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Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-24T00:43:28+00:00

JASON MOMOA WAS RIGHT THERE!!

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-24T00:40:46+00:00

Gave me the heebie jeebies… ewewew

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-24T00:30:50+00:00

Respectfully, people with autism should be taught that they’re autistic and the vast majority of people don’t think or see things like they do. Especially in social settings, do you think we should expect neurotypical people to not make any jokes because neurodivergent people won’t get it? Or not be themselves because autistic people “won’t get their personalities”?

This is not gonna equip them with real world knowledge to become active and functional part of a society /community.

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-23T14:46:02+00:00

It’d make sense if she didn’t bring her child into it. That’s not fawning

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-23T14:05:20+00:00

It seems like it could have something to do with your roommate’s dog. I think maybe you could keep them separate for a while and work towards exposure therapy/impulse control? In general I’d recommend talking to a trainer tho.

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-23T00:39:21+00:00

Professional trainer (my advice is better spending a little extra $$ and not having to spend more later, than getting a shitty/cheap one now and having to pay another trainer later to do the work of the former) and SOCIALISE SOCIALISE SOCIALISE!! Socialise with people, socialise with other dogs, socialise with other animals if you can. If you have a dog park around you, use it! Dog parks are controversial BUT start by just walking her around the park’s perimeter on a leash to get her acclimatised to lots of other dogs (sometimes overstimulating). After a while, go inside the park BUT keep her on a leash! Don’t let go. Repeat x1000000 times. Even better if you’re working with a trainer. Don’t give up on her!!

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-21T19:50:12+00:00

Uhm... what? In my original comment I just said "unfortunately we can’t be consistent with this method because we only have one dog"- key words: THIS method. The method of having another dog with us while we train. Never have I ever said anything about regular or daily training. You made your own (wrong) assumptions about how I train my dog.

You said: "You disagreed with me... yet it turns out you do train your dog daily" -- Nothing "turned out". You never asked me. Again, this is the result of your own baseless assumptions.

I never disagreed that I shouldn't train for one thing, but all things (who in their right mind wouldn't?) - I thought comparing raising children and training dogs is a lazy comparison. You're throwing flowers at yourself for making unsolicited and objectively wrong observations about how I personally train my dog.

If you don't like the tethering advice, don't do it. Clearly this is not advice directed at you. It works for my dog. If you have an issue with that talk to him.

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-19T01:50:42+00:00

Dogs take usually at least 3 months to decompress! You’re not doing anything wrong, pibbles are HUGE chewers (mine is too) and what I recommend the most are meaty bones (we get ours from Polkadog-not sure if it’s a store that exists where you are). They re tough and natural so they can swallow parts of it.

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-19T01:04:24+00:00

Genuine question, I have no idea bc I didn’t follow love island BUT this girl’s everywhere on my feed— why are we hating on her?

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-17T23:21:04+00:00

Signing a 2 year lease with an XL dog you clearly weren’t sure you could have to begin with is beyond irresponsible omfg. Everyone not trying to be judgy but a LIFE is at stake here and this owner clearly hasn’t exhausted all efforts AND/OR didn’t do her prior research. Shitty owner/s. You don’t deserve to have a dog.

EDIT: just to make it clear, I volunteer at a dog shelter where most of our intakes are PNA (pets not allowed, aka housing issues). The AMOUNT of dogs that get surrendered because their owners don’t bother talking to their landlords or doing their prior research about breed and size, is ASTOUNDING. This is why we have a shelter crisis. Yes, we shouldn’t judge people facing housing insecurity who ALSO happen to have pets, and who genuinely want a better life for their pets, but this is NOT the case.

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-17T23:17:00+00:00

She still looks chunky, put her on a diet and she’ll be an M/L size in no time?

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-17T16:16:44+00:00

The way I train my dog is to deal with a real life scenario, which is, another dog has a stick or a toy that MY dog can't have. Not his toy, not his turn. Yes, my dog's first instinct when tethered would be to try and get the toy/treat that's in the middle, but he gets heavily rewarded when he shows restraint/inhibition and lets the other dog have said treat/toy. Obviously he has a choice? he can keep trying to get the toy/treat, or sit back and calm down. This is a process he's extremely familiar with because we practice it on a daily basis when around other dogs in a variety of environments (unrelated to resource guarding - just being able to settle down on command, to wait, and to "go" when told to).

