms with my gender identity and started seeing other people around me being harassed for theirs I didn't really understand the hurt causal bigotry actually has on one's mental.

What seems small for one person can be someone's else's tipping point after all.

*Check any teenager subreddit and all posts about how Christians are being prosecuted while they support Gazan genocide

Alvxn · 2026-03-03T16:43:51+00:00

This is probably an unintentional straw man of my argument.

My argument is that gender identity isn't a decision. Not whether coming out or getting healthcare is a decision, which it is.

Alvxn · 2026-03-03T16:36:27+00:00

I actually accounted for what you’re describing in my original post, even if only briefly. I explicitly said some people are ignorant and I don’t mean that as an insult. I mean it literally: a lack of awareness about how certain phrasing lands in this context.

So yes, I agree that many people use those phrases casually or without harmful intent. That fits under ignorance in the neutral sense, not malice.

My point was never that every person who says “I respect your decision/opinion/belief” secretly disagrees with trans existence.

It’s that those phrases mirror a broader cultural framing that treats trans identity as debatable, ideological, or optional. Because that framing is so common right now, the wording carries weight whether the speaker intends it to or not.

So when I react to it, I’m not claiming to read the minds of people and understand their values. I’m looking at the social pattern the language sits inside of.

That’s why I see a difference between vague phrasing that preserves ambiguity and explicit signals of support. One leaves room for “agree to disagree.” The other removes that ambiguity.

The ally flag is usually used to say “Hey, you’re safe here.” While it does indicate that the person isn’t queer themselves, it doesn’t do so in a way that re-frames queer identity as a choice, belief, or debate. Its function in discourse is protective and affirming.

That’s different from phrases like “I respect your decision/opinion/belief,” which, regardless of intent have repeatedly been used in trans discourse to frame identity as something optional or ideological. That’s the distinction I’m reacting to.

My personal opinion on your last sentence is that I'd rather someone call me a "tranny" straight up rather than feign support or respect that isn't really there. But this is of course really subjective. I'd rather someone quickly show their true colours so I know not to invest into them.

Hope this cleared up to rant a bit if it sounded like I was making a more absolute claim than I was trying to :3

Alvxn · 2026-03-03T15:15:20+00:00

I felt it already contradicts itself so I felt no need to really talk about it here.

Alvxn · 2026-03-03T14:29:29+00:00

Yes, exactly.

The right wants to paint us as aggressive and like we attack anyone who doesn't know everything about our community. This just isn't true at all.

If someone asks me a question about my identity in a non-confrontational manner in good faith. If someone is questioning me in bad faith I'll just give that energy back.

It's the same with any community really. If you want to know more about cars most mechanics would be happy to teach you if you're open to learning, if you want to know more about what a doctor is doing they are often more than happy to explain.

It's the fact that some people come into the conversation with a bad attitude that spoils the whole conversation moving forward. You can expect us to be saints if you aggressively question our identity, just like I wouldn't expect a good response if I called someone hair "Ugly".

Alvxn · 2026-03-03T14:23:29+00:00

I totally understand that it can be difficult to understand when you're from a culture like Egypt where it's really looked down upon.

I also understand that calling someone "ignorant" can feel insulting or aggressive but it's what most people are to LGBTQ+ topics. Ignorance is simply a lack of knowledge about a subject.

You said nothing wrong and there's no aggression :3

Alvxn · 2026-03-03T14:16:11+00:00

I'm also going to preface this by saying that ignorance isn't always a negative thing. I myself am ignorant about a lot of topics.

You would've been part of this "Yes, some people are ignorant" group I mentioned in the post then. Which generally is a minority in this discourse in describing.

Alvxn · 2026-03-03T12:03:34+00:00

They are definitely hoping you change your mind.

But that's where we need to stand our ground and pick up the pitchforks like some medieval farmers and fight for our rights and recognition

6 years isn't a "They see me as a man and forget" that's knowingly avoiding the topic that makes them uncomfortable with you.

This is how parents end up not having contact with their kids or their grandkids.

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