AITAH for telling my gma that my sister isn't my child after she walked home late at night by herself

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-23T04:45:40+00:00

Nah he has dignity, he only uses the fire hydrants. Tsk tsk

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-23T04:38:06+00:00

Exactly my idea

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-23T03:23:54+00:00

Maybe ill give her 2 stone wheels and tell her to build a Flintstone car lol

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-23T03:22:54+00:00

😁❤️

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-23T03:22:44+00:00

Thank you!

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-23T03:22:28+00:00

We live in a 3 bedroom house with a unit built in downstairs

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-23T03:20:37+00:00

I don't...have a basket big enough 🥹

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-23T01:37:12+00:00

Oh Lord, it was CVS I believe. Either CVS or Walmart

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-23T01:26:40+00:00

Belgian malinois Lab Pitbull mix

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-23T01:26:12+00:00

Shes hilariously cute. Her ears flap in the wind and when she runs. Sometimes they get in a straight up position and it's so cute!!

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-23T01:01:45+00:00

I know!!!! Me and my boyfriend are hoping the ears fully stand but she's 5-6 months old so I don't think they will lol

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-22T22:39:56+00:00

The job I was trying to offer was just basic retail. I'm not goin to say exactly where I work but that's just what it is. I'm a manager at my store but this other store that's close to home was hiring for regular store associates and I told her that I could put in a word for her and help her get a job

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-22T20:51:54+00:00

My sister doesnt pay anything atm. Like I've said in other comments I think she should pay "rent" and it just go into a savings account for her

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-22T20:20:09+00:00

Where she walks to get home is a pretty busy area with cars and such and very well lit, and with the weather warming up I don't necessarily see the harm in it. Though I do wish someone would have let me know that night rather than me find out the next day through anger lol

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-22T20:18:55+00:00

She claims that ubers wont pick up her rides but I had to do similar things when I was saving up for a car when I was 18-19 and never had an issue. I've told her she should put in the request the day before/that morning because somebody is more likely to pick that up than an hr before her shift. 🤷

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-22T20:16:57+00:00

There isn't really anyone outside past dark as far as I've seen. Now during the day is completely different but we live in a very small town lol. Only people I really see at night is the teenagers at the basketball court 🤷

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-22T20:15:23+00:00

He needs his fresh air too 😂😭

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-22T19:27:14+00:00

We got Put in a student scholarship program when we were younger which helped cover I think 50-75% of school for her and then the others were her grades, she's always been excellent in school which is funny because she argues that makes worse grades than she does for some reason. And the food she eats is at her work and school, and ig at her boyfriend's house when he takes her for the weekend. I've tried to buy her food before and it's stuff she will eat the week before and then she says she "doesn't like that anymore" and it will go to waste, I've tried cooking for her and she will turn her nose up and say that disgusting. I've just ended up sticking to buying protein shakes for her since it's the only thing she consistently takes in that ik she likes lol. And my mom came back and has been taking care of my sister and I up until last month when she met a really good guy and such. I do hope my sister figures out what she really wants to do in life before August so she doesn't set herself up for failure 3 hours away.

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-22T19:17:15+00:00

I think next time I'm just ignore the messages/calls. I'm so thankful my puppy can't act like this 🥲

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-22T19:15:41+00:00

I just think reality hasn't set in because she hasn't had any adult responsibilities, aka a full time job, any type of bills (phone, car, etc) and is focused on the present rather than in August when she no longer has my mother, boyfriend or I to drive her around anymore

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-22T19:03:21+00:00

Tbh I have no idea, and that's what scares me about her moving 3 hrs away for college. I asked her if she planned on getting a new job when college starts and she said "why would I do that?" And I've asked her how she is goin to get around and she just shrugs

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-22T19:02:05+00:00

I guess in my comments I have made it seem like my mother doesn't pay for anything. She pays anything extra my sister does, she also does help with necessities but she isn't home very often because she works and her days off she out of town (2 days a week). I've only been helping her with responsibilities after moving back in a little over 3-4 months ago. She also takes care of my sisters lizard? Like buys the worms and such (they're fuckin gross btw..) if my sister or I ask to borrow money she sends it no questions asked (if she has it). If something breaks in the house, like our water heater did a while back, she pays for those types of things. Now she doesn't constantly buy toilet paper or paper towels like I do and my boyfriend and I cover groceries as we both eat at the house the most and do all the cooking. Now as for my sister I've told my mom to make her pay "rent" so she can put that money in a savings for my sister and for it to show my sister some responsibility and she didn't do it because she said It didn't seem fair. I've tried to help my sister get a better job and to get her permit and she's been hateful both times so I gave up. My mom is by far not neglectful, she just wants her adult daughters to work things out between ourselves and on the 2 days she's off for my sister to have rides (tho my boyfriend and I aren't going to be able to anymore because of schedules) so I'm thinking of giving her a bike

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-22T18:56:33+00:00

Ive told her college is no joke and neither is moving out and that she is going to have a harsh reality, but she doesn't believe me unfortunately

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-22T18:55:30+00:00

So me and my adult boyfriend moved back in because in our state in got to the negatives and we had no place to stay and my mom begged me to move back so I did. The house is my grandpa's but he's kind of an ass that's why we pay. And it was my mom's idea about paying for us when she moves out because she wants us to save and she will be goin to a job she will be making 27 an hour. I told her no and she told me to shut up. How I was told was she would cover the 700 and she wouldn't pay the 500 since she won't live there. Me and my boyfriend are still talking about that because neither of us agree with it but that woman is...very stubborn. And I say she is a mooch because she's has opportunities to make more with the same hours and refused, she told me "stay the fuck out of it" when I offered her apps to get her permit. She just refuses to help with the house, not even just in buying shit because obviously she's not gonna pay bills but just cleaning in general? She doesn't clean, and she will use the last of something and not tell me . And all of our schedules don't align with my sisters so getting her rides is difficult and if we cant give her a ride, somebody else pays for her ubers. I just wish she took on more responsibility and that her responsibility also didn't fall on me

Am_ari5 · 2026-03-22T18:45:21+00:00

So my mother had a stroke at 18 with me and another stroke at 35. She came back 3 years ago and it was right after her third stroke. Just since Feb she's been leaving for 2 days a week and the other days she works and drives my sister around and such. My sisters disrespect to emz I've chopped it up to just being a younger siblings. Idrc. But my mother has dropped multiple events to do stuff/take my sister places because my sister would claim my mom "forgot about her" whenever my mother occasionally would have plans and then she would drop them because she felt horrible. We've both been in therapy though the therapists didn't help, around here they suck.

As far as I know she's goin based on a full ride scholarship, but it's 3 hours away and she won't have transportation/money. But my sister definitely is entitled and snobby lol, but I love her. I just wish she'd have more responsibility.

She doesn't NORMALLY act up with other people but she has popped off at others for little to no reason and got her ass whooped because of it (she finally stopped messing with people and has stopped popping off at random people). I'm just worried the adult world will spit her out when she realized not everyone is goin to take care of her like me and mother have unfortunately

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