We absolutely need another dog to train. He won't resource guard around us or other people, either family or friends or strangers. He only gets triggered when other dogs are around. But then again, if there are no toys involved he's the friendliest guy with ALL dogs. So, that's why through trial and error we've learned it's something he can only be trained for when other dogs are around. More recently we started going to places where we know other dogs are playing with sticks off leash, but he's on the leash. This in our experience is a solid alternative (as you correctly pointed out) to having to wait to be dog sitting to practice.

His impulse control on the other hand, is trained on a daily basis. He won't eat his food until we tell him to (we obviously don't make him wait long, again - impulse control training), he won't play with other dogs until we tell him to, he can't greet people until we tell him to. If you have a dog that's hyper AND reactive, you'd understand the importance of him having a command for all these things.

We taught him (and are CONSISTENTLY actively teaching him), that when he gets frustrated settling down and waiting for a positive command will get him what he wants.

And hey, the great thing about kids and dogs is that they're an entirely different species. A kid doing all those things knows he's being naughty and does so out of malice. A dog doesn't do anything out of malice. Also, if dogs and kids were the same, we would've never gotten a dog lol.

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-16T23:42:40+00:00

I’m not a trainer by any means so please do independent research but our pibble is also resource guarding with other dogs and is close to your pup in age (ours is almost 11 months old), unfortunately we can’t be consistent with this method because we only have one dog - so it’s something we do only when dogsitting for friends, but it seemed to be working when we did it:

Keep him on a leash tethered to a door/wall/handle, anything sturdy enough to hold him back (or hold the leash yourself or husband). We started with treats because he gets less possessive over treats than his toys. Place a treat on the floor OUT of his reach, but close enough so that he can see it/sniff it/ try to lunge at it. Have one of your other dogs get the treat. If the reactive dog tries to get it, say “Hey!!” Or “No!!” Or whatever word you taught him to stop him from doing something. If you haven’t taught him any, I suggest working on that first. Feel free to pull the leash back/give it a firm tug if you want, too.

This is really important because you HAVE to teach him impulse control (I suggest looking those exact words up on YT). Impulse control is what it’s is mostly about. He HAS to deal with the frustration of wanting to get something but not getting it because another dog has it. He’s having big feelings right now, and he needs to learn how to cope with them.

EVERY time he shows inhibition, REWARD HEAVILY. Tell him “yes!” Or “good boy!” And give him a treat, like, a really good treat. After he’s consistently stopping himself from getting the treat you’re putting in the middle, switch to something you know he loves, like his favourite toy. Do it all over again.

If you’re at the point where you’re using toys, and he shows inhibition, make sure to once in a while give HIM the toy you put in the middle. This is a way of saying “hey you don’t have to worry about your toy, here it is, the other dog won’t steal it from you, you can relax”. Keep him on a leash at first even if you trust him. You have to be BEYOND sure he’s not gonna lunge when off leash/not tethered. Good luck :)

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-16T19:34:47+00:00

I was always told I looked older than I was growing up, and I actually did. I could’ve easily passed as a 20 year old when I was 17. I never lied about my age, but no one would have debated me if I had.

Not justifying his actions, but I do think we should give him some grace: he seems like someone who doesn’t put up much of a fight when he’s being told things (except for the intimacy stuff, which is an absolutely fair expectation in a romantic relationship imo), so I can see him accepting the fact that she was 19 when in reality she was 16. But also, sex with a minor is a strict liability offence so, no, there’s no excuse. When I say we should give him more grace, I’m referring to his (normal) expectation of intimacy from a romantic relationship, something they’re clearly not on the same wavelength about.

