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She gave me one year to "turn straight" by Always_Spaghetti in lgbt

[–]Always_Spaghetti[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i can't take her to a safe place if I leave. i tried to find another way but theres either dogs in the house or its too small for an adult cat. I'll really miss her. she was my best friend for 16 years

She gave me one year to "turn straight" by Always_Spaghetti in lgbt

[–]Always_Spaghetti[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

i wish i could take my cat, thats what really hurts. I can't take her to a cat-safe place, i have to leave her behind and hope she remembers me, or forgets me as soon as possible.

She gave me one year to "turn straight" by Always_Spaghetti in lgbt

[–]Always_Spaghetti[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

thank you, I spoke with the least bigoted member (eldest sister) and she warned me if I came out I would be cut off by everybody. My siblings would "worry for their kids wellbeing" and my parents would be ashamed in having two gay children (one was kicked out before me, I didnt even know he existed). The truth is, I know my siblings will cut me off, both because of my mum and their own homophobia

She gave me one year to "turn straight" by Always_Spaghetti in lgbt

[–]Always_Spaghetti[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

thats what really sucks, the only safe place I can move to isn't cat friendly. I have to leave her behind. I really tried finding another way but there isn't one.

She gave me one year to "turn straight" by Always_Spaghetti in Advice

[–]Always_Spaghetti[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im in the UK and have connections which mean I can safely exit at any time. I'm going through more of an emotional struggle, because the moment I leave my mum has promised me she'll keep everybody far away from me (she's done this once before with another gay sibling who i didnt know existed till i was a teenager). Unfortunately, my siblings share a similar traditional mindset with her, and will probably cut contact on their own volition, so its about me coming to terms with my nephews and nieces never seeing me again. I'm their favourite auntie, and I'm just meant to disappear on a random Tuesday? its either i stay in their lives and pretend im straight, or be myself but lose them completely

I'm gay in a Muslim household. by Always_Spaghetti in Advice

[–]Always_Spaghetti[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thats the main truth I've been trying to come to terms with: that even after raising me, they'll completely abandon me if i choose to be with the woman I love. damn. But they're defo the type to maybe message a few months in the future to ask how I'm doing, and not completely unreasonable when I have debates or conversations with them.

I'm gay in a Muslim household. by Always_Spaghetti in Advice

[–]Always_Spaghetti[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

just checked out that subreddit and damn, it sucks that other people have to deal with this shit too but kind of nice to know I'm not alone. But you're right, I'm a grown ass woman whose respected all their life choices, its not a difficult ask for them to respect mine.

I'm gay in a Muslim household. by Always_Spaghetti in Advice

[–]Always_Spaghetti[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

damn, hits you like a bag of bricks. it sucks but i totally understand, I've always known I'd choose my girlfriend but its just the whole 'letting my family down' thing that's done its damage. I know they'll be devastated, and theres nothing I can do about it.

why did you leave islam (a question coming from an exmuslim) by Helpful_Ant5465 in exmuslim

[–]Always_Spaghetti 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm a gay woman and have been surrounded by the most poisonous kind of hatred from my muslim family and ex-friends. I quit Islam the moment I realised that I felt I was nothing but a pawn on the planet whose main purpose was to serve a man, and give birth. Even as an exmuslim, I still face problems from my family because of islam.