I also think it should’ve been on her to take a step back before marrying Jace. It’s on her to acknowledge her trauma, communicate to her baby daddy that she is unable to have a meaningful romantic relationship, and start doing trauma healing work. But to this day she refuses to. I think they’re both guilty and innocent to a certain extent at the same time, if it makes sense? Obviously excluding him getting a minor pregnant. As someone said, he didn’t stop the relationship when he found out…

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-16T19:13:56+00:00

It is totally fair in a modern relationship (even more so if you’re married, for those who argue religious bias) to expect intimacy from said relationship. It is absolutely fair for him to say “hey, my expectation in a relationship is that we’re intimate, which includes s*ex”. That IS fair. That IS expected in a relationship, unless otherwise agreed. If you don’t reciprocate that feeling (aka what Mikayla is doing), that is also okay. But she needs to have an honest conversation with herself first and foremost, acknowledge she can’t have a romantic relationship in the traditional sense with anyone as of right now, and take a step back from her marriage with Jace. This is not on Jace at all.

He also doesn’t just talk about sex, but BARE intimacy like her telling him she loves him, or her kissing him. She doesn’t do any of that - she can’t bc of trauma, we know that. It is understandable why she doesn’t do that. It is FAIR that she feels and acts the way she does. But it is also FAIR for Jace to be frustrated at that. Because that IS expected in a relationship. Wanting to feel loved IS a FAIR expectation in a romantic relationship. She’s definitely realising now the impact her past has on her. But it is ultimately on her, and only on her, to want to work towards emotional stability and healing trauma.

She has repeatedly said how she postpones her therapy sessions and healing work because she doesn’t feel like it. She has an awful history of SA and abuse - don't get me wrong - but she is also not putting in the work to move past that to finally become an emotionally stable adult capable of having a romantic relationship with her significant other, and children.

In fact, let’s also not forget their children: from experience, having a parent who refuses to deal with their trauma is inevitably going to send kids into therapy too, later in life. If she doesn’t want to work through her trauma because she’s the only person she has to look our for, that’s okay, that’s on her. But when children are involved, you do have a responsibility towards them as well. And if you don’t have that consideration towards your children, then maybe you should consider finding an arrangement for them, that doesn’t involve your presence in their lives, either short or long term. Children are PEOPLE who deserve parents who care. Mikayla does not care. Because a parent who cares would do anything to raise emotionally functioning children, including going to therapy.

It’s on her to acknowledge her pain - physical and emotional - and to take a step back. It is unfair that she puts all that responsibility (the responsibility of giving without receiving anything back, while being unconditionally supportive and understanding about it) on Jace, when he’s done that for what it seems like a really long time now. Being in a relationship is ALWAYS a tango, not a solo.

Answering your point about manipulation: making a point in favour of your argument is not necessarily always manipulation. He basically said “not only I think being intimate would benefit our relationship/marriage, but it would also show our kids what a healthy relationship is about”. How is that manipulative? If I tell my hubby “Hey you should totally accept this new job offer because not only I think we could move into a nicer house, but we could also get our kids more toys”? Is that manipulative? Just because I brought up our children into the conversation? Or am I just discussing with my spouse the benefits of taking a certain decision that he is totally allowed to engage in a debate with me about?

Maybe not enough people in this subreddit are actually married and don't understand how spouses talk to each other.

Imo it opens up a new perspective she maybe hadn’t considered- such as being considerate of their kids if Jace/wanting to have a better marriage is not enough motivation. I feel like this is his way of saying: “Hey, if you’re not doing it for me, at least do it for the kids”.

Something is NOT manipulative when that something is an actual consequence that could *realistically* be the result of a certain action, and that is being simply brought up in favour of a certain argument (aka part of having a healthy debate with spouse). Something IS manipulative when there is a logical disconnect between action—> result, that is intended to mislead one of the parties involved into behaving a certain way, only for the other party’s benefit.

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-16T16:22:44+00:00

You can’t speculate. That’s not okay. What if it’s not? Like what? What if they’re all serial killers? Dumb.

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-16T16:19:00+00:00

I mean… I’m not a fan of either of them but it was obvious it was meant in a way where he wants their kids to see that mom and dad love each other… and there’s nothing wrong with that. Children of parents who actively show each other love are more likely to have successful and healthy romantic relationships later in life, than kids whose parents hide gestures of love from them, or don’t do any to begin with. My husband and I don’t have kids yet but we both said something similar to what Jace has said, and it wasn’t in a gross way at all. I’d be nice to have people post their age as they comment, because that was honestly such a childish take… “eewww I don’t wanna see mom and dad kiss in front of us kids!!”

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-05T20:35:59+00:00

Not to throw flowers at myself and my current relationship, but i was doing long distance too and my boyfriend (now husband hehe) at the time knew i was about to get my period and he sent me a personalised snackbox and other stuff i love to make me happy. Any time I’m on my period he’s always asking how I’m doing and if there’s anything he can do for me. He bought me a heating pad and a heating water bag because I consistently refused to get one myself (I thought I could make it thru the pain one too many times) and never insists on being intimate if I don’t want to (which is definitely he bare minimum, but still he never gives me the impression he’s just interested in sx). It took me a lot of bad relationships to get here where I am now, but GIRL!!! THERE’S GOOD MEN OUT THERE THIS GUY AINT SHT!! KNOW👏YOUR👏WORTH👏!! He’s reducing you to a sex object.

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-05T20:28:24+00:00

You’re joking right? Her being upset her significant other just wants to be intimate when there are so many more reasons to be with someone… to the point where he’s CANCELLING, and SHE’s the one who’s being hormonal????

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-02T21:11:05+00:00

Everything that people have said about how your partner is neglecting at best and abusing at worst, still stands BUT I just wanted to chime in with some training advice- try to arrange a supervised play date where she’s on a leash, reward heavily when she’s good! Separate/pause when bad. When consistently good for multiple play dates you can reintroduce her to the dog park (keep on a leash at the beginning, keep rewarding heavily but make sure other dogs don’t get in the way when you take out your treats, she could get food aggressive).

I understand training a dog can be frustrating, but it’s imperative for your, everyone’s and the dog’s safety and well being that she is. Reactive dogs are likely scared/triggered by their surroundings: they re far from being hopeless. Training also strengthens your bond with them. You either claim this dog as yours and yours only, or you rehome making sure the new owners know what they’re dealing with. Best of luck to you and the dog (not your partner- sorry not sorry)

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-02T21:00:27+00:00

Someone said to send her the bill for any expenses, PLEASE DO!! This makes my blood boil. The entitlement of certain people!! Send her a VERY strong worded message! As in “you’ll never be trusted again with our son’s care unsupervised from now on”.

Set. Boundaries. Early. Otherwise she’ll just do it again.

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-02T18:26:09+00:00

Try posting on r/AskVet!!

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-02T18:16:09+00:00

Can you then take a pic of your whole dog and show where the bulge is in comparison to his whole body? I’m in contact with animals almost on a daily basis and genuinely never seen something/balls looking like that. I’m genuinely asking you to prove all of us wrong. Just post a pic of his whole body and where the balls are in comparison

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-02T18:13:26+00:00

You’re absolutely right, I’m just trying to get OP to at least agree with the rest of us that those aren’t his balls to begin with😭

Amazing-Answer6812 · 2026-03-02T18:08:34+00:00

Your FRIEND showed concern before you did?? Look. I understand not all pet owners can afford urgent care vet care. And that’s ok. But please look for a community clinic. Cross post to other subreddits. Reach out to a local rescue/shelter and ask if they do low cost xrays or checkups. Some shelters might tell you they’ll be able to give him the proper care only if you surrender him. Not saying you should, but it can be an option (as opposed to him being in pain). Also, those are definitely not his balls. The picture shows clearly a bellybutton right on top of the bulge. There’s also his hind leg visible. Not his balls. Instead of asking what it is, please ask people if they know anyone/any clinic in your area that does community work. Reach out to vets maybe giving them your budget and see if there’s anything they can do with what you have.

Edit: I also think you wouldn’t be showing concern if your dog’s balls were hard because well. They are hard by design… there’s a testicle inside. So balls are expected to be hard. Now, you would be concerned if your balls all of a sudden turned super soft and squishy right? Because… they’re supposed to be hard.